To think your wedding is for you, your spouse and the people there, not for 24 social media posts?

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Of course weddings are special. Of course you’ll want to post some photos. But I’ve seen a few people lately post dozens of carefully staged reels, videos, carousels, speeches, crying shots, slow-mo cake cuts… for weeks after the wedding.

At some point, it stops feeling like sharing a memory and starts feeling like milking it for validation. Especially when it’s clearly the most attention they’ve ever had and you can feel how hard they’re clinging to it.

Your wedding is for you, your spouse and the people actually there. Saving a few great clips for an anniversary post? Smart. Reliving the wedding every day for a month on Instagram? Bit much.

AIBU to think if your wedding is the only time you’re ever felt truly seen… that’s not a social media moment, that’s a self-worth issue?

haha, while I'm definitely in the one-photo-dump-and-we're-done camp, I think it's actually quite sweet. we went to a wedding a couple of months ago and I've been entertained by the bride's never ending posts from the day.

Hell, it's the most expensive party they'll ever throw so why not!

All the posts slagging me off and not ONE of you read to the end where I said I had unfollowed him 😂😂😂

My nephew got married recently. He has zero input on the wedding. Expect to submit a guest it which was edited to suit numbers. They wouldn’t disclose any colour palattes even to his mum. They hired a content creator who dictated the whole day and his wife was centre of attention the whole time. Her mum did a lovely speech which was filmed and when his dad tried to do a speech he was interrupted and told they had to go get a “sunset” photo. There were no group family photos just “artsy” shots of the guests standing round chatting. We weren’t allowed to start eating until the camera man had done a swoop down the middle of all the tables. And we had to make sure nothing was on the table except the dressing put there as decorations. It was ridiculous- however the bride looked like a supermodel and the daily posts since have been beautiful.

As I’m going to assume that the bucks party, day before the wedding, day of the wedding, and getting round to posting individual thank yous didn’t all happen on the same day, you may have unfollowed him now (as you’re desperate to point out), but you certainly gave enough of a shit, for long enough, about his wedding to witness all the SM posts you’re so scathing of! 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

I am always happy to see photos of weddings, holidays and trips, athletic and artistic accomplishments, families, pets and food. Not a massive fan of selfies but I don't need to look at them.

Honestly, if people are happy ab0ut their day let them post.

Because in most cases it's not real

It's a sanitised version of a lifenstaged for the social media likes

It's not compulsory to be on it.

If you know this about SM, and you're still on it so you can have a moan about people postage what they want, then its a you problem.

Unfollowing someone once you get bored of their content is…normal.

Yes idid. The point still stands.

Its like people in cars complaining about traffic jams

It's social media, it's not mandatory.

So what, though?

An actual wedding is also staged and sanitised. It’s got fuck-all to do with a couple’s real, day to day life. It’s a party to show off. There’s nothing wrong with that at all, but it makes me laugh when people think it’s social media that’s the frivolous/showy part, rather than literally everything else about a wedding.

Yep, it's pathetic and desperate behaviour - but so much on social media is. I'd just mute them.

Of course it is for validation, but not entirely their fault depending on the age group.
A lof of young adults mid 20's and below have grown up with a camera constantly monitoring their life, watching videos of others doing the same.
I'm guilty of constantly being on my phone too, not photographs and videos, I hate them.
DS was disappointed to hear that there was no gender reveal for him, 10 years ago when i was pregnant. He believed it is normal for everyone. No blue cake.

Cranberry juice is for cystitis.

Not married, so haven't had 'the feeling' as a PP brilliantly put it, but I enthusiastically encourage my friends, acquaintances, colleagues and relatives to share whatever they like on their socials -if it fills you with joy and we're connected, I love seeing it. Why wouldn't I?
OP, your post feels mean-spirited and has a distinct 'small' energy about it. So what if they're loving the likes; that's nice for them.

Oh no, not a small energy 😂

All these OTT postings tend to be a case of who are you trying to convince. The more overkill, the less real the relationship.

I’m not really a wedding person and I don’t post any photos online. We’ve been together for a long time and haven’t got married, but I think peoples weddings should be whatever they want. There’s no ‘it should be this’ or ‘it should be that’, just leave people be. If you don’t want to see their posts, don’t look.

I think I was paraphrasing Greta Thunberg's analysis of Andrew Tate, in a truncated way.

I agree with the OP, your wedding is for you, your spouse and the people who are there, and maybe for people who are unable to attend the SM posts are nice.Hopefully a wonderful, joyous and memorable day for everyone involved.
For anyone else it’s not that interesting.