No one else to talk to so …
Ive got 3 kids from a previous relationship who see their dad. Everything fine.
met a new man who was wonderful to begin with. Absolutely wonderful. Truly thought he was my person.
after a few years started showing the odd “mood” here n there. Anyway. Got pregnant. Baby is now 11 months old.
during pregnancy he became almost an animal. Not even human. Name calling. Humiliating. Neglectful. He had little bursts of wanting to be there for me and he did provide well for baby coming but looking back it was crumbs.
when baby was born he was great in hospital as baby was unwell when born. But after a few months he started going back to his usual self. This is a very short version of what’s happened as don’t want to bore you.
anyway……..
I left him 10 weeks ago. For good. Always had my own house with the kids as when he started to turn there was no way I was signing my life to him baby or not.
since leaving him I’ve made it clear that he cannot see baby unless he works on his anger and temper and his abusive ways because my baby doesn’t get handed over to any angry unsafe person
of course this has raged him.
yes I’ve blocked him but you can’t block email
in this 10 weeks he has told me the following:
he doesn’t want his child to turn out like my others and they are vile children that won’t mount to anything.
if I don’t give him the baby it’s gonna get really ugly for me
then he switched to “I don’t need that ginger bast* anyway meaning the baby
told me to take his name off birth certificate and that the baby doesn’t deserve his second name
he’s told me which he always did anyway that I’m fat and calls me tubs and tells me I’m an ugly broke loser with nothing and nobody will want me with 4 kids
he’s told me he was sleeping with someone else and he doesn’t care and laughed about it
he reported me to social services for “being a bad mum and having post natal depression” they closed it straight away as malicious.
because I’ve not let him see baby of course he’s not sent me a penny.
he has called all my family horrible names and contacted mr family making horrible lies about me that are not true.
honestly he has dragged me through the absolute mud. This isn’t even half of it.
just can’t bileave this is my life post partum. The up side is my children adore their new little brother he is so loved he is literally everyone’s little dolly !! They never leave him alone and they thank me for having him which melts me.
I completely ignore my ex now I’ve gone total no contact because it’s a no win situation he’s awful. He’s gone silent this week and it scares me and I don’t know why. I’m always wondering what he’s planning. Has anyone had anything similar. I don’t even know why I’m posting this. My brain feels like scrambled egg xx