Take my kids out of school for lunch

[AmyJahabee]

My 9 year old is not playing with anyone for the past week or so. So was thinking today to get her from school during lunchtime and spend time with her so she is not alone.
i would like her to play with other kids but I feel I can’t force it. We recently moved school but she has made friends with three girls (three girls have been friends since reception) and been playing with them. Up until two weeks ago she started playing by herself, I have encouraged her to persue the other girls and play with them she said I have but they just then play with her for little then get back to playing without her. What can I do to help her?
what can the teacher do to help?

She has written in her diary that one of the girls pushes her and talk over her when she is playing with one of the girls. I haven’t said anything directly but asked her repeatedly if that girl is been bad to her and she said no.

i don’t know what to do

No, you will be setting her up to expect you to take her out of any situation and not be able to develop her own solving. What happens if you can't continue it and don't have your days free? That will be a harder hit as she won't have built up any resilience or had the chance to make new friendships.

Update:
I messaged her teacher this morning and just got a message from her class teacher. Saying my daughter has already told them three weeks ago that she is not happy as she misses her old friends, the teacher then said my daughter is reluctant to make new friends. and they have been helping her ad managing the situation , she asked the school to keep it “low key” . They honoured her wishes and never told me anything until I told them..
what do they mean?
what is going on? Should I ask my daughter or leave her?
I'm a single parent and her dad is absent I don’t know what is going on, this is breaking my heart

dont ask the daughter,
ask t he teacher to clarify

That sounds like your daughter either doesn’t want you to worry, or knows you have a tendency to helicopter parent and doesn’t want you to interfere. Only you can know which is more likely.

Your daughter has talked to her teacher about it - let the school help her. They’ve been doing this since schools began, they’ll know ways to help.

With your daughter, just check in with her each evening - maybe over dinner you both talk about how your day has been. If you share (age appropriate of course) info about your day, especially elements you found tough (maybe even ask her how she would gangle something) she is more likely to open up to you and tell you what’s going on with her. Get into the habit of doing this every day so it’s just the normal thing to do for your family.

Exactly

Why is that your business?

It's not relevant.

Thank you everyone, feeling extremely sad for my daughter. Pick my daughter up from school and she was the last person to walk out from the classroom looking very sad. She said she ate by herself and just walk around not playing with anyone. Feeling sad for her.

I often do social groups for new students to help build friendships. Sometimes they are spot on, but also a lot of times don’t work out.

Your dd hasn’t found her people yet. She will.

Those posting, telling you you’re controlling or over invested. You’re not. You’ve got her back.