To ask if you get grandparent broodiness

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I don't at all. Nor did my parents. I want everyone to be happy by their own measures and values but don't want to have grandchildren come into existence so I can be a grandparent. But I know a lot of people feel really compelled by the idea.

Nope. Thankfully my eldest isnt keen on kids, so no chance of being a grandparent any time soon!

I would absolutely love to have grandchildren. Elder DC has told me absolutely not but younger DC is looking like they might. Eventually. Having said that, I fully accept that it's their choice and my granny broodiness is entirely my own issue!

I didn't and still don't. However, my grandbaby is a total joy. When we have him my time is totally devoted to him exploring the world, in a way being a parent and having a million other things to think about didn't

Grand bairns are the reward for the graft of parenthood imo.

I do not want any more though. He's enough.

i still had a child at high school when I became a granny first time….I was 50 ….it had never crossed my mind….im 60 now with 3GC ….if I didn’t have any by now I’m not sure how I would feel as all my friends and work colleagues my age are grannies

Yes! And DD is only 4 😆😂

Obviously will be happy for her whatever she does but the idea of someone new to love and squish and nurture and the opportunity to make life as easy as possible for my own DD? Can't wait.

I found being a mum to a newborn so tough so the idea of easing that for DD whilst bot having to relive it 24 hours a day is so exciting!

I could have written the exact same post. I wasn't particularly bothered about having grandchildren but now 3 year old dgs is here, oh what a joy. What I lack in energy I more than make up in patience and enthusiasm. He really is the light of my life. I'm sure I'll love having more grandchildren if that's how it pans out but at the moment I'm more than happy with just the one.

Lol I had one in infant school

Not quite sure I understand the post above about enjoying them without having a million other things to do though. Sounds as though grandparents have nothing to do except spend time enjoying grandkids. Whereas many of us have full time jobs, active social lives etc etc

So did I with all the stress of GCSEs and A levels. We were still busy being parents. Do love our five grandchildren though.

I had 4 DC of my own and I loved and enjoyed them immensely but I have never wanted to be a grandma. In fact I rather dread the idea. Lucky for me one daughter is gay and doesn’t want kids ,second daughter doesn’t want to bring a child into a world that’s going down the pan, son number 1 has just had a vasectomy. I’m not sure about son number 2 but I get the feeling he’s not interested.

What’s there to dread?… very odd

I'd imagine the expectation of helping with childcare? Or even just being around small children a lot again for years, lots of people aren't actually that keen even when they have their own kids.

My 14 year old has pissed me right off today so hard no at the moment!!

Ah. My daughter is gay, so unless we can help fund it we won't get grandkids. If she decides to, we'll hopefully be able to help. If not, we'll love her and her partner and be one of those annoying people that will refer to our dogs as fur babies and fur grgrandbabies. Having grandchildrenis a lovely idea and I hope I have them, but, it's my daughter's choice and I respect that

I have four kids and am a bit worried I could have an influx of grandchildren in the space of a few years. I just hope it is not until I have retired ! Whilst I have no desire for them at the moment I can see a point in a few years time where I would enjoy them and want to be as involved as possible. My mil once said ( in relation to our children) that she was too old to have grandchildren which i felt was sad. She was in her seventies and unwell so I get where she was coming from. I hope I am young enough and fit enough to help out/ enjoy them if I am lucky enough to have some one day.

Christ no. I’m late 40’s with 3 step grandchildren and two kids still at school! The amount of childcare their parents ask for and expect is crazy.

We have 5 kids between me and DH so we're bound to have grandchildren and I can't wait! Obviously I love kids otherwise I wouldn't have had so many so I'm really looking forward to having grandkids.

I did have my kids very young though so I'll still be working even if they wait until their 30s before having kids so I probably won't be able to help with childcare.

I can’t say it’s something I’ve brooded over but if it was to happen I’d be delighted. It’s not something I’ve ever discussed with my sons, both of whom are in their early 30s. One is married and the other is living with his long term partner so we’ll see though from what I can tell there are no plans afoot but who knows. Whilst we won’t see the parents stuck, one thing both my husband & I are adamant about is we won’t do regular childcare and any we do do will be on our terms.

I couldn’t have kids. I thought I’d be sad at not.being a grandma but now that I am of an age to be one I find it doesn’t matter. I have a nephew and he is enough.

When my eldest grandchild was 14 and being a stroppy teen, I told my dd that was payback for her being a stroppy teen to me lol

No, I wasn’t bothered at all. I have 5 adult grandkids, but my ACs made their own decisions about having children.

I’d love to have grandchildren, I am 54 and would like to be a young , involved nanna. Can’t see it happening anytime soon though.

i would privately be sad for my dc if this didnt happen

i do have one on the way though, which is rather nerve wracking

One of my DC is still in school but two of my closest friends have become professional grandparents. You’d think they had no life before GC and strangely, they seem to pity me. And if I hear ‘I am soooo blessed’ one more time …

My mum just laughed when l told her!

Both my DC are mid 30s and still saying they won't have DC (they've never had the desire) so unlikely I will be a GP. I really don't mind. I think there are a lot of pros to not having children. I don't regret having them myself but I'm not sure I'd have them in todays world either.

If one should happen to have a child then of course I would love it but I certainly don't pine to be a GP and won't feel I've "missed out" if it doesn't happen.