AIBU to skip this part of the Hen Party?

[HenDilemma]

I’m due to attend a hen party next year. The suggested plans for it are spread over a few days. The second day includes something that I’m not ok with attending for personal ethical reasons. Would you skip just that day/event or would it be best to skip it entirely? I’ve no interest in lecturing the other guests with my views but it’s definitely not something that I’m comfortable with attending.

So what would you do? Skip that part or skip the whole thing? I’m happy to do either especially if that allows someone else to attend who’d appreciate the whole thing.

TIA

I'd have a previous commitment on that day but attend the rest of it.

I would probably miss day 2 altogether

Is it butlers in the buff or drag queen brunch? Both tedious and can see why you’d skip! Are you going away for.it?

You could also even just attend the one day to avoid any awkward conversations about the activity on the second day. So could say you unfortunately have plans the second and third day but would love to come to the first day.

Oh come on you can’t just post that without telling us what the bad thing is!

Seriously, get a migraine

If this is anything to do with animals then good on you I say👏 😀

Although if its for ethical reasons good for you whatever it is 😇

I’d just do the first day.

is it local?

I'd skip. I'd say now before I was counted in numbers for the cost of that particular part of the event and meet up with everyone after/for the rest of the do

I'd just make up some sort of prior commitment that I had to do for that part.

We’d be traveling for it(Though within the UK) so I’m a little reluctant to take up a space that someone else who might enjoy the whole thing, could have.

Stripper/s of some sort.
Id skip it too.
Invent a prior engagement that day.

Would the bride be disappointed if you dint go at all?

How close are you to the hen?

I'd invent a relative somewhere nearby who needed accompanying to a medical appointment that day, which I'd be able to return from afterwards

I think that’s very thoughtful of you (really not impressed with a bride doing a 3 day hen but there we are). I’d drop out of the one day.

Apart from the unethical activity do you actually want to go?

If you feel able to, I'd say why and that you hope it's OK if you sit that part out. For example, I'd probably avoid gambling as I find the thought stressful and not fun and if someone was asking me to do it I'd asked to be excused as I'm just not comfortable with it.

Are you expected to pay for whatever it is ?

I'd skip it altogether.

I’m close to the bride but not super close as in we aren’t in best friends category.

It would depend on how well I knew the bride
but probably skip whole thing

How would that work? Get a migraine a year in advance or pay for the activity, get a migraine and waste money on something you don’t intend to do?

I’d just skip that bit and tell the bride why. If she’s a friend she will understand, presumably she knows you.

This is easier if you have a thick skin.

I don’t understand the attitude of having to do something someone else wants just because they are getting married. I’d hate to force one of my friends to do something they didn’t want to.

What a load of nonsense.

An extended hen party that includes events dubious enough to be offensive to some of those attending?

What has this got to do with a bride preparing for her married life?

Personally i'd be telling the bride to enjoy herself, if that's her thing, but I won't be attending.

But the brides invited you so don’t worry about other people going.
If you’d enjoy the unrest of the trip then go. I’d personally have a word with the bride and if she’s a friend she’ll understand you missing day 2

I’d be totally honest that the activity / event wasn’t for me so I’d go but sit that bit out. If you say it in the group chat you might find that others agree with you but didn’t have the gumption to say it.