Mounjaro people, advice please

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Just been asked if I’m pregnant. Partner is against Mounjaro because of potential side effects and luckily tells me I’m perfect. But I’m not. I’m 4 stone overweight. I was trying to lose weight by walking, cutting down crap etc. but being perimenopausal isn’t helping.

I am surrounded by success stories of mounjaro.

I think I’m going to do it. I’d rather not tell partner. I do feel ashamed. Will I be able eat “normally” in terms of meals, when I’ll be with him?

Oh yes, I really do.
NGL I've been frustrated at how long it has taken me comppared to others, and I didn't budget for the cost of buying monthly injections for 18 months and still counting!! I still have another stone to lose to reach a healthy BMI so will continue.
But my body was so unbelievably resistant to ever losing weight using 'traditional' methods (years of SW, WW etc. with no weight loss success) and now 18 months to lose 4 stone even with top dose MJ, that it has led me to believe I genuinely suffer from some sort of genetic fat disorder where my body lays down huge levels of fat stores and fights hard against any action taken to try and lose this fat. I have no clue what type of medical condition that is, but I truly believe I have a metabolic disorder of some kind. I'd actually like to offer myself up for medical research to find out why my body stores so much fat and battles so fiercely against losing it!!
Anyhow well done on your super fast weight loss, you've achieved so much in a short time, and I'm glad you're feeling great!🤗

And for a lot of people that’s not possible and even if they did the weight doesn’t just come off.

Exercise has never helped me lose much weight. It helps me maintain but not lose.

It would be a shame if your partner's beliefs about obesity medication was enough to put you off taking the opportunity to try them and see if they can help you with your weight loss. So, tell him, or don't tell him, but either way make the decision about your health without factoring his beliefs into that decision.

If you can, I would tell him. If he's kind, calm and supportive then he surely should be able to listen to your reasoning and be rational about it. It seems like a lot of people ignore or don't realise the ongoing risks to health from being obese, and so don't factor those into their thought processes. Perhaps your partner has fallen into that logic error.

You get the two aren’t mufualiy exclusive right? You can exercise and use the drugs, many do, I myself gym about six days a week. So can you explain what point you’re trying to make.

im sure its not you think all fat people are lazy and greedy? Right?

What point are you making? It's very clear that on a society-wide level, people aren't going to put in lots of effort into eating less and moving more (leaving aside the debate as to how effective that is in the long term, and all the ways in which it's not that simple for many people for financial, time-related and other reasons). Years of public health campaigns about healthy eating and exercise, etc., had no impact on rising obesity rates. There is now a way to safely lose weight that has great results. Whether you think it's better to do it the hard way is immaterial, because you can't make people do what you think they should do.

Actually you’re in the majority, 80 percent of people have no side effects, I think just people are more likely to post if they do.

I’ve lost 5.5 stones and no side effects. I feel like a new me. So much more confidence. Discuss pros and cons with your partner in order for him to see both sides. I think you would find it hard to hide it from him as you have to store in fridge before use and also it’s deceitful and could damage your relationship if he found out you kept it from him.
I kept it to myself for a long time then told people and they were very supportive.

Firstly, you shouldn't feel ashamed. I've been there so I understand why you do but obesity is a disease and it's really not your fault.
Secondly, you're an adult. It's not up to your DH what medication you take. He may be trying to be helpful but really he's not. MJ is a prescription medication which treats a disease.
For me, it was life changing (I've lost 5 1/2 stone now and have been eating healty for over a year - not something that would ever have happened without it. I finally understand that being overweight wasn't a lifestyle choice and it wasn't my fault. With my GLP1 regulated properly I can lose weight like other non-fat people who don't have this hormone of of sync.
Yes, there are side effects. They have those for the asthma meds I need to take. Nobody ever counsels me against taking those even though the long term effects of inhaled steroids are well known. There are also long term side effects to the PPI I've been taking for years and now don't have to take anymore since I've lost weight.
Try it and see for yourself. If you get side effects you can deal with them. Probably you won't or they'll be mild. Almost certainly, you'll lose weight and feel a lot better about yourself.

Thank you all.

I ordered it this morning. I will tell my OH I’m on a diet and then tell him, but for now, I’m going to keep it to myself to get my head round it.

To address the gym poster, I actually live 30 secs from the gym. But it doesn’t open till 6.30am. I leave the house before 7.30am and also have to get my kids ready for school / drop them to where they need to be, and walk the dog. I get up early for those but I can’t force the gym to open earlier so I can be back for the kids. I get home fairly late sometimes and again - dog and kids, dinner, then I’m just done.

Regarding my other half - he met me slimmer and likes me any way. He is so supportive and does anything for me, so I will tell him at some point. All he’s seen is scare stories on FB.

Thank you to everyone that has been kind and supportive.

You have to keep it in the fridge so chances are he’d see it anyway?

I didn’t tell my DP for the first week (I’m only on my third week) and he didn’t notice but then I told him as it felt too big not to tell him.

You can easily find a way of concealing it in the fridge if needs be, it’s not a massive sticking point. But better if you are able to discuss it with him. Good luck with it, and do join one of the month support threads when you get started. There will probably be a December starters thread that might work for your timings.

I’ve always exercised regularly and was walking 20k steps a day and was still obese until I started MJ.

If you don't live together it will be ok.
I didn't tell mine for ages. I inject on a Tuesday and normally by Friday/Saturday can enjoy some wine and food fairly normally albeit just want less than before.

I did tell him in the end and he was of course fine about it and understood why I hadn't shared it earlier. I think it would be difficult not to tell a partner you live with but some people don't.

You don’t eat normally. I serve myself very small portions so at home it’s not do bad. Eating out though it’s obvious. I can’t finish half a plate. Just tell him you’re doing it. I lost 4stone and feel amazing

I did tell my DF but if I hadn’t he wouldn’t have noticed other than the weight loss and lift in mood . No side effects I am just drinking much more water and eating smaller portions at mealtimes not snacking. I jab on a Sunday as it can wear off towards the end of the week. So if I socialise at the weekend I may have a little more give. Working well . Started very end of June and I have lost just under 3 stone so slow and steady. No shame needed and when you start it you will see that . Good luck op

As much as I find it concerning when you can’t tell a partner or hesitate to, I think being on a diet does explain change in eating patterns, and I never had an issue in restaurants, I ordered light food, like seafood and a salad, so was able to consume it all, and watched what I ate in the day before hand.

You really shouldn’t be ashamed of taking Mounjaro. It’s just a tool to help you achieve a healthy weight. You’re not fat because you’re bad or have no willpower, you’re overweight because of a combination of lifestyle, hormones, environment ect ect. Like any other tool it can be misused and some people get on better with it than others, but the data shows that serious side effects are rare. Like any diet you’ll be much healthier long term and have more chance of keeping the weight off if you change lifestyle and eat healthier rather than just rely on it to eat less of the normal stuff.

I’d encourage you to tell your partner not least because I’m against hiding £1000 or so of expenses from a partner, but if you really don’t want to then yes you will be able to eat normal meals. You’ll get full quicker so prioritise high protein and fibre and reduce carbs. As others have said that would hardly be a surprising choice on any diet.

Update. I told partner after the first week.

At first he was upset I hadn’t told him - we are getting married and he didn’t like that I couldn’t / wouldn’t tell him.

He is fine now…. And wants to do it himself!

I think part of the reason I didn’t want to tell him because I felt a failure and unattractive. And didn’t want him to think the same. He doesn’t - he said he thinks I’m fit as, and perfect already. I explained how I felt and I think he gets it.

I’ve lost 6lb. Still get hungry, which I’m glad about. I want to be able maintain when I’m off it and need to learn to manage my hunger.

I have been having more protein, a lot less alcohol, avoiding biscuits etc. Drinking more water (hate water and usually just survive on coffee and Pepsi max, but it’s easier to drink water now). Portions are smaller (I could easily match my 6’4”, 18.5 stone partner portion wise, and he has a very active job… I don’t).

Thank you for your responses x

I’m thrilled for you! what a relief

so happy he’s supportive, that will really help you.