Bully not invited to my childs party

[Mellyt3lly]

Hi, My childs is having a birthday party soon for there 9th birthday. We are handing out invites next week. However yesterday at school. Another child aggressively and completely unprovoked attacked my child, which left my child completely petrified and had to be sent home early with potentially broken fingers (thankfully all ok)
Now ive been told by my child that they dont want to invite this other child to the party with what I think is a perfectly acceptable reason but this would mean the whole class is invited apart from one. I have no way of giving out invites any other way. AIBU to just send the invites into school.

Surely you have some numbers from other years rsvping to her party, or from you rsvping to others parties?

I’d have no issue with leaving out a child who caused an injury that led to suspected broken bones (I’m assuming very painful and visibly bruised or swollen). To be honest I’d slightly judge a parent who told their child they still had to have that person at their party.
You’d never expect an adult to put up with it, and while obviously adults and children very reasonably have different expectations put on them, I dont think “not having to be around someone who was incredibly violent towards you” is a boundary just for adults.

I think it’s reasonable not to invite the bully.

However, I think it’s unreasonable to hand out the invites at school.

You were going to invite this child, who you say has bullied others. But then they hurt your child, so the invite is rescinded.

I think as long as this child is an actual bully, and your kid isn't a bit of an arsehole as well, then I can understand you leaving the bully out.

If it's tit for tat though, you need to stop being so precious.

Don't make this the teacher's problem. Hand out the invites yourself or don't have the party.