Was I being unreasonable to say this to MIL

[Tina5]

Lately MIL is asking DH all the time if DD has broken up with her BF (not so much to me though) we keep telling her no but every time we go round or speak on phone she will again ask if DD has broken up with BF. I said to MIL on phone today why do you keep asking cos it’s getting irritating to us that you keep asking the same question all the time about DD she then got offended and said to me I don’t like what you just said I haven’t said it a few times I said yes you have. WIBU to say this to her?

Seems an odd question to ask

What's the backstory? Is the boyfriend a nob and this is just a concerned grandma hoping her grandchild gives him the boot? Seems an odd question to keep asking otherwise.

I would have just asked why she keeps asking. I wouldn't have added the part about it being irritating.

How old is she? Is she forgetting she's asked?

I feel like we are missing something crucial here. Is the boyfriend a problem? Is Nan concerned?

Surely she’s not asking you the question so it’s not your place to answer it?

Has she noticed the boyfriend is acting like a twat and is hoping for the best? Or does she actually forget she’s asking? Seems a bit weird if it’s coming out of nowhere

Does she ask other odd questions? Asking the same thing can be an early sign of dementia or a UTI. I hope your DH is much more understanding to him mum.

She does ask me the question but asks my husband more

Does your daughter keep dropping boyfriends on a weekly basis? Has she told her grandmother that she's not happy with him? Did she tell her that she's thinking of dumping this one? Is he a dick and mil is hoping that she will? There's lots of possibilities that none of us are privy to.

Maybe she is just asking how they’re doing but wording it wrong

I can easily imagine this exact conversation betwen me and my mum or me and my MIL. But it wouldn't be a big deal. I'd express some irritation. She'd get defensive. We'd all roll our eyes and move on.

A little unreasonable. I think you could have chopped the second half off and just asked why. To start with at least 😆

Why is she asking?

MIL is asking DH all the time

Why are you getting involved?

I'd want to know why she's asking, has DD confided in nan about him?

Me too, that's why I voted YABU.

I would want to know why she continues to ask the question? Either she doesn't know she's already asked it, or there is some other reason she is expecting the response to change.

Why does she keep asking? Does she say have they broken up or does she say are they still together? Slightly difference-particularly if they are very young.

what's the backstory?

If there's none, just say no, they're planning their engagement. That should shut her up 😂

This thread is hitting Mumsnet bingo! ✅️ Asshole MIL! ✅️Sepsis?! ✅️Dementia?! Just need someone to ask if you're grumpy because of peri menopause and it's a full house!

And what does she say when you ask her why she's asking?

if the grand-daughter is old enough to have that kind of boyfriend, the MIL must too old for peri-menopause 😂

Has she actually forgotten that she'd actually asked previously? That could be a whole new ball game.

This is clearly out of character, it's obviously playing on her mind, so find out why.

She might think he's not very nice, she might have seen him with someone else, for example. Don't jump to her having dementia if it's one question and one thing bothering her.