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My Christmas expenses look to be totalling over £1000

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Xmasdemon · 22/11/2025 09:57

This includes decor including a tree, lights, garlands, a door wreath and other little pieces; outfits for self and child in family; presents and money gifts. Is this crazy or is this just the price of Xmas ?

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Empress13 · 26/11/2025 07:44

If you can afford it OP then do what makes you happy. Do try The Range, B&M etc for decs tho I’m guessing a lot will have sold out by now since they’ve been selling them since October

Terrytheweasel · 26/11/2025 08:04

JudgeBread · 26/11/2025 07:32

Yes thank you I'm not a moron, but if the OP is worrying about how much she's spending each year that's one annual expense she can do away with quite easily by buying one quality artificial tree that will last for years. Which was my point. Sorry I didn't realise I needed to spell it out in single syllables.

Oh I don’t know, you do sound like one. Buying all of that plastic will cost her more, and she is concerned about this years spends from what I can gather, so shelling out 500 on a tree isn’t a great solution. Great input though 👍

EmeraldShamrock000 · 26/11/2025 08:07

Easily and more.
I don't need any decorations, haven't made plans to get new clothes, the dc are getting an expensive pc but it should last for years, next year, I'll be cutting back.

venus7 · 26/11/2025 08:54

Happyher · 26/11/2025 06:11

No it’s incinerated and used and the power generated to provide electricity and heating to homes and businesses around the city. Paper, card, glass, cans, plastic bottles and green waste is recycled

So what matter does your waste consist of?

Ihatetomatoes · 26/11/2025 09:07

MsSquiz · 22/11/2025 09:58

They’re all things you’ve chosen to buy so you’ve made Christmas that price 🤷🏻‍♀️

This.

You've swallowed the must do as per social media hype @Xmasdemon .

Christmas can be simple or expensive. That's up to you. Don't let others tell you what you 'should' be doing, since you pay for it.

Ihatetomatoes · 26/11/2025 09:10

Don't blow your savings on Christmas. You may need them for something more important.

Motomum23 · 26/11/2025 09:21

Probably OTT if you are using savings. I have 4 kids and have spent 100 -ish each on them, plus £40 on fabric to make Xmas pj's for them. Food will be probably £100 more than normal and my DH and I will probably spend about £30 per person on small gifts. ... oh actually my food bill is mostly covered by asda reward points saved so you can deduct that. But that's a big family and it's less than half your budget.

Happyher · 26/11/2025 09:31

venus7 · 26/11/2025 08:54

So what matter does your waste consist of?

Just the same as anyone else?? My WEEE goods go to a charity that recycles or breaks them down for scrap value, anything else that I can’t put in the bins I either sell through my unit in a vintage store or take to my recycling centre. As far as I’m aware nothing goes to landfill from me

venus7 · 26/11/2025 09:35

Happyher · 26/11/2025 09:31

Just the same as anyone else?? My WEEE goods go to a charity that recycles or breaks them down for scrap value, anything else that I can’t put in the bins I either sell through my unit in a vintage store or take to my recycling centre. As far as I’m aware nothing goes to landfill from me

Sorry; I wasn't clear. I meant waste; ie that which can't be reused or recycled.
Incineration is as bad environmentally, if not worse, than landfill.
I think the purpose of many answers is pointing out that reduction is vital.

Happyher · 26/11/2025 10:17

venus7 · 26/11/2025 09:35

Sorry; I wasn't clear. I meant waste; ie that which can't be reused or recycled.
Incineration is as bad environmentally, if not worse, than landfill.
I think the purpose of many answers is pointing out that reduction is vital.

https://www.sheffield.veolia.co.uk/dealing-waste/district-energy-sheffield-heat-network/benefits

But really OP was asking if she’d spent too much. If she can afford to it’s not a problem. Everyone spends their money how they choose and if they don’t run up credit card bills then they’re doing nothing wrong. Do you consider whether an item can be recycled every time you buy something?

The Benefits

All about the economic, efficiency, service, reliability and environmental benefits of District Heating Energy Networks in Sheffield.

https://www.sheffield.veolia.co.uk/dealing-waste/district-energy-sheffield-heat-network/benefits

venus7 · 26/11/2025 10:23

Happyher · 26/11/2025 10:17

https://www.sheffield.veolia.co.uk/dealing-waste/district-energy-sheffield-heat-network/benefits

But really OP was asking if she’d spent too much. If she can afford to it’s not a problem. Everyone spends their money how they choose and if they don’t run up credit card bills then they’re doing nothing wrong. Do you consider whether an item can be recycled every time you buy something?

That's produced by a vested interest, so will only mention the positives; hardly compelling!
I consider the recycling possibility of almost everything I buy; wish that more would.

Xmasdemon · 26/11/2025 12:51

venus7 · 26/11/2025 10:23

That's produced by a vested interest, so will only mention the positives; hardly compelling!
I consider the recycling possibility of almost everything I buy; wish that more would.

I would like to have my life straightened out to the point where I had the inclination, time and energy to recycle more, but I just don't. I have too much other things on my mind to think about the environment. Plus, don't drive, so can't donate or sell easily. But maybe I'm making up for that ie CO2

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nonevernotever · 27/11/2025 20:12

How did you get on with making a wreath @Xmasdemon ?

Xmasdemon · 27/11/2025 21:19

nonevernotever · 27/11/2025 20:12

How did you get on with making a wreath @Xmasdemon ?

I haven't done it ! Realized I don't have a good knife. I might just buy a fake one I can reuse next year, as I've cut down my Xmas basket down to less than half and I'm feeling happy with the new approximate price. I'm going to not waste money on fancy garlands etc but just use tinsel.

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CocoPlum · 28/11/2025 07:43

Xmasdemon · 27/11/2025 21:19

I haven't done it ! Realized I don't have a good knife. I might just buy a fake one I can reuse next year, as I've cut down my Xmas basket down to less than half and I'm feeling happy with the new approximate price. I'm going to not waste money on fancy garlands etc but just use tinsel.

My wreath was £7.99 in aldi, it's a nice one although I'll add some more decor to it to zhuzh it up a bit!

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 28/11/2025 12:29

CocoPlum · 28/11/2025 07:43

My wreath was £7.99 in aldi, it's a nice one although I'll add some more decor to it to zhuzh it up a bit!

I did that for years, adding little bits to lift it. Pine cones and ribbon mainly, and I got some fake berries in the January sale that I kept for the next Christmas

nonevernotever · 28/11/2025 13:27

Edited to add paragraphs and to apologise for the length. There's just something about your posts that really resonated with me.

I use my kitchen scissors 🤣. Lots of shops sell really basic ones for under £10 that look great even if you just tie on a new piece of ribbon or add a few bits , and mostly you can take any fresh stuff off the base and reuse the fake stuff in following years.

The sorts of things we add range from dried orange slices, (do tte' yourself in the oven and tie them on with string) pinecones,(picked up in the local park) bundles of fresh rosemary, cinnamon sticks (the Indian spice packets in the local shop are much the cheapest - probably because it's not true cinnamon, but it looks and smells as good) , clumps of fir (or leylandii....) sprigs of holly or trails of ivy( from the nearest railway embankment!) for the neighbour who likes natural or ribbon, tinsel (we save all the bits that break off other decorations) and cheapy fairy lights mixed with a few really cheap small plastic baubles for the neighbour who likes bling, and you know what, even despite our lack of skill, they all look good.

We also really enjoy the time we spend making them. We book a couple of hours, play Christmas music, eat mince pies, drink tea or wine, gossip and share the bits and pieces we've each brought and it's fab. If you haven't got friends or neighbours nearby , would your children be up for jazzing one up with you?

As others have said, so much of the good Christmas memories is not about the material stuff, but about doing things together and that love and time is the key. We used to walk round the local streets between tea and bed time looking at all the Christmas trees in people's windows and choosing which ones we liked best. My nieces say that those are some of their best memories, along with the wet weekend afternoons when we would haul a duvet off one of the beds, make hot chocolate and watch a movie all snuggled up together on the sofa. Combine that with a picky tea served as a picnic on the living room floor and they were in heaven!

I get the impression that you've had such an awful time over the years that your self esteem and confidence are through the floor, but good for you in taking the steps needed to get you and your children out of the crap a nd into a better way forward.

If you've reduced your basket by half it sounds as though you are finding the balance that is right for you in not spending all your savings, but working out what is most important to you so that you can enjoy Christmas too.

Xmasdemon · 28/11/2025 15:21

nonevernotever · 28/11/2025 13:27

Edited to add paragraphs and to apologise for the length. There's just something about your posts that really resonated with me.

I use my kitchen scissors 🤣. Lots of shops sell really basic ones for under £10 that look great even if you just tie on a new piece of ribbon or add a few bits , and mostly you can take any fresh stuff off the base and reuse the fake stuff in following years.

The sorts of things we add range from dried orange slices, (do tte' yourself in the oven and tie them on with string) pinecones,(picked up in the local park) bundles of fresh rosemary, cinnamon sticks (the Indian spice packets in the local shop are much the cheapest - probably because it's not true cinnamon, but it looks and smells as good) , clumps of fir (or leylandii....) sprigs of holly or trails of ivy( from the nearest railway embankment!) for the neighbour who likes natural or ribbon, tinsel (we save all the bits that break off other decorations) and cheapy fairy lights mixed with a few really cheap small plastic baubles for the neighbour who likes bling, and you know what, even despite our lack of skill, they all look good.

We also really enjoy the time we spend making them. We book a couple of hours, play Christmas music, eat mince pies, drink tea or wine, gossip and share the bits and pieces we've each brought and it's fab. If you haven't got friends or neighbours nearby , would your children be up for jazzing one up with you?

As others have said, so much of the good Christmas memories is not about the material stuff, but about doing things together and that love and time is the key. We used to walk round the local streets between tea and bed time looking at all the Christmas trees in people's windows and choosing which ones we liked best. My nieces say that those are some of their best memories, along with the wet weekend afternoons when we would haul a duvet off one of the beds, make hot chocolate and watch a movie all snuggled up together on the sofa. Combine that with a picky tea served as a picnic on the living room floor and they were in heaven!

I get the impression that you've had such an awful time over the years that your self esteem and confidence are through the floor, but good for you in taking the steps needed to get you and your children out of the crap a nd into a better way forward.

If you've reduced your basket by half it sounds as though you are finding the balance that is right for you in not spending all your savings, but working out what is most important to you so that you can enjoy Christmas too.

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I just feel bad that a lot of my DCs Xmas memories were bad because of my alcoholic ex... and the years since have felt sort of empty just us. Maybe it's an age thing as well... My teen DC helping prepare for xmas and making Xmas memories is the last thing they would want to do lol. You are right I feel like I've hit the ground lately and am still pulling myself up off of it somehow. But I know throwing money at things won't work. Money I can't really afford. I will definitely look on home bargains and Aldi for cheap wreaths, they cost a fortune for what they are online. I think I was being incredibly silly when I made this post, and I'm glad I haven't bought anything yet as I've had some great balanced advice on here

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L4kdro · 28/11/2025 15:24

Xmasdemon · 28/11/2025 15:21

I just feel bad that a lot of my DCs Xmas memories were bad because of my alcoholic ex... and the years since have felt sort of empty just us. Maybe it's an age thing as well... My teen DC helping prepare for xmas and making Xmas memories is the last thing they would want to do lol. You are right I feel like I've hit the ground lately and am still pulling myself up off of it somehow. But I know throwing money at things won't work. Money I can't really afford. I will definitely look on home bargains and Aldi for cheap wreaths, they cost a fortune for what they are online. I think I was being incredibly silly when I made this post, and I'm glad I haven't bought anything yet as I've had some great balanced advice on here

I don’t think you were silly just worried. All your kids will want is peace and cosy times with you. You not going into the new year beside yourself with worry over Christmas debt will be an added bonus for them .

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 29/11/2025 18:33

Xmasdemon · 28/11/2025 15:21

I just feel bad that a lot of my DCs Xmas memories were bad because of my alcoholic ex... and the years since have felt sort of empty just us. Maybe it's an age thing as well... My teen DC helping prepare for xmas and making Xmas memories is the last thing they would want to do lol. You are right I feel like I've hit the ground lately and am still pulling myself up off of it somehow. But I know throwing money at things won't work. Money I can't really afford. I will definitely look on home bargains and Aldi for cheap wreaths, they cost a fortune for what they are online. I think I was being incredibly silly when I made this post, and I'm glad I haven't bought anything yet as I've had some great balanced advice on here

You'd be surprised what teens will want to get involved with. They might grunt and whine but secretly they'll be loving it and they'll want to give those memories to their families one day.

Ginmonkeyagain · 30/11/2025 10:34

I thought about this thread today as in the last three days my boiler has sprung a leak and the oven has developed a fault. I await the news on costs once engineers have been next week, but best case scenario it will be at least £300, worse case we may be looking at a new boiler and oven. I would not have wanted to have spent all my savings on Christmas and be in this situation.

AmusedOpalShaker · 30/11/2025 10:44

I’ve done all of ours for about £120ish or so. Christmas is what you make it, I guess.

I would leave the money in savings if I were you, but I also understand the temptation.

Poppy123xyz · 30/11/2025 10:50

Xmasdemon · 22/11/2025 10:04

I so want to try cut it down a little. I usually buy a real tree or buy a cheap one and throw it out at new years as I don't have a loft

You throw it out? I hope you meant give it to a charity, otherwise it's just adding to landfill. I don't have a loft either, I still manage to store things.

aLFIESMA · 30/11/2025 17:21

Re your latest-I don't think you were 'being silly' at all Xmasdemon, it's understandable to question things when life has been chaotic. Hopefully you are feeling a little calmer now & in charge of Xmas spending.
Try to stay positive and I hope you & your family enjoy this season x

Xmasdemon · 01/12/2025 18:07

Thank you @aLFIESMA and Merry Christmas to you and your family too

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