AIBU to regret strongly worded grievance?

[trustyrustie]

A particularly nasty situation arose at work where amongst other things two men tried to put me on an action plan after I took emergency leave for dependents. They told me they checked with HR who said they were allowed to. They also allowed a trainee manager to look at my health data. There were other parts to it aswell.

I felt completely backed into a corner and I didn’t know who to turn to for help so Iput a grievance in to HR but because I was so distressed after just going through a trauma it was really strongly worded and about seven pages long where I told him I thought they were acting illegally towards me and discriminatory.

Ive since told them I regret the wording and they upheld the two above points

The grievance is closed and we’ve had a meeting to smooth things over.

AIBU to feel complete shame about the seven page rant quoting all kinds of laws when it probably could’ve been about three paragraphs?

I feel like they all think I’m a complete loony i’ve been working there for 17 years and I’ve never put a grievance in about anything or anybody.

YABU and way too hard on yourself! Their actions sound deplorable and you did nothing wrong in pointing that out and advocating for yourself.

I'm sorry you've suffered a tough time. After 17 years of loyalty, they should have had much more compassion for you. Things will settle. Go into the new year having left it all behind.

Honestly I’ve seen grievance letters that were 20+ pages long. Anyone who has reached the point of raising a grievance is usually pretty emotional about what has happened, and so letters tend to be quite long.
Also people are often worried about not being taken seriously, so they tend to add in as much detail as possible to try to show that they’ve got good reason to be raising it etc.
it might take you some time, but try to hold your head high - they upheld parts of your grievance, so clearly you were right to raise it.

I appreciate a very brief grievance - they tend to be ridiculously long and repetitious. My pet hate is when it’s just endless prose and not even broken down in to easy to digest headers.

That said, yours won’t have been the worse they’ve seen.

Just praying you didn’t use lots of CAPITAL LETTERS AND EXCLAMATION MARKS!!! 😂

😂😂😂😂 mad bastard me

I too would feel a bit…. Red faced in your shoes!

OMG

Having read your last thread, I imagine this grievance was nothing short of mind blowingly hysterical!!!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4836977-to-call-this-an-assault

Nah, it was a thing of beauty

Not really.

If they upheld your grievance I imagine they are a bit red faced.

83% thought you were unreasonable.

Honestly, thinking you were “assaulted” 😂

Naaah what a women. I actually don’t think we’re angry enough. Fuck these men, and well done!!

Meh, it's all been sorted out. Some of the forms I've read have clearly been cathartic for the writer, but entirely useless for the actual purpose of the document (and some of the meetings have been absolutely insane).

If it was under seventeen pages of scribble getting deeper and deeper until the desk holds a permanent engraving of the sheer indignity of being expected to not go on about being a Freeman of the Land and refusing to have a security pass because it would mean accepting they had a Government Name, you're golden.

And in any case, it's incredibly unlikely that the two concerned have the slightest idea of the precise wording of your form.

However, for balance, on the occasions I've had to submit one either for myself or when helping somebody else, they have consisted of around 3 lines or fewer. It makes life so much easier when it can be read at a glance - any additional details can follow in the investigation.

What on earth does her thread from over 2 years ago about shopping have to do with this? This is probably why people name change for every thread