Nativity play

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So my daughter came home really upset for not getting cast as angel one in the school play after weeks of practicing the lines
should i email the school or AIBU?

Was she told she’d be the Angel and learned the lines because of that? Or did she just decide to learn them off her own bat?

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More context needed.
Was she told she could have the part? Was she told to practice for the role? What has she been cast as?

Why did she learn lines without knowing if she had the part or not? Then I can determine if YABU or not.

Sometimes you dont get the things you want

Thats life

Oh it's that time of year again
Nature is healing

I'm guessing that she learned the lines to try and win the part?

She didn't get the part. That is just tough luck, but a good life lesson. Life is full of disappointments. Please don't complain to the school. You'll make yourself look foolish.

Say nothing at all to the school. Why was she expecting the part? She didn't get it and just has to accept that, with your support.

What do you think the school would do about it (apart from laugh, eye roll and sigh at your email)? Take the part off whoever they've already given it to?

And what about the child who did get the part? After they to be made stand down and replaced with your child? Take it as a life lesson

I think you need to tell us more.

Why did she learn the lines if she hadn't been told she had this part
OR
What has she done / not done, that the school actually did change their minds about her having the part.

To just post the question as you have, YAdefinitelyBU.

Why has she been practicing lines of parts she might not get?

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I remember one acquaintance's crazy reaction when her daughter was cast as something other than an angel. She bought the other assigned outfit and the angel outfit, made her try them both on, then posted pictures on social media asking us all which we thought was cuter and what we all thought she should be cast as. Result was a poor confused child, now even sadder that she wasn't going to be an angel. I bet the teacher didn't need that extra hassle, parents have to accept that their child isn't always the star and to take the parts given out.

Ah the joy of the pushy parent at Christmas - that’s what Christmas is all about 😬🙄

Every single child wants to be Mary or Joseph that's life

When I was teaching Year 1, and had the unmitigated joy of the Nativity, I was happy for parents to tell me if their child was very unhappy with a part. Your DC wants to be an angel instead of an inn keeper? No skin off my nose. Your DD doesn't want to be a King (selected because they actually had to learn quite a few lines, and had a good big voice), I explained I should have said royalty. Of course DD is a queen. Silly Mrs M.

Obviously, not every child can be Joseph or Mary. But I wanted the Nativity to be a happy, fun event. So I did listen to upset parents and children.

I do, however, think I would have been less flexible with upper KS2, so age is relevant.

In my experience, the parents wanted their child to be Mary or Joseph. The children tended to be less keen. Boys tended to want to be a King or an animal
Girls wanted to be angels. And as the teacher, I wanted the biggest voices to be the narrators.

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What do you expect the outcome to be? Good life lesson, we don't always get what we want. You can always tell the children that have had their parents fight all their battles, no resilience.

I wasn’t allowed to even be considered for an angel as I didn’t have blonde hair. However, on the day one of the angels was sick and the rest of the class voted for me to replace her. Still a nice memory that I got to wear my tinsel halo!

If you get in touch then what are the ramifications for the child who has been picked to be Angel One? That they lose their part and it goes to your child? That their part gets cut in two to accommodate your child? That the teacher invents another angel character with other lines? What do you want the outcome to be exactly?

I was a sheep in my school nativity and apart from the veiled suggestion that this was because I was a Welsh kid in an English school (!) it never did me any harm. Sometimes you don't get what you want in life.

I was upset because my DS is year 2 and after this year they don’t do nativities, just Christmas songs. When asked who wanted a big part, DS didn’t put his hand up even though he’s very confident and would have done a great job. This means he has 2 lines and is a ‘citizen’. I was disappointed because the kid who always gets the main parts with the smug parents is Joseph. Plus it’s my last opportunity to see my DC in a nativity.

But hey ho, I realised I was being pathetic and moved on.

They can't take Angel 1 away from the other child now. What part has your dc been given? Angel 2?

Kids need to be taught to be more resilience more inderpendent and learn the world is not their oyster.

Kids dont need parents that will kick off email or call teachers and schools when they dont get a part in a play.