Nativity play

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So my daughter came home really upset for not getting cast as angel one in the school play after weeks of practicing the lines
should i email the school or AIBU?

I think you’ll find I was offered Mary and said ‘no thanks I want to be the donkey’. My mother has never forgiven me.

Inkeeper 😬 shes devvo

I don't understand why she was practicing lines before she was cast?

Inn keeper is a much better role!

I think she was told that she would make a good angel and therefore learned the lines

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For goodness sake.

God, I was an Ox or a donkey every year. Never Mary, sodding Abigail Whelan. I'll never forgive her.

I dont know exactly i think they gave her some hope and headteacher said she would be a good angel one, i decided i wont email them and she told me please dont because she will be embarrassed but i just got so sad seeing her break her lil heart ♥️ her ranting about it was quite humorous and cute though lol

She's got some sense then.

Good for her for having more sense than her mum re. emailing the teacher.

Although 'ranting' and 'devvo' sounds over the top. Is she spoilt by any chance?

No shes just going through that tween stage, definitely not spoiled

I think it's a learning experience for her, and the school haven't done anything wrong.

Hmm, After years of being upset that I was cast as a King in the school nativity, I’m wondering if actually it was a compliment to my ability. Maybe I was cast as I was able to memorise the lines and had a good big voice. That would make sense as the next 2 years I was an all important narrator, so obviously did have a good big voice and the ability to speak well in public. Maybe it’s time to let my disappointment at not being an angel go.

Tween?
I thought this was about an infant child.

Tell her to get over it and learn the lines for the part she's been given.

DS was always desperate to play the donkey, alas his dream never came true. We ended up buying him a donkey costume which he wore round the house with his wellies for more than six months 😂. You'll look back someday and laugh (possibly he haw) at the drama.

Tween stage? I assumed she was 4 based on this thread...

Likewise.

I wouldn’t email the school no way. I do think it’s unfair in schools the way some kids always get the best parts in plays and others never get lines. When I was a kid the loud confident ones always got the main parts and quiet kids often were just in the background saying nothing (myself included!). How are they supported to gain confidence when this happens? A friend of mine is a primary teacher and she always made sure every child in the class had 1 short line in her school play which I thought was a really fair way of doing it. If my child never got any lines to say year after year I might consider saying something. However I think expecting a child to get a specific part is completely unreasonable.

Do you also advocate putting the kids with the worst hand-eye co-ordination on the sports teams?

I was a dog in the nativity play in top infants, the only role for which there was actually an audition. It turned out I was the only child in the class who could bark. I'm still quite proud of this.

I thought the angels bar Gabriel had almost no lines and were just filler roles. A step above the barn animals though
I remember my DS fuming in reception because he was chosen to be a narrator along with a few others. He wanted a costume! I do think the narrators are a bit boring tbh. I had to bribe him to see him through 🙈

My older DD did a different nativity called the Grumpy Sheep - she was the titular character! Lots of foot/hoof stomping. It was all the teachers remembered her for throughout infants..

Yes i know what you mean, if they all had a line it would be more fair and bring the quiet ones out of the shell

A sports team is different from a school play. It’s competitive and usually the child has a specific interest in the sport. In a school play everyone is forced to participate and go to the rehearsals even if they are just in the background by no choice of their own. I think giving everyone a line who wants to participate is a nice and fair idea. Do you disagree or do you think all the loud and confident 5 and 6 years olds should be given all the lines all the time ?