AIBU to not buy DS16 the clothes he wants

[ThatLimeNewt]

DS16 wants to wear a black puffer, black nike hoodie and joggers, nike crossbody bag and a nike beanie / snood. I am refusing to buy these all black clothes as it will make him look dodgy or like a "roadman". Is it concerning that DS wants to dress in such a manner? AIBU to refuse to buy these clothes for him? Would you let your child dress like this? Also wearing nike head to toe seems a bit ludicrous to me 😂

Whatever you do dont be like my exMIL who decided that she would KNIT jumpers and embroider things on them like Nike . Her sons had to wear them out the door and put them behind a wall before they could go out with their mates . And I sabotaged a pair of ugly trainers do my mother would buy the right ones for me.

It is so important at that age to feel like they fit in with their peers . Indulge it .

We probably grew up close to each other!

Although, where I live now a lot of the boys are rocking the 90s look with baggy jeans, adidas and cool tee-shirts. My DS has finally shaken off the top to toe Nike and has some trainers that I’d happily wear, wears jeans to go out (not baggy enough for my liking) and band tee-shirts. But still has some ridiculous stuff like the CP Company goggles coat.

Nike/North Face ninjas are standard here: teen conformity anxiety trumps personality. Is he in with a crowd already attired this way, or does he fear the existing groups? Where I live, the city has a serious problem with these bullies/followers.
Understanding & being yourself takes a quiet, stubborn, confidence. Encourage him to develope his 'self'.

Love to see that fashion back for the lads. Not that I want to tar every lad that wears top to toe black as a scally, but as others have said it can be quite conformist or intimidating.

i feel the jeans/tshirt style can not only be more expressive of a lads personality eg by choice of colour/style/band tshirt but its just ultimately more open and less intimidating.

although if its Fred Perry /lacoste /ben Sherman polos they are still gonna be townies

Yes, this. I’m in London and this look is worn by Roadmen and wannabe Roadmen / chavs. I wouldn’t want to fund it either OP. My two late teen boys wouldn’t be seen dead in this get up