AIBU to not buy DS16 the clothes he wants

[ThatLimeNewt]

DS16 wants to wear a black puffer, black nike hoodie and joggers, nike crossbody bag and a nike beanie / snood. I am refusing to buy these all black clothes as it will make him look dodgy or like a "roadman". Is it concerning that DS wants to dress in such a manner? AIBU to refuse to buy these clothes for him? Would you let your child dress like this? Also wearing nike head to toe seems a bit ludicrous to me 😂

Fuck me, what a miserable way to live. Wearing horrible clothes will not make your son into a criminal, obviously. Let the kid wear what he wants, the days of you choosing his clothes are long since passed I’m afraid!

I'm in Ireland and that's the teenage uniform here too. My 16yo dd recently branched out to a beige Nike puffer instead black and now when I see her out and about I can differentiate her from all of the other teen girls in airforce 1s, black leggings and black Nike puffers.

@Solenoid Christmas maybe?

I live in a very well to do area just round the corner from one of the major public schools and it’s what literally all the teens wear. Well, more North Face than Nike but all black athleisure.

You are very controlling, my ex Mother in law was like it with her sons clothes, it did not end well, the kids resented her.
The lad earns his own money and you don't even give him an allowance, you then say you won't buy him what he wants. It's not about you. Terrible parenting, to the point I hope this post is made up.

Wild exaggeration @Jeschara.

i think you’ll need to compromise OP.

Let him buy his own clothes with a budget if you don't approve of his choices. Money for Christmas so he can buy in the sales.

This made me smile. They all look the same! I keep thinking I see DC around town but then I think ‘That’s not my teen, her jeans are too pale’

I can’t wait for the tracksuit phase to pass, teenagers and adults walking around looking like giant toddlers!

Life's too short to have a clothing battle with 16 yo son. His style might well change again in another couple of months.

What do you think he should wear?

My ds has always wore joggers and t shirts. He has a million hoodies as he’s a swimmer.

He won’t wear names brands and wears next joggers (dark colours) and their crew neck T shirts but in colours. His hoodies are all sorts of colours too!

However - if he choose all black instead I wouldn’t police it. I would however give him a budget and he can choose a few items or lots depending on cost of what he chooses.

When my dd bought her first uniqlo cross body bag her older brother called her Roadman for a while.(may be wrong but I believe he has one now)

Oh well my 18yo must look well dodgy as he's into black metal and wears nothing but........black 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

DH wasn't allowed to wear back jeans as a teenager as his Dad said he looked like a young male from the Casuals Movement. Chew on that for a moment 🤣

😂😂😂

I wouldn't worry about the colour although he's likely to get himself run over in that outfit. I wouldn't buy them on the basis of price.

If my ds wants labels, he gets a job and buys them himself. I pay for all his clothes, and I'm happy to buy good quality but I don't pay rip off prices. He'll grow out of them in 6 months anyway. What a waste.

It's standard teen wear for the boarders and day boys at my sons posh independent school.

The only clothes that make you look like a criminal are an orange jumpsuit or black and white striped 2-piece.

Exactly what my 16 yo DS wears - or indeed similar. He sometimes changes it up a bit with a pair of black or blue wide leg jeans. It’s the fashion nowadays - and on the plus side a mainly black wardrobe makes it easier for them to mix their outfits together.

He does however have a padded Berghaus and a CP Company coat - the one with the goggles in the hood. I sighed when he asked for the latter, but he is definitely not any sort of a hooligan and very much the opposite, and a coat they are willing to wear is a win in my mind.

To be fair, my wardrobe is mainly black too so I had no issue when DS started asking for black clothing. DD is almost 12 and she asks for a lot of plain black, grey or dark brown clothing too.

What I have found though is when you buy a 16 year old clothing that they haven’t chosen, is they simply won’t wear it. Choose your battles OP!

My 13 year old dresses like this.

It doesn't bother me because i know he's not a 'roadman' - he's a normal, well behaved kid. If someone else wants to cast judgement on him because if his clothes, that's up to them.

Around here, around 98% of the school kids seem to wear black North Face puffers. Along with black more or less everything else.

Sadly it’s the fashion these days. They’ll always wanna keep up with the latest fashion. I don’t like the “roadman” style myself but he is old enough to buy his own clothes now so I don’t have much say.

Mine also has that goggles coat. I just laughed at him when it arrived. He knows I think it’s completely ridiculous! But, it’s his choice and I would never say no (unless it’s offensive). I certainly wore stuff as a teen that I look back on now with “WTF was I thinking?”!

Isn’t this how every 16 year old dresses?

Encourage him to walk around with his hands down his pants too 😉

Roadman 😂 anyone else still prefer scally?

(tbf yes it’s standard these days but it’s so boring and unimaginative - i long for the days of stolen from Ivor - maybe some spliffy jeans and a hyper colour tshirt and some funky coloured gazelles!)