DH night away 38 weeks pregnant

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DH wants to go away for the night to meet up with friends and I will be 38 weeks pregnant. It’s a few hours away on the train (London, we are in the north east) and I’m guessing he’ll have a few drinks. Last train back is about 10pm.

AIBU to say no? We have a toddler already so I will be looking after them. They could go to grandparents if I went into labour but DH would probably not be there. Toddler was born at 39+1.

The fact it's so far away and if he misses the last train he's stuck there for the night is why I think you're not being unreasonable, especially on your own with a toddler who you'd need to source care for while in early labour. If it was 30 mins away and easy to get back home that would be very different.

Whether it's a one-off or not is irrelevant if he goes on this trip and OP goes into labour and he can't get back to support her. OP is in the North East and her DH will be in London, hours away. OP doesn't have any family nearby apart from her MIL who would need to look after OP's toddler so OP would need to labour and give birth with no family member to support her or advocate for her.

I’d say go to him. With a toddler and a newborn there will be lots of times you need him more.
If you were to go into labour at 38 weeks you could call him, I assume you have someone else to look after your other child though.

I feel your pain. I am 37w and DH is away with work on Thursday- 3 hours away and has offered to go for the dinner but not stay over. How generous! I can manage with other dc but worry about something happening while he is so far away.

I think this post is utter nonsense. I don't think many women give birth to twins at home. this is a windup IMO

Can't he compromise and see them earlier then get the last train back rather than drinking and staying over?

Or perhaps he has a spare £500 for a taxi back should he need to get back in a hurry????

My second baby was born at 38 weeks. YANBU.

I think your husband needs to give this one a miss. It sounds like an all day drinking sessions. Even if he got the train back early in the morning. He will likely still be drunk and unfit to drive if you need him to.

I am usually relatively relaxed about this sort of thing, but there is a chance he could miss the whole labour. I think he might have to give this one a miss unless you can arrange to go to yours/his parents for the day if he really won't miss it.

Can you both come to a compromise, he can go but he has to have a train booked in the evening to return home? (And he also doesn’t need to get drunk)

Yes, I agree actually - don't ask him not to go.

Just ask him to carefully consider what a kind, decent compassionate husband and father would do at a time of potential crisis when his frightened wife needs not to be alone.

And when he's decided, to do that.

Put it in writing.

And find out who you're married to.

Both my babies arrived at 37 weeks!! I’d be saying absolutely not!!

Nope, life doesn’t end when you have a baby. There will be years of opportunities for nights out to come. But this is one of those times when he needs to say no. I couldn’t even imagine choosing a night of drinking over possibly missing the birth of my child. 😳

I had my first born at 38 weeks. Dh was offered tickets for The Ashes that day but turned them down.