Husband caught looking up old girlfriend

[MerryTiger]

My husband has spent the last few months on his phone . I checked it and he daily looks at old gf Instagram &facebook. No contact.
our son heard us arguing about it & now refuses to speak the us. Husband claims he was curious?? Only wanted to see what she was up to ?

Tbf we’ve all done it (just to be nosy)! I can’t see the problem unless he’s messaging her or liking her pictures.

I think I’ve looked up every old boyfriend I’ve ever had from time to time as I am realy nosey. It doesn’t mean a thing.

I wouldn't make a big deal tbh. I look up old friends, exes sometimes. I wonder how they're getting on. It doesn't mean anything significant in my case. I don't even want to keep in contact really. I just sometimes look up people or things or places from the past.
You know if your husband is shifty though. Are there other things that are making you suspicious?

I look at the most random people from my past on social media - isn’t that normal?!

Yeah, that’s been me too… wouldn’t touch any of them with a barge pole, though!
Its fine to be curious, if that’s all it is.

Normal to be curious/nosy but not everyday surely. Everyday is obsessive and gross

I think some people might have missed the ‘daily’ part. That’s totally not okay IMO. Not talking to you or your child? Disgusting! Did your child join in a bit? Imagining a teenager adding their views for example so husband may feel that’s inappropriate (it probably is) but I think if someone is searching for an ex on a daily basis then there is a huge problem in the marriage and you aren’t in the wrong here.

Every day sounds creepy. I can see a lot of people having the occasional nosey moment. Everyday is definitely over the line behaviour. A habit or compulsion, it's not healthy to be checking SM every day, let alone a specific ex. How's his mental health in other things. Work stress? Money worries? Does he need to detatch from reality in some way?

My ex puts 1 of these emojis (😂❤️) on every single thing I post on SM without fail. If I was his gf, that’s what would bother me, not that he’s looked at my page. If your husband has just looked her up & nosied at her page, I think that’s pretty normal. I’ve done it loads but I would never get in touch with them, I’m just nosey!

Occasionally, not an issue. Everyday, bit weird.

I've looked up old boyfriends, just curiosity, no more. We aren't going to meet up and have a reunion.

Every day is too much. Occasionally/ keeping tabs is pretty normal I think.

One of many reasons I’m glad neither DH or I bother with social media. We leave it to the youngsters!

I think at least half of Mumsnet including myself have done this out of nothing more than idle curiosity.

Blimey I just wished an old boyfriend happy birthday! We were together at least 35 years ago!

One off out of curiosity okay… every day super creepy.

If he didn’t message her I guess that’s okay but looking up that persistently is a bit obsessive imo

Your son sounds a bit of a melt

Adults argue, why isn't he talking to you??

Your H is a weirdo for stalking her profile daily

I think I’ve looked up every ex I’ve ever had plus their cousins, new kids, parents, pets. I went to a party recently had a conversation with a woman couldn’t help but say to her how familiar she looked and I realised it’s because she had been a guest at a wedding of one of my exes who’s pictures I’d gone through with a fine tooth comb. I was mortified. It’s just curiosity isn’t it?

An occasional look is fine, I think most of us have done this out of curiosity. However, if he is stalking her profile daily then it's weird.

Daily???!!!!!

Definitely not normal. He sounds obsessed

How do you know it's every day?

“Spent the last few months on his phone”.

Doesn’t he work?

@Snoozysnoozy

Sorry, I didn’t mean to quote you.

I checked his activity log - daily , sometimes a few times in one day. Also checked her sister’s Facebook page -

I mean after work - weekends - all our free time