Dh moaning at me for taking paracetomal

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I suffer with bad headaches/possible migraines. To be very clear, I get regular eye tests, I’m not concerned. I’m not dehydrated. My headaches seem to be hormonal and always come around the time before my totm. I can’t just suffer the headaches because they get very bad and make me feel nauseous.

I might take probably 6-10 paracetamol spread over 2-3 days during a time when I’m having headache's which would be once a month or less.

Dh keeps saying that I’m adducted to painkillers, he’s worried how many tablets I’m taking, I shouldn’t be taking them, saying “oh my god “ comments if I buy a box of paracetamol in the supermarket shop, making stupid comments asking if I need tablets even when I haven’t said I’ve got a headache or anything.

Dh also refuses to take paracetamol himself even if he’s in pain or has a fever.

Aibu to think he is being ridiculous?

Why does he even need to know that you are taking anything? Are you by each other’s side 24/7.

Omg what is it with some people and simple painkillers like paracetamol?! I had an exBF who was like this. I have rheumatoid and osteoarthritis quite badly and as I can't take NSAIDs, paracetamol is my usual choice. But he'd be on my back the second I took any,which was usually 2,twice a day,on about 4 or 5 days a week. Anyone would have thought I was snorting a line of cocaine the way he went on about it!

I use paracetamol with caffeine. If you take them frequently you can build up a tolerance to the caffeine and get a rebound headache from "withdrawal" when you stop.

Anyone who avoids pain killers and anti-inflamms clearly have the privilege of not having a chronic pain condition.

Doesn't stop them coming with the judgments, unfortunately.

I’ve been prescribed daily cocodamol for about 8 years, send him my way 🙃

If you've got a migraine paracetamol won't help. You need to try something like sumatriptan.

You aren't taking too much. You can have up to 8 a day.

If it is migraine and you don't manage them properly with actual migraine medication, you can end up with needing a lot more than a few paracetamol. How on earth will he react then?
Regardless of why your taking paracetamol, he needs to accept that you are in pain and need medication and stop being so controlling and uncaring.

Even if paracetamol was additive (it's not), no one will have any issues taking it for a few days every month, nor will they have side effects

He is being ridiculous

Aspirin may help more useful if you can take it. 3 x 300mg at first sign migriane

It hardly sounds like there is any drug abuse going on here. The way I see it life is too short to spend it in pain if you don't have to.

Hardly surprising you get migraines listening to that douchebag. Tell him to stfu cos he’s making it worse

Nowhere near as often as addiction to beer and fags though, so we must hope DH is a non-smoker teetotaller.

What’s he like himself about painkillers

this sounds very familiar about a woman I used to work with .wouldn’t take painkillers then spend the whole shift complaining about pain . As soon as you took a single paracetamol that was it you’d fucked your liver

Your husband is a dick.

However there are much better options out there for you than paracetamol, which is notoriously shite for hormonal headaches or migraines.

Whilst you await a GP, I'd ditch the paracetamol and switch to aspirin. 3 x 300mg aspirin tablets at the first moment you notice the head pain starting.

See here for aspirin: https://cks.nice.org.uk/topics/analgesia-mild-to-moderate-pain/management/aspirin/#recommended-doses

See here for full NHS guidance on menstrual migraine - highly recommend you have a good read before you see the GP and refer to it if you can. It tends to focus the mind of a GP in the right direction:
https://cks.nice.org.uk/topics/migraine/management/adults/#preventive-drugs-for-pure-menstrual-menstrually-related-migraine

You can get a pack of 16 for 29p round here - that's seriously good value for a Class A drug, eh? No idea why anybody bothers with Cocaine and the like!

Seriously, he's being a total twat. I used to suffer period-related headaches and they were absolutely awful. Take your cheap, over-the-counter medication and tell DH to fuck off.

There are a LOT of people like this out there, often men, but not exclusively. Very very judgemental about things they know nothing about! DH also seems to think that if I take paracetomol I'm on a slippery slope to an addiction to heroin. It's very irritating.

@VickyEadieofThigh , don't you find they get stuck up your nostrils?

If he has a completely irrational fear and hatred of women taking paracetamol (tylenol in the USA) his name isn't Robert Francis Kennedy Jr. is it by any chance?

Hormonal headaches are vile, I started getting them when pregnant and now get them on ovulation and time of the month, whenever I get a hormone change basically. They make me vomit sometimes, so I take painkillers. Your DH is being unreasonable, you do get these people who proudly announce they never take pain relief but who often also take themselves out of the equation of homelife by lying it out in bed, which for most of us ain't an option!

You can take 8 500mg paracetamol in a day. Your DH is being a dick. Including when he's unwell and won't take them. I wouldn't bother pandering to him when he's like this, he's literally prolonging his illness and pain deliberately, so I'd go out and leave him to fend for himself instead of running around making him cups of tea and listening to him sniffle loudly and make groaning noises from within the dressing gown of doom.

You can get cocodamol from the pharmacy if you want something stronger. It's usually sold as 8mg codeine/500mg paracetamol in it. But it's possible to get it with 12.5mg codeine. You can also take cocodamol or straight paracetamol with ibuprofen too. If that's not enough ask the pharmacist if there's anything else to try. If no luck sorting it yourself and you go to the doctors they'll probably just give you 30/500 cocodamol, that's what they give everyone for everything round here. So there's nothing "more suitable" that the doctor has really in most cases, if paracetamol is working for you then it's fine.

Ask him where he took his medical degree.

Your DH should be supporting not criticising you!

I take prescribed drugs (Triptans) for my migraines as they are far more effective than paracetamol for my migraine headaches.

They only started when I was in my 30’s and were definitely hormone related.

One thing that reduced the severity and frequency of the monthly headaches was taking a feverfew tablet daily. It took about 6 weeks to build up in my system and I took them for years until I hit the menopause, but they really made a difference and it was my previous (male!) GP who recommended I give them a go.

Ohhh sympathies! Let me guess. Your painkillers enables you to somewhat power on and manage day to day living. But he gets a sniffle, refuses to take any modern medicine, and is in bed for however many days and doesn't pull his weight?

My rule is, if you don't help yourself, go to the docs, take medicine or what not, you must be able to power through (life with young kids)... if you take medicine and still don't feel well, then by all means, stay in bed/ rest. Maybe I'm just a meany, though!

But you don't sound like an addict! Migraines are crippling - I second trying a mix of Sumatriptan, naroproxin and paracetamol. It's worth a trip to the doc

Your DH is a dick.

Don't be daft. I use a pestle and mortar to crush them up, obviously.