I'm married to an old fart

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Please feel free to share stories about your own SO so I don't feel like I'm the only one. We are in our late 30s, lately DH is giving me some serious grandfather vibes. On a Friday night he makes an announcement it's late and we need to go to bed despite the fact we have nowhere to be and nothing to do on a Saturday. When he is home from work TV in on full blast and mostly news channels. I'm getting regular weather forecast bulletins now. Random moaning and groaning. When I say something in my normal voice he can't hear me and says I need to speak louder. Then he gets offended and defensive when I suggest he should get his hearing checked. Suddenly he is wearing joggers and purchased an ankle support thingy. We have young children and I'm planning a family holiday for us, starting to wonder if self catering accommodation and couple of excursions will be too much for an old man to handle.

More ageist bollocks

Our hearing gets worse as we get older. It's a normal feature of ageing and happens to everyone. It's not a disability issue if it's normal hearing loss.

Yes, commenting on everything and waiting around to be given guidance and instruction. Increasingly dawdling - you’re not alone OP!

Oooh I have one too!
Regularly falls asleep at 6pm.
Has the TV on very loud.
Asks me to read everything for him because he has shit eyesight. I keep telling him to just book a fucking eye test.
Keeps asking me to check the weather forecast on my phone, won’t have a phone of his own, he doesn’t do technology.
Constantly asking me what time it is, then says god is that the time already.
Refuses to give anything new a go like, tv series, music etc
Sits watching stupid YouTube videos about politics.
I tend to go to bed early to watch tv in bed. He’ll come up and moan that he can’t sleep because of the light and noise from the tv but has NO FUCKING PROBLEM falling asleep on the sofa with the big light on and the telly on 20 bastard decibels!
He won’t go out if he can’t take the dog.

He normally goes to the gym 5 days a week and for a one hour walk 7 days a week. The last three days he hasn't left the house because it's raining.
He doesn't fancy going out for lunch to meet DC tomorrow because it's likely to be raining.
Not sure when he became allergic to rain.

However he's entitled as he's 76 not 36.

Hey I do these things 😁

😂 (Although a little close to home).

I cancelled seeing my son because of the rain then the next week he cancelled because of the rain (he’s early 20s). Rain’s wet 😬

When my (now ex) husband and l were in our thirties (this was in the mid 1990s, I was five years older than him) l bought him a pair of lightweight combat trousers (nothing outlandish, they were from Burtons) thinking they'd be cooler than jeans in Summer for him.
The response l got? "Kats, what are you trying to turn me into?"
I mean, seriously? They were bog standard chainstore menswear trousers. Not Billy Idol/punk type bondage trousers with zips, studs and chains.

So l took them back and let him sweat in his jeans.

Seriously OP, I'd bloody run for the hills before he hits 40. DH has become a grumpy Victor Meldrew/Basil Fawlty type character that isn't remotely funny to live with. He's 61, almost deaf and needs his eyes testing but won't hear a word about either and spends all day saying "what was that". He's got a plethora of medical conditions that he sees the GP all the time for but won't take the medication he's given so they get worse and it then ends up being an emergency. He needs heart surgery that he's on a waiting list for but he's already talked himself out of it what do GP's know with their training when he can google something....

My patience is so thin that all I do is snap and I hate myself for it almost as much as I hate his inability to grow old with some level of grace and dignity.

I’d be quite interested in that, to be fair 🙂

I bet he still wants you to look 21 and act 21 in the bedroom though! Bleugh, hate them all 😂

My husband gets waxy build (has done his whole life) but he does this ridiculous thing when he can’t hear where he holds the top of his ear out away from his head and says “WHAT?” Like a crotchety old man 🤣. It is extremely ageing. He’s 39. When Scrooge arrives, it’s time to get to the doctors for ear syringing.

For my part, if I go to bed after 10.30 everyone should avoid me the next day. I’m 35!

Just let a girl moan ffs. We don’t have to correct things all the freaking time. She knows it’s not necessarily an age thing, she just wants to vent. Vent away without judgement or correction as far as I’m concerned! I made a post about mine being fat and complaining about being fat for over a decade and was absolutely ripped a new arsehole for being fattist! If someone is miserable then they’re miserable it doesn’t make you a miserablist!

Having the TV on loud would make me rage, it's serious LTB territory. YANBU for that alone.

The tendency is to become a grumpy bugger at 60. + But some of you are married to much younger men. That is depressing.

I am in my 60s and my husband is 70. No way would I let him tell me when to go to bed. If he feels tired he just goes to bed and I don’t need to go with him if I am doing something like watching tv or online shopping. Tell him to stop telling you what to do he isn’t in charge. Some men like to dictate and he needs to stop.

Me too.

Mine does as well he is just an old man they need their sleep 😴

Oh gosh mine does that. And 10 mins about what he's done that day (cue nodding and ah um very clever) I do not give a shit. And also finding everyone else in the world rude constantly. Which they might be but that's also why you have no friends. Cos you're a moany old fart.

last time DH started some blah, blah, blah about something, I listened dutifully for a couple of minutes then told him to stop talking cos he was boring me. He laughed and said “I’m boring myself” 😂
DS2 has ADHD and has had lots of “special interests” over the years and would talk at me for hours about them! I’ve sat through countless boring documentaries with him. Funny how it never bothered me with him.

Last night, my husband put on subtitles on the TV. He has also started saying ‘the garden needs it’, every time it rains.

I feel he’s becoming an old fart.

My DH hasn’t been able to stay awake past 10pm for about 4 years. He’s 40.
To be fair he does go to the gym every morning at 6am but good god! He hasn’t seen the end of a film in years.

He’s also started curtain twitching when someone parks outside the house, complaining about music the “youths” listen to and moaning about every joint in his body.

And me.

He’s late 30s. It’s not aging.