If you were ill with Shingles would family still come and stay?

[Daisypod]

Just wanted peoples opinions. If you were ill with shingles and felt really rough would family still come for a four day visit or would they offer to cancel?
I am being unreasonable - they would still come
Im not unreasonable- they would offer to cancel

Can't you just tell them that you're not well enough to host?

Shingles is horrible, I hope you feel better soon.

My mum just got over shingles and it was horrible. Id just tell them you need to cancel as you are too unwell with it.

Shingles is infectious. No-one should be coming to see you!

I had shingles just before Christmas last year. We were having my in-laws down and because we didn't want to let them down we still had them and honestly I wished we'd cancelled them as I felt wretched. They didn't offer to cancel but if I could go back in time I would defo cancel. I wouldn't wait for them to make the decision, just tell them that you're too unwell to host them.

If I had shingles I wouldn’t be waiting for other people to offer to cancel. I would inform them that they are not coming

You need to tell them you don't feel up to hosting. It's unreasonable to expect them to know how you feel.

I felt rough with Shingles, but it didn't stop me doing things I wanted to do (I was promptly prescribed anti-virals and had quite a mild dose).

I suggest you ask your doctor for antiviral tablets (if it's not too late) and either postpone your guest's visit or tell them they can come, but they will have to look after themselves and possibly you.

I clicked the wrong one. Sorry, I meant you are not being unreasonable. You should rearrange, rest up and recover. Shingles can be very painful and exhausting (also infectious). Look after yourself and get better soon

Only very inconsiderate, foolish people would visit somebody with active shingles. Firstly because it makes you feel very unwell and secondly because you are shedding chicken pox virus which is a risk to anyone who may not have immunity.

If anyone still comes it should be to look after you. Nobody should be coming with the expectation of being hosted

It’s so dependent on who they are. Some would come and look after you- keep you company. Others would come and stay out of your way. Selfish arseholes would expect an ill woman to actively host them.

People with limited experience of shingles may not even consider how ill you feel.

Tell them you are unwell and cancel the trip. Hope you feeling better soon

I hope you are on antivirals.

I'd be completely useless as when I had shingles all I could do after the first fortnight was walk into the garden, sit down and then go back to bed. The first fortnight I was horizontal for practically the whole time. No way would I be able to have family visit.

Oh god my family or friends would cancel. Partly because I’m poorly, partly because they don’t want to cancel.

my sister would offer to come and look after me (my mom is too elderly) but I’d say no because I don’t want to risk her getting it.

no way would I be expected to host.

I hope you feel better soon op

I wasn’t unwell at all with shingles. It depends on how you feel and the visitors chickenpox status. There is no good in me saying that I was absolutely fine and could have hosted 30 for a month with 4 meals a day made entirely by me if you feel like shit and are expecting guests who haven’t had chickenpox.

You cannot spread shingles to others. But people could catch chickenpox from you if they have not had chickenpox before or have not had the chickenpox vaccine.

Tell them you are too ill and postpone their visit.

I believe you shingles is only contagious if the people you are with have not had chicken pox and if they have direct contact with the shingles blisters. However, it can be incredibly uncomfortable and leave you feeling exhausted, so I wouldn’t be hosting if I had shingles, nor would I dream of imposing myself on someone who has shingles.

Absolutely not.
Cancel.
No discussion.
Shingles can be extremely painful and nasty.
Don't suggest, TELL them.

You should be the one cancelling.

If you don’t feel well enough, it’s up to you to cancel.
if you didn’t say anything, I’d assume you felt ok and might want the company

When I saw the title I instantly thought of my Nan, she had someone with her 24/7 for months, but that was to take care of her. As a family we set a rota up, I was only about 13/14 but I would spend nights with her.

Having “guests” absolutely not! They need to be told no.

You must tell them you are cancelling. I had relatively mild shingles because I got antivirals early but awful post herpetic neuralgia (nerve pain) afterwards. Often shingles is a result of stress so you need to rest and recuperate properly.

I wouldn’t have waited for them to cancel, nor expected them to read my mind and know I wanted them not to come, I’d have just told them not to.

If you’re not well, just tell them.

This would be a moot point as I would tell them the visit is cancelled due to my illness.

It really depends how ill you are. It’s not infectious if you have had chicken pox in the past. We cracked on and saw my dad when he had it. If I was pregnant or immunocompromised then I wouldn’t but otherwise there isn’t a medical reason to cancel the visit…beyond whether or not you feel well enough in yourself (it’s extremely variable!)