Ex won't remove his belongings

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I have made several attempts to contact my ex partner to arrange collection for their belongings in my property. Some of these items include clothing, TVs and electrical equipment. He has blocked me and also my friend who contacted him, trying to prompt collection. This is just a way of controlling me and I'd really just like to get the stuff out of my home and move on. Where would I stand on taking the stuff to the skip and just getting rid of it all? I've tried to contact him multiple times but am still blocked.

He's blocked my other friend also. It will all be removed next Friday. Shame bonfire night has been already.

Trust me, I 100% got the last laugh and ended up all the better- and you will too.

Get rid of that old rubbish, onwards and upwards! X

Why is it any concern of yours whether how long they were together/if they moved in too fast???

Its not relevant to what the OP was asking.

Odd behaviour on your part

It sounds like he doesn't want to accept the break up. He could be upset too and could need more time. People are human too. He could be trying to get his head around it and is distressed at the thought of picking it up. If you can and if there is a lot of stuff. I'd have it left at his friends or relatives house. Someone you can get in contact with who's nearby. Then send him a message and tell him where it is, just one text. You don't want to bombard him either if he's not answering. It'll just cause more problems. He has your number if he wants to reply. Good luck!

@Unreserved Hi, no he's self employed so doesn't have a base unfortunately.

Just bin it

Yes, I realised and edited my post, must have crossed with yours. Other suggestions included.

@TeaBiscuitsNaptime honestly I love your kindness however, this won't be the case. It is a control tactic to have over me, as a way of causing what he will deem as conflict in my life. He will be thoroughly enjoying people trying to contact him on my behalf. He will lap up the attention. Unfortunately not all people have a good heart like yourself

Honestly, seek help. You clearly have a sad life if you’re spending your time commenting such rubbish. Reported to HQ - OP, ignore these idiotic replies!

OP I think you have done all you can. I would just get rid of it all. He has no come back on you if you have screenshots of all the attempts to tell him you are getting rid of he doesn’t collect.

Enjoy disposing of it all!

Thank you everyone. Really appreciate your time and comments. X

Bag it up. Put it outside. Message him.

Maybe you could use his business contact details. Do they have a Facebook page or email address that you or a friend could message and tell him that he needs to pick up his stuff on x date or it will be at the tip. Give us all his details and we'll all message him.;)

@Alloveragain44 He's blocked me off literally everything. Two other people have tried to contact him and he's blocked them both also. I won't be seeking out any further way to contact him. That's three different people and multiple messages. He has a deadline of next Friday and it will be getting skipped if not collected.

Legally, you’re an involuntary bailee. He sounds like he’d love you to do things ‘wrong’ so I’d Google that term, follow advice to the letter, and then don’t give him another thought

Do you know where he lives? Could send a letter, registered so it's signed for as proof. Then throw away if he doesn't show up. He sounds annoying... sorry OP.

Sod taking it to a skip;what a pain;post on the fb free sites and let other people collect it.

In a similar situation (it cost a lot less money 16 years ago I’d imagine) I paid for 1 month storage, used a friends phone to message him with the details of the storage place as I was being blocked then unblocked when he wanted to send abuse. Detailed the account number, that I’d set up a password for him to give them that was something he would know but my friend who’s phone I was using wouldn’t know (in case he wanted to lie & say she’s gone in & stolen his crappy ps2 games, weight bench & clothes). Stating that only one month had been paid by me but before that month was over it was his responsibility to collect the stuff, or get in touch with the storage people to pay to extend the lease. I didn’t really want to see him so it felt like £35 well spent.

If this was a woman doing this to her ex.., we would assume she was terrified of him!

@Morningreppy Perhaps read all of my posts on this thread that will give you a more informed insight. Also, as a woman myself, I would be getting the police involved if I was terrified of someone.

Read the thread.

Send him a letter by post. He can't block that.

Absolutely this ^

He clearly doesn’t give a stuff about whatever he’s abandoned and just wants to move onwards and upwards. He is obviously doing fine without this tv and whatever clothing he’s discarded so I wouldn’t think twice about giving the clothing to charity, and the TV to the dump or even my teenager for his room!

Stop trying to contact him by phone. Send a registered letter saying that his belongings will be put outside at x time and on x date. If they are not collected by y date then they will be considered as not wanted by him and taken to the tip.