My son has runaway

[Wario54]

My son has runaway from home. We had an argument this morning because he didn't want to go to school and he stormed out.

He is 10 (almost 11). The school called me and told me he hadn't arrived. I've tried calling and texting him but had no reply. I've called the police and they are out searching for him. His Dad and sister are currently driving round the area (and friends houses etc) in the hope of spotting him. I'm going out of my mind with worry 😭 he's never done this before.

Really, really hoping he turns up soon OP. If he's outside, the cold and dark should encourage him back. If he's with a friend somewhere, atleast he has company and possibly be indoors.

You must be going out of your mind, my heart truly goes out to you. I'd try sending a nice text, telling him you just want him home for tonight, to get some food and warm up, there will be arguments or anything, you just want him home.
Something like that may soften him if he's being stubborn or worried to come back. Mention the police aren't looking because he's in trouble, they just need to know he's safe.

I know there's probably not much that will comfort you right now but I'll be thinking about you and him all night. You've done nothing wrong, he's just a child who's made a bad decision in the heat of the moment and is sticking it out. Hopefully he'll be back home soon and you can get your nerves settled ♥️

why didnt he want to go to school? Just in case there is a link.

That’s a lie - you said why in earth is a 10 year old allowed to walk home alone and then said that you don’t let yours out of your sight. You had that message deleted then pretended it said something different.

Go away and leave this thread alone so OP can get some actual compassion and support.

Omg can we please just stop replying to this Teddy wanker, who is clearly desperately vying for attention? Ignore and they’ll drift away.

What a worry. Did he take anything with him when he left OP? Bag? And was he wearing a coat? Also, has he been acting any differently/ out of character in the last few days? I have a son the same age - can’t imagine what you must be going through. Hope you hear back from him soon.

Have any of his friends gone awol as well? I ran away not much older than that with a friend, bunked the train to London, gone a whole day and night but we walked to a police station about 1am all safe and well, just cold, tired and silly.
It's amazing how all the anger drains out of you when you're tired and hungry.

You may decide that multiple question marks are a statement but it’s not a fact, it’s your opinion. All of the personal attacks against me have been reported and many of which have thankfully been deleted. I asked the question because it was shocking to me and presumed it to be outside of the norm.

To be abundantly clear here, you have all de-railed this poor mum’s thread, not me. JUST STOP.

I'm also shocked! Completely unacceptable and a bit frightening they thought this was a reasonable response to a missing primary school student!

How worrying. I hope he's turned up already OP.

OP, I’m so sorry to read this you must be out of your mind - sending a huge hug, and will be thinking of you tonight. I hope he returns soon, like somebody else said hopefully the weather and darkness will help encourage him back xoxo

Ermmm seems like MN also think you’re telling porkie pies with your faux ‘poor me, just asking a question’ and have deleted your post for breaking talk guidelines

OP, I can’t add anymore suggestions but I really hope he turns up soon. I’m sure he’s just found somewhere to sit and stew for a bit

What a worry. I hope you find him soon OP.
someone upthread mentioned local McDonald’s - that’s a good shout. Cheap and will keep him warm. I would also share on local community pages - don’t underestimate that local lady who saw him in a cafe or corner shop earlier (that kind of thing). I wonder if any of his friends are ‘hiding’ him? Anyone with parents who work long hours?

You are derailing the thread as much as anyone else, all of you derailing the thread need to stop now, you’ve all said your piece multiple times.

This is going to sound intensely stupid, but have you checked under his bed, in his wardrobe, in the loft?

My brother “ran away” at that age and all he did was wait for my mum to go to work and then hide in his bedroom….

OP is really hope he turns up soon. Please be reassured that its not uncommon at this age for kids to do something like this. They are full of confusing hormones and overreact. Once they calm down they can feel embarrassed and not really know how to back down. Keep texting him and reassure him that he isnt in trouble.

He's been found!!! I'll update with the details later. But he's safe and well. DH is on his way to collect him now

Thanks so much for your support 🙏 the relief is unbelievable

Then your experience is the abnormal one
At our school children can walk home independently at y5, most y6's absolutely do it even if parents are collecting younger siblings.

Hope he gets back soon and get a new phone to enable a tracker ASAP I still use it for y9 ds and have no Shame in doing so

Oh thank goodness - I'm so relieved for you OP

Thank goodness what a brilliant update, you must be so relieved!

So delighted to hear this OP - all the best to you

I'm so pleased, my brother was an eloper and the feeling is horrific, hug your boy and breath! xx