My son has runaway

[Wario54]

My son has runaway from home. We had an argument this morning because he didn't want to go to school and he stormed out.

He is 10 (almost 11). The school called me and told me he hadn't arrived. I've tried calling and texting him but had no reply. I've called the police and they are out searching for him. His Dad and sister are currently driving round the area (and friends houses etc) in the hope of spotting him. I'm going out of my mind with worry 😭 he's never done this before.

Many Y5 and Y6 children walk to and from school on their own - I should know - I am a teacher.

Oh man I’d be so relieved (and pretty raging I think although I’d wait till the dust had settled before I said my piece).

So relieved for you I know how worrying it must have been. Thank goodness he is fine.

Thank God he is safe and well and was being "looked after" by his friend. Glad the mum found him.

Hope youre all ok

So pleased he is back OP. I know how worrying this can be.

Please come down on him strong. When my youngest DD was between 12 and 15 years she often went into fight of flight mode - flight being her chosen reaction to anything that upset her. It was terrifying. At one point I had the police on speed dial!

With hindsight I really wish I had come down much stronger on her at the start. Do the thank god you are okay bit and then the lecture and grounding.

Thank god he’s ok! 🙏

That’s a crazy statement ‘would be unusual if a child walked home with a parent’ at the age of 10? No. That’s an odd thing to say 🤣 it’s not unusual at all. Maybe 30yrs ago when you and all these other mummy’s were at school it was normal. The world isn’t what it used to be lol

The only kids that got collected in y6 at my sons school had younger siblings and got driven to and from school. Even most of them walked to the parked car. Out of my dcs mates they ALL walked in y6

So glad to hear. At least he went to a safe house than walking the streets
My neighbours son did a bunk and he spent the day in their shed..... Kids!

The children I work with are taught this acronym.

T TRUE
H HELPFUL
I INSPIRING
N NECESSARY
K KIND

Before you speak you should ' think' about what you're saying.

Coming onto a thread where a mother is desperate because her child is missing to make comments about her decision to allow her child to walk to school alone is not helpful, necessary OR kind so it's best not said.

I said it after he was found so what’s your point lol

Thank goodness he's home safe! You must be so relieved. I can't believe the police didn't start looking for him straight away though. Those would have been vital hours lost if he had got himself into trouble somewhere.

OP, im so pleased he has come home. He is not the first child and definitely won't be the last to do this.

It's good that you are letting the dust settle rather than risk a flare up.

Maybe tomorrow gently try to find out if there is anything underlying bothering him as it was quite a reaction, to go from being in a strop to goining MFH.

You may get a visit from SS as ds is under 12, depending if the police submit a report.

I see some advice is to 'come down hard'. I would say you know your child best. By doing that it may make him defiant or it might work when he has future strops.

The visit from tbe police and posible a SW may be enough to give him a jolt.Only you know your child.

The point is your comment was completely pointless 'lol'

My point is that you and the other troll are coming across as nasty bitches and I thought maybe you didn't realise.
But if it was your intention to be a nasty bitch and make someone who has had the day from hell feel even worse, then....well that's not good is it?

Well it’s not exactly ‘pointless’. He can’t run away if she walks him to school ‘lol’

So glad he is home and is safe and well, the relief must be overwhelmimg, my heart was in my mouth checking this thread for updates.

Totally agree, I walk to the school to collect my younger child, my Year 6 child walks home with friends. The only ones escorted by parents live further away and are waiting to be driven, but even then they walk to the cars without parents.
The majority in years 5/6 walk themselves.

When my daughter ran away, the policewoman went to her friend’s house and called DD from the friends mobile and she answered. She did hang up quickly but at least I knew she was alive. (She was hiding at a different friend’s house).

you have my sympathies- it was a dreadful time. If it’s any consolation she has turned into a very caring and successful young woman but these early years were hell.

Oh thank goodness OP, I'm so glad.

A troll? Because I asked why she wasn’t walking him to school at 10? I think you need to get more information about what a ‘troll’ means. Secondly I said it once he was found. Doesn’t make me a ‘nasty bitch’ at all. He’s 10. Anything could happen we don’t live in a ‘safe’ world anymore like 20+yrs ago. There is more ‘nasty bitch’s’ out there trust me lol

He ran out of the house before school... soooo.. my point still stands

It does make you come across as a nasty bitch.
It really does.

Anything can happen at any age though.

A 12 year old, y8 boy got mugged literally outside the secondary school my dc go to at 8.30 in the morning. When do you stop walking your dc to school?

Being in y6 is a completely normal age to walk to and from school

I’ve been called worse tbf 🤣