To give his head a wobble?

[MyCoatOfManyColours]

My dd had a baby by c-section 4 months ago. She has currently got mastitis and is understandably feeling quite grotty. Baby is EBF.

Her partner is quite crap at doing stuff around the house, saying he goes out to work so shouldn't have to do domestic stuff as she's home all day.

Stupid stuff like leaving undies and socks on the bathroom floor and leaving cups in the sitting room are starting to build resentment in my dd.

This morning he called her weak. She says he has little/no sympathy for the fact she has had major abdominal surgery less than 6 months ago, and that at the mo, she's quite ill.

He will only 'help'witht the baby if he's asked to. He has said he'll do more stuff around the house if she tells him what to do.

WTF is it with these manchildren? I've got a teenage son and if he grows up like this I'll be having words with him. As it is, he knows how to use a washing machine, he can wash up, hoover, do all the usual domestic drudgery.

I really want to give dd's bloke (36 yo)a shake and tell him he's making like difficult for her. He needs to bloody pull his finger out at home and do some of the crap.

Would that be a bad idea ?!

Guess it would, but how can I help her?

Stay out of it, your dd if she makes up with him wont appericate you meddling.
however you can tell her to go on strike - just do hers & the babys stuff. Leave his stuff, he will soon learn when he runs out of clean clothes!

My husband was like this but I can confirm, 2 children and 18years later he is much better.

And Yes, he’s being a dickhead!

Because in my experience it's usually the mum that picks after these man children and does their washing and cleaning. Surely you realise that?

Irrelevant. They are still adults and know how to treat other people. They wouldn't expect their room mates to tidy after them. And it's not just the actual housework, it's the attitude he has towards her. He couldn't care less about her or her well being. You don't look at someone you love drowning and step on their head.

My mum was my first teacher. She taught me it's acceptable to smack children in the mouth if they annoy you. Funnily enough as an adult I have subsequently rectified that lesson. However if I smacked my kid in the mouth tomorrow that's my fault entirely, not my mum's. Adults have responsibility for their own actions.

It's not his mum's fault he's a turd now as a 30 something grown ass man, it's his. If you stop growing, learning and bettering yourself in childhood there's something wrong with you.

So you are blaming her for his bad behaviour? Make your mind up.

I'd have to say something to the pathetic manchild!

That’s so lovely. My son is the same. Baby 5 months old. He works hard also to make sure they’re looked after ❤️