To tell off kids in the pub

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Out for drinks in our local, lots of kids around due to fireworks which didn’t make it especially chilled but one particular group sitting there playing on iPads which was quite annoying so I asked them to turn it down/use headphones. Cue massive over reaction from parents saying they’re quite within their rights, we upset the kids etc etc.

AIBU to think that after 8pm on a Friday night in a pub is adult time and if you’ve got kids there you look out for them not leave an iPad as a babysitter

YANBU and they were entitled twats. Anyone using any type of gadget with noise in public, should be wearing earphones. Nobody should be inflicting their noise on other people. It's everywhere now, trains, buses, pubs, cafes.

It is completely selfish to have the sound up.

YANBU
We have kids. Ipads and phone noise is so annoying.
I absolutely can't stand these types of parents.

Of course a pub that sells alcohol and not food is an adult environment, don't be ridiculous!

unless the kids ran off to tell them you told them off?

Yes they did, why imply I'm making this up. We were in one room - the back bar I suppose - and the parents in the other/front bar

Also - no I don't hate kids but I dislike badly behaved ones who haven't been taught basic manners and I do hate entitled arsehole parents who don't parent them properly.

The sound of other peopes electronic gadgets is hell to some, just use headphones, its so easy

Not all kids need screens to be entertained

Took the words out of my mouth. 👏

YANBU and it does my head in. I have a toddler and so know how 1) life changes, you can't always access things so before like pub's at 8pm and 2) they're require your attention to entertain or if you rely on an ipad it's gotta have headphones!

I like the sound of kids engaging, bickering, chatting, laughing loudly, but I hate the sound of some distracting metallic sounding crap YouTube video or reel after reel after reel being watched. There's a difference between being intolerant of kids being kids and being sick of hearing other people's of any age, videos or music on their devices on public.

I think we need some pubs to be adult only just to save us from obnoxious parents who abandon their kids to annoy everyone else while they have a nice quiet, child free, drink at the bar.

I’m struggling to understand the “badly behaved/no manners” part? They were sat playing on iPads, did you want them up running about because let’s face it, they would’ve being running about bored, you can’t expect them to just sit there doing nothing and not move!!
YANBU about the noise coming from them, I tell my own to turn them down at home if they’re loud or go away somewhere else, but I’ll be honest you come across very snobby and entitled, should the kids have been there in the first place, no, but they were and you don’t want them on iPads, you wanted the parents to sit staring at them or what? Because you keep saying they should have being watching them. What did the kids do that was so bad that you are claiming they’re badly behaved with no manners?? As far as I can make out they were sat playing on their iPads minding their own business and you got annoyed with the noise, which that part is fair enough, but I’ve a feeling you were pretty hostile towards the kids the way you said it to them, but you’ll probably have yourself convinced you asked nicely 😂

They are not minding their own business if their ipads are disturbing others, and its not a binary choice of screens or running around

No I probably was sharper than I should have been because it’s not really the kids’ fault. But I do think it’s bad behaviour to use a device like that in public with no headphones whether it’s an adult or a kid and it’s a shame they haven’t been taught that. And that the parents would rather have a pint with their mates than actually interact with their kids - not sure why you think they’d sit there staring at them instead of talking or whatever.

If you want adults only then go to a bar.

Really stupid of these parents to bring young kids to a pub in the evening in the first place, not to mention that they should not just leave them on their own.

So many parents these days are truly lazy, entitled and completely irresponsible.

What's the difference, in this context?

I think it's pretty much accepted that a pub which doesn't sell food is an adult environment.

equally irritating are the (adult) people who sit at a table and then phone somebody on speakerphone or decide pub/restaurant/cafe is the perfect place for the family zoom call. DP and I had this last week in a v expensive restaurant!

Sadly yes. The entitlement is off the charts with some.

I think I would have complained to the pub staff rather than approaching the children directly.

“It takes a village.”

The original concept was that everyone in the community is free to rebuke children in order to shape their character and behaviour.

Oh come on! This is the biggest load of claptrap I’ve read in years!

Kids need pubs? FFS.

Kids and dogs in pubs. Shouldn’t be allowed

If the kids must game, they can wear headphones or play cards

I can’t fathom why anyone would take children to the pub, it’s an unsafe/uncomfortable environment for children. I can’t really blame the children for the iPads or behaviour but the parents for putting them in the situation in the first place.

It was very common and acceptable when I was a child, to go to the pub with the kids for hours, and it was a safeguarding nightmare. I’m very glad there are stronger restrictions on it now. Even if there wasn’t always perverse old men leering at underage girls it was boring, loud and miserable.

The pub/restaurant places that are designed for children are slightly better but I still don’t think mixing drinking alcohol, people shouting watching football and children playing is a good idea personally.

A play area with a café is a much more family friendly environment, no need for iPads.

Totally, that's why I'm curious as to whether pp who thought we should all stay at home if we didn't like it is also of the 'it takes a village' ilk... that would be irony indeed.