Dirty sink.

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If you're a cleaner or housekeeper, how do you feel about this:

Stay at home mum of two, kids at school all day. Very capable, no medical issues.

Leaves milk out opened, dishes on the side of the sink, teabags in the sink.

Dirty kitchen towel on the floor.
Obviously have to pick the towel up to clean the floor but clearing the rest seems to be enabling her to do more mess.
Easy option is to get another job of course, which I'm looking into, but how to deal with this day to day.
First thing when coming into work is being confronted by this scene everyday.
YABU- just clear up.
YANBU- An adult should be able to do bare minimum and put stuff back/bin.

Don't mind the milk, jam, butter etc but the tebags in the sink and towel on the floor grates so much!
Trained in a different field and this was meant to be a little side thing to get me out of the house, but could be a sign I'm not cut out for it.
On the whole, enjoy the job as I'm a natural homemake. Thanks.

Don't think this is too bad. What was the agreement when she hired you for the job?

Towel on floor is very scruffy. If this is the worse thing you have to tidy, I don't think it is too shocking.

If the toilets are left in a state, I would draw a line at that and leave the job.

I think some people just don't 'see' mess. Or they know it's there but they don't care, either because they grew up in a house like that, or the opposite (obsessive cleaning) and they're rebelling.

DH leaves the milk out. His DM does it. If I put it away, minutes later it's out again. He leaves teabags to drain in the sink because he doesn't squeeze them and doesn't want tea in the food bin.

Some people are just messy. I wouldn’t really think anything of it, I’d just decide whether I was willing to do the job or not.

Can't vote really.

Of course said person "should" be able to do these things, but they have engaged you - presumably so they don't have to.

So do you go in and work for them everyday?

when I win the euromillions and employ a housekeeper, I’m never doing a thing again. Including putting my teabags in the bin (not that I will ever make my own tea again, I’ll have a little old man with a teapot following me about the grounds).

If she’s paying for housekeeping everyday, she probably has the same thinking.

I love that you specifically want your tea maker to be small, elderly and male 😂

He will wear a bow tie and a hat and tell me stories of London in the olden days. I’ll treat him well and get him a stocking at Christmas. I’ve really over thought this 🤣 in reality, the kind of chap and the stories I want, the poor bloke would have to be about 112 years old, so it’s firmly a fantasy.

Well maybe that's why shes hired you? She cant keep on top of it and doesn't manage it well, so shes got help in and is paying for it.

I really hope that one day you achieve your dream! 😂

Not sure why the teabags grate so much. I've cleared everything else in the past and left just them as they're in the smaller sink bowl.
I see it as hiring a receptionist and expecting her to hold the phone to your ear sorr of thing.

What's she like to you personally? Many people are just not aware of mess. My in laws live in a tip. My DM is one of the tidiest people you'll meet.

No tebags were mentioned 😅. Loos are hit and miss (excuse the pun) but overall ok.
I will be leaving, it's how to not let this cause a red mist every time I come in.

Haha, but he would be in charge of disposing said teabags, milk etc.

She can though if she chooses to. She won't do it if a friend is coming over.

She's ok, but has a bit of down looking about her, which she'd never think herself to be.

I have a cleaner but I don't expect her to tidy

She may be ND and genuinely not see mess. I mean it’s not like she’s leaving shit stained toilets or dirty knickers on the floor.
Do your job in the time you have. If you find it upsetting then drop her as a client, but it sounds like she really needs your services!

You do what you’re contracted to do. End of story. If your contract is that you will only clean perfectly tidy areas, you remind the client of this fact and perform your contracted role to the best of your abilities.

You've been hired as a cleaner, not a life coach. ‘Clearing the rest seems to be enabling her to do more mess’ is an INCREDIBLY inappropriate and judgmental view to be taking.

She just has different standards and so is coping with it by hiring help. It might feel to you that she is treating you with disrespect. I bet she is so self-absorbed, she would never consider it rude to leave towels on the floor.

Definitely leave if the job is causing you too much irritation especially if the toilets are sometimes very grotty!

I think if a daily housekeeper it’s probably not unreasonable and why she needs the daily help.

It’s not like you’re coming in 2 hours a week to
clean and not able to as it’s such a mess.

But if you don’t like it, get a new job.

I used to clean for myself and had one client who would have washing all over the table, 2-3 days of pots on the sides, I used to go for 3 hours and clean the kitchen diner, front room and downstairs loo. I used to do all washing up and sorting the washing, etc this was never agreed but to be able to do my job I had to

I went in one day, walked in the kitchen, put some empty can in the bin, thought I can't do this and walked back out, posted my key through the door and quit.

I had another where it took me half an hour washing up and clearing the tops to be able to clean the kitchen - again got to a point where i could not face it anymore and quit.

I wouldn't care but they were both professional women with goods jobs, OK you have kids and are busy and have a cleaner but have to some pride.

How much an hour is she paying? I also have a housekeeper fantasy😀

No, that would be the job of my housekeeper.

If you were employed as a housekeeper, I don’t really think you can complain. And I don’t think it’s fair for people to say she can’t manage. I manage to keep a clean and tidy house, but if I could afford help, I wouldn’t be doing a thing as I’d be employing someone to do it for me. That’s the whole point.

I’m so confused, are you a cleaner? How do you honestly know she’s well able or not taken up with other things?

(Not a sahm but just this morning one ds realised they’d lost a school reading log and the other spilt something all over their jumper, saying they don’t have sn is nothing- they’re kids, they’ll find a way to have you running about!!)

Op you’re in the wrong job if you judge people for their mess. I actually always thought the pin mn who had cleaners were messing when they said they couldn’t leave the place untidy for the cleaner, it’s actually depressing as my dream is to someday get someone in to help out even for a day but you think she’s bad you’d judge the hell out of me!!