Dirty sink.

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If you're a cleaner or housekeeper, how do you feel about this:

Stay at home mum of two, kids at school all day. Very capable, no medical issues.

Leaves milk out opened, dishes on the side of the sink, teabags in the sink.

Dirty kitchen towel on the floor.
Obviously have to pick the towel up to clean the floor but clearing the rest seems to be enabling her to do more mess.
Easy option is to get another job of course, which I'm looking into, but how to deal with this day to day.
First thing when coming into work is being confronted by this scene everyday.
YABU- just clear up.
YANBU- An adult should be able to do bare minimum and put stuff back/bin.

You don't like her and resent her for having a more comfortable life. Perhaps for both your sakes it is best to move on

Btw I used to help out at the Philippines embassy giving practical assistance and moral support to housekeepers who had been maltreated. It wasn't teabags they were dealing with.

Down to brass tacks.😂

Here we go.... 🎻 .

More comfortable doesn't mean happy, so you are wrong.

My adult daughter always leaves her teabag on the sink yet she is generally the tidy one out of all of us. Drives me mad.

However, if you are a daily housekeeper I’d expect to be dealing with the mess left by morning rush. Sounds like my house when I used to get back from school runs when mine were little.

It would be different if you were coming in once a week to deep clean. It sounds like this client wants the daily mess taken care of and general housework.

You have got the 'ick' about your employer. Just quit and find somewhere else but next time discuss exactly what your job involves, what you are prepared to do and not do.

Also mention that you have an intense dislike of used teabags in sinks so will refuse to deal with them. No more used teabags! 😉

Leave, don't leave. Maybe upskill so you can leave your teabags for the next lady. Stewing in resentment is not healthy for you.

Ooh, true colours coming out, look down on cleaners?

Would never leave teagbags for someone else to dispose of, is that what "upskilled" means to you.

Haha, hate that word but that maybe it!

First client I've come across who does it, but then again she didn't do it for a good three years.

I am leaving, but it's the now till then to deal with.

I've had cleaners since I was in my 20's and I do not think it is fair for them to tidy. I pay them to clean, which they do better than I do.

I clear the decks so they can clean. When I had DC at home I would just say if there's anything on the floor, dump it on the sofa, up a corner or whatever.

Leave.

In the past I helped out housekeepers who had been forced to have abortions after the husband had attacked them, who had had their passports confiscated by their employer and not received promised help with visa, who had been physically controlled, locked up, left in charge of newborns, who had been forced to buy drugs for their employer who then hung them out to dry.

I don't think you are for real at all fwiw.

And what's that got to do with teabags?

I'm a cleaner and have a client who is an absolute nightmare when it comes to picking up after herself. The floors are covered in clothes, dirty, week-old dishes spread around the house and toilet and sinks are an absolute state. She did warn me in the beginning how bad the house was and I think she has either depression or some form of metal health condition. She is lovely though and has 2 young children so I'm happy to support her and she's always grateful.

In the past, I've cleaned HMOs and found some of the tenants to be purposely disrespectful like the man who would take an enormous shit as soon as I arrived and not flush, or the woman that left used sanitary products on the floor of the shared bathroom. I quit that job as it felt like some weird power play from the tenants.

Thank you.
I don't mind a bit of tidying and have helped with other jobs around the house.

Certainly don't expect a client to clean before I come, but some things just tip you over, and in my case, it's the teabags for some reason 😅.

You only have to look at the replies to see which posters view cleaners as beneath them.

Grew up with housekeepers and it was drilled into us that they were not our slaves.

Also, your client sounds lovely.
If there was a medical condition I'd not bat an eyelid.

3 days a week is a lot! ‘A little help’ sounds like a house keeper I am afraid.

Shes pays you to do the things she doesnt want to do.

I think if youre feeling degraded or angry because you consider her being untidy as lazy or disrespectful to you, then you definitely shouldnt be cleaning for her.

If she had employed you as a gardener because she hated gardening, would you judge her for not having weeded before you arrived?

Introduce a system. Use one of her bowls or pots on the side of the sink & say “this is for teabags from now on”.

Maybe if she left dog mess or kids toys scattered in the garden.

Like I've said numerous times, I don't expect her to clean, just to put the tebag in the bin.

This is a good idea, which is what we do at home.