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why do you wear a poppy?

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oiolehnvn · 06/11/2025 11:45

Lots of red poppies around us at the moment. Disclaimer I am not British but come from a country that is currently waging a war, in fact technically two countries that have been in the news for waging wars and have always been uncomfortable with people supporting or celebrating our army. I am therefore puzzled as to why the Brits wear poppies ever year. If you choose to wear one, what's your rationale? Equally, if you do not - what's yours?

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BinaryDot · 08/11/2025 14:03

Because in my family, and most other British families, young working-class men who had barely ever left their home towns volunteered or were sent to go to hellish battlefields in Europe, Asia and Africa in two world wars.

Many of them didn't come back to their families, many who returned were physically and psychologically disabled. Meanwhile their families were uprooted, suffered privations, lived in constant fear of bomb strikes and invasion. When I remember my family, I have to remember all the other families who have been through wars and conflicts in defence of my country.

That soldiers from my country were previously sent to fight colonial and civil wars initiated by powerful leaders does not diminish anything that ordinary soldiers and civilians have had to sacrifice in service.

In WWII, a truly huge contribution was made by the many soldiers and civilians in what were then British territories in South and Southeast Asia, the Middle East, Africa and the Caribbean who went into the war on the Allied side, not forgetting the brave Irish soldiers who also went.

In later years, British soldiers were sent to fight all over the world, risking death and disability and struggling to adjust to civilian life afterwards.

I have led such a comfortable and secure life in this country compared to them and the very, very least I can do is wear a bloody poppy to remember all of those peoples' sacrifices and contribute some cash to veterans' charities.

Wearing a poppy isn't an endorsement of governments or war leaders or ideologies, It's a specific act of acknowledgement and remembrance. I'm pleased to see the purple poppies this year to also mark the loss of many service animals who died in the wars.

I despise the kinds of people who, for their own gormless political aims, attempt to disparage poppy day and remembrance.

BringBackCatsEyes · 09/11/2025 12:05

I got one of the new poppies yesterday - thin card/paper, no plastic and a sticker rather than a pin.
I stuck it on my coat and walked to the village war memorial and noticed the sticker poppy didn't make it!

cardibach · 09/11/2025 12:06

BringBackCatsEyes · 09/11/2025 12:05

I got one of the new poppies yesterday - thin card/paper, no plastic and a sticker rather than a pin.
I stuck it on my coat and walked to the village war memorial and noticed the sticker poppy didn't make it!

Odd. I wore mine to play in a concert. I’m a flautist somid have been repeatedly knocking it. Never budged. It was difficult to remove, and it stuck firmly to something else after - maybe you had a faulty one. I’ve lost umpteen pinned on ones though.

celticnations · 09/11/2025 13:25

Hardly anyone wearing one here in the Highlands & Grampian. There are clusters eg in Forres near RAF Lossiemouth & Kinloss Barracks.

BringBackCatsEyes · 09/11/2025 13:30

cardibach · 09/11/2025 12:06

Odd. I wore mine to play in a concert. I’m a flautist somid have been repeatedly knocking it. Never budged. It was difficult to remove, and it stuck firmly to something else after - maybe you had a faulty one. I’ve lost umpteen pinned on ones though.

I suspect it might have been the fabric it was stuck to. It's a Uniqlo jacket and I just looked up what's it made of - 100% Elastomultiester whatever the heck that is

ThatCyanCat · 09/11/2025 14:00

I was at my local remembrance service this morning and there was plenty of attention given to the importance and value of peace (it's always been rather the point for me). The local army battalion/regiment (sorry, I'm not good with the correct terms) and RBL representatives were there, so I assume they had no objection to this.

cardibach · 09/11/2025 16:23

ThatCyanCat · 09/11/2025 14:00

I was at my local remembrance service this morning and there was plenty of attention given to the importance and value of peace (it's always been rather the point for me). The local army battalion/regiment (sorry, I'm not good with the correct terms) and RBL representatives were there, so I assume they had no objection to this.

I think those who have had to fight or may have to in the future, or who have been affected by war, are generally in favour of maintaining peace.

ThatCyanCat · 09/11/2025 16:36

cardibach · 09/11/2025 16:23

I think those who have had to fight or may have to in the future, or who have been affected by war, are generally in favour of maintaining peace.

I would certainly think so.

ThatCyanCat · 09/11/2025 16:58

"Rather hoped I’d get through the whole show. Go back to work at Pratt & Sons; keep wicket for the Croydon gentlemen; marry Doris. Made a note in my diary on the way here. Simply says: ‘Bugger'."

TimeForATerf · 09/11/2025 17:03

Yes, and like probably most multi generational Brits, I has ancestors (my grandmothers siblings) who went to war as teenagers and never returned and the one that did never recovered from his shell shock and ended his days as a tramp.

i will continue to wear one.

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