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To wonder why people are so scared

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MattCauthon · 06/11/2025 11:03

I've noticed recently, in RL and on here and in other SM, that there are a lot of people who get very upset/scared about things that I think are just not rational. I'm not talking about people who have anxiety issues or even who have been endlessly abused/controlled by a partner/parent etc which has led to them being unable to see the wood for the trees.

But a few examples:

complicated boring backstory but woman was being harassed and threatened by the father of a child in her kid's class, and she works at the school. She is now terrified that she will be fired becaus of this other dad (very very clear that she has done nothing wrong, and this other dad has been in public arguments with other people in the past so has a long history at the school of poor behaviour).

The endless hysteria about children being kidnapped when it's actually extraordinarily rare.

Passport photo signing or witnessing legal documents - I've lost count of the people who can't seem to find anyone to do this because people are scard to put their name to these sorts of things. I've done about 20 passport photos for various friends/school parent families because I am fully aware that there's no personal risk to me when I say, "yes, that's the child I've known for five years as John Smith who has been in the same class as my child since reception" or "yes, I have witnessed these two people signing this document."

A friend who is too scared to tell the school about her DH's anxiety issues, even though it directly impacts their child and he's been playing up a little in class and frankly, needs a bit more support. She is scared the school will "do something". But I can't work out what? She's a great parent who is doing her best to support her DC and her DH, her DH is seeking appropriate medical treatment etc.

When did we lose so much trust in each other and every organisation in the world?

OP posts:
Ploptwerp · 11/11/2025 19:05

I’m not scared
I’m not aware of people around me or even the wider community being “scared”

I wonder if they might be a little scared around you OP?!

2010Aussie · 11/11/2025 19:26

MattCauthon · 08/11/2025 10:31

As a witness, my obligation is to ensure I am witnessing them signing THIS document, I am not responsible for the contents of that document. So sure, I would sign as a witness for a document I have just the basic understanding of. Because it doesn't matter what it says.

Absolutely. You are witnessing the person who is signing the document, not agreeing to the terms and conditions therein themselves.

The problem is that it's becoming increasingly difficult to get documents verified/certified. My occupation allows me to do this - I'm on the list of 'responsible people' (they obviously don't know me) and I will happily do this for nothing for people I know. The alternative is that folk have to go to their GP or a solicitor who will charge them through the nose (one friend was quoted £450 by a solicitor to countersign a passport application)

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