Did I give too much?

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Nursery manager called me and asked if I was ok giving £50 to a member of staff who is no longer my child's key worker. It was a gift card. Maybe the staff member had to report it but she's been part of my child's life for 1.5 years being a key worker and I appreciate her....(And appreciate her not to get anything but cash she can spend on herself)

Maybe they thought you meant to give a £5 voucher and they were just checking.

it was very thoughtful of them to do that.

Early years is chronically underfunded and undervalued and I think most nursery staff are underpaid for the importance of the work they do.
I buy Christmas gift vouchers for the nursery staff who's salary to look after my children is around a quarter of my own salary. They work harder than I do for less money and my children adore them so its a mark of gratitude.
I'll be buying gift vouchers for them when my youngest leaves too. Again its a mark of gratitude for a job well done.
Your stance is bizarre and combined with your username coming across as quite bitter

That is exactly how I read it too.

I thought the same initially! I was thinking want sort of entitled nursery manager asks clients give £50 as a leaving gift?! And who on earth would?! but clearly the OP is a lot more generous than me! I was very confused 😄

Well acrually it sounds extremely patronising to me.
Like the lady of the manor rewarding the servants.

That was really generous of you @user12367e7e7and I’m sure it was appreciated.

To me that was a lot of money. But maybe it's not a lot to you. I hope the recipient appreciated it and I'm glad they declared it.

When I was working I would not have been allowed to accept it.

I'm not bitter. But I believe in a fair and equal society.

It's not up to individuals to subsides the wages of other peoples. If you feel these people are underpaid then you should be joining them in the fight for a fair wage for the job.

It really is patronising . You are treating these professional people like a charity to be donated to..

And " gifts" arent harmless. Otherwise organisations wouldn't see the need to put in strict rules and guidance about the receiving of gifts.

We are all outraged by politicians receiving gifts. Quite rightly . But it's hypocrisy to think that is wrong and recognise the danger of corruption without also recognising the dangers of favouritism in gifting teachers, medical staff etc. Not to mention the pressure it puts on people who can ill afford giving gifts.

It'll be part of theie anti-bribery policy that they have to check and record it. I'd just say yes it was a gift and you're happy and think no more of it

Well if you've been thick so have I, because that's exactly how I read it!

OP you sound like a lovely person.

Its a council organisation. Of course they have policies.

Stop being weird

@user12367e7e7

I don't think i am being weird.

I think it's weird giving professionals gifts for doing their job.

And wrong actually, on a lot of levels.

What happened to professional pride and personal satisfaction in doing your job well?

She asked if it was OK to check that it was a legitimate gift given by you without pressure. I once had to speak to a client about similar and it turned our the staff member had been telling the client all their financial woes and basically asking for money from them. Its basic due diligence to ensure its all above board.

She can still have that and I can still give a leaving gift.

I'm sorry you live a miserable life and don't want to show appreciation.

Ah right!

Yes I did it for two staff members.

I understand why they asked

You are being weird. It's a gift from a departing parent for 1.5 years of providing early years education support to their child.

The staff aren't involved in multi million pound budgets. Nor do they have infulence.

I used to tutor a boy at A level. He had sat it once and got an E. I tutored him for a year a couple of times each week and he resat and got an A. His Dad gave me a £500 bonus which I was shocked to get because he already paid me well per hour and gifted me a good bottle of wine at Xmas and my birthday.

Money well spent! Yes that excessive but so is rasing the self esteem and leaving of his boy.

I don't know if I would give money in that circumstance as it's 121 payment but well done on your tutoring

Wtf.

I'm not subsiding their wages. I'm giving her a leaving gift because I want to.

Politics make decisions and give contracts to people. You really comparing a nursery worker to that of a politican.

You seen really sour.