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UNHINGED woman screaming at me for “putting my dog in boot”

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:09

I don’t deny my dog was in the boot of my (saloon) car for 30 secs. BUT we get the dog to jump in the boot where we have towels to give him a wipe down before putting him on the back seat. The boot is totally self contained so OBVIOUSLY it would be very bloody cruel.

Did this yesterday and this nutter comes screaming over from the other side of the park’s car park asking if I was serious. I tried explaining to her what I was doing but she wouldn’t have any of it. It was really weird. I said go look at the backseat of my car where you will see a dog seatbelt and car seat cover. Clearly a set up for the dog. But she refused to look. Said I was only putting the dog in the back cause I got caught out. Took photos of my license plate and said she was going to post me online and report me. What the actual fuck. She was an inch from my face at one point.

It’s so bizarre!

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FullLondonEye · 05/11/2025 11:10

dailyconniptions · 05/11/2025 11:07

Fgs, have you never seen a saloon car? The boot's a closed box.

Christ on a bike! Does no-one read a thread anymore?

Yes, a saloon boot is 'separate' but as others have confirmed, in many or most saloons you can still fold the seats down so the boot is open to the rest of the car. Not a closed box.

Calliopespa · 05/11/2025 11:13

KoalaKoKo · 05/11/2025 10:58

Some people are just so wired they go around all day looking for fights. We used to have a rescue dog - likely half husky half golden retriever so a gorgeous blonde fluffy husky who had a few anxiety issues and verbalised a lot, definitely had suffered abuse before he was abandoned.

He used to get very excited on walks and pull and make husky sounds that sound a bit like complaining. We consulted a dog trainer and got a few tips so we would do things like when he was pulling me over I would stand on the lead and wait for as long as it takes for him to calm down - I would often also hold one of his ears as apparently it calms dogs. So one day I was standing there, stood on his lead, gently holding the ear as the dog yowled and pulled and had a woman approach and start screaming at me for abusing the dog. She claimed I was hitting the dog - her rational was that although she hadn’t seen me do it she knew because of the way the dog was yowling and pulling - she called the police who refused to come (likely not her first rodeo). She followed me for about 15minutes screaming at me - she was a young girl in her 20s.

They did a study where they monitored brain waves while getting people to say negative things and found that it actually alters people’s brain waves and they are then left more predisposed to having negative thoughts. Some people leave their houses prepared to get angry at something!

Oh this dog exclusively rode in boots, he would scramble and get anxious on the car seats so we put him in the boot (hatch back) removed the top and he would hang his head over the car seat and howl the whole way down the motorway - we avoided taking him anywhere lol.

Edited

Some people are just so wired they go around all day looking for fights.

Agree, You do notice this on MN - people are so quick to leap (even typos), and so many have to make snarky "FFS" or "FGS" type ejaculations about someone else's post.

It's just totally unnecessary.

Phobiaphobic · 05/11/2025 11:16

user2848502016 · 05/11/2025 10:34

Some dog owners are insane that’s all, they think they’re the only people in the world suitable for dog ownership. What you were doing was completely normal.
A woman shouted at me over the summer that my dog was at serious risk of dying from heatstroke and I needed to get him indoors at once - he had just come out of an air conned car and had a drink of water and it was only about 20c 😂 I would have found it funny if my kids hadn’t been with me and my youngest was upset thinking the dog was about to die!

You have to wonder if these people ever wonder how dogs survive in places like Australia and the Middle East.

HeyGuysItsNicole · 05/11/2025 11:24

I reckon she was having some sort of mental episode. What a weirdo.

CatkinToadflax · 05/11/2025 11:34

There are some very strange people out there. I expected to be put on SM a couple of years ago when I completely accidentally drove a bit too close to a horse - I didn’t even know it was there because it was behind a bend in the road. The man on the horse and the woman leading him screamed and shouted and gesticulated at me and I had to turn round and go back past them because I’d missed my turning. I stopped on the other side of the road and asked them what the problem was, and while the woman continued to scream and shout at me, the man walked the horse over to my car and kicked the car. It was bizarre and upsetting, but I figured that if they put me on SM then the video they took would be of them going completely bananas while I spoke to them calmly. Don’t worry about it OP.

spoonbillstretford · 05/11/2025 11:44

user2848502016 · 05/11/2025 10:34

Some dog owners are insane that’s all, they think they’re the only people in the world suitable for dog ownership. What you were doing was completely normal.
A woman shouted at me over the summer that my dog was at serious risk of dying from heatstroke and I needed to get him indoors at once - he had just come out of an air conned car and had a drink of water and it was only about 20c 😂 I would have found it funny if my kids hadn’t been with me and my youngest was upset thinking the dog was about to die!

I know, I do worry about these people when it's like 15C out and I've left the dog to go and get a parking ticket or to go into the Spar.

Also people going on about hot pavements. Barbara, it has been 20C for two days now, the tarmac is not going to be melting my dog's paws.

LankylegsFromOz · 05/11/2025 11:45

Better to towel them in a boot, than outside thus having to contain their inevitable zoomies 🤣

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 05/11/2025 11:46

I remember walking a friend's whippet once and some woman stopped me and told me I was starving my dog and ought to be reported.

I suspect it might have been her first day out in public. I wouldn't worry, OP. For every vigilante who will join her in her ranty outbreaks, there will be fifty people who will shrug and think how over the top she is. Even if she posts it on a local Facebook page, you would be ASTONISHED at how few people care.

REP22 · 05/11/2025 11:48

What?!? My beloved dog travels in the boot as a matter of course. He has a bed in there and a dog guard fitted to the rear seats by Halfords to prevent him jumping over. He has a seatbelt attachment that would enable him to sit on the rear seat securely, but he doesn't like it and prefers the boot. In actual fact, I adopted his predecessor from The Dogs Trust - they will not allow you to take home your adopted dog in a car unless you have a seatbelt attachment OR a boot dog guard - similarly the Blue Cross, from which I adopted my present sidekick. So they advocate secure boot travel.

A lot of my colleagues (farm and country park rangers) have canine colleagues. It is workplace policy that these dogs travel securely in the boots of work vehicles.

Police dogs travel in secure crates in the boots of the squad cars.

This lady was, indeed, entirely unhinged. Any posts she makes on social media are likely to highlight her utter wingnuttery to whoever sees them and should reflect on you only as a caring and responsible dog owner.

Edited - I didn't appreciate it was a closed-boot situation. But I stand by my view on her nuttiness. If she'd filmed you actually shutting the boot on a whimpering and trembling dog - well, OK. But it will have been obvious what you were doing. Plenty of people towel off their dogs in the boot before putting them in the main part of the car. Or even their small children - I can remember my brother and I being sat on the back of the car coming back from the beach when we were little, while mum or dad towelled the sand off our legs and feet. Some people are determined to be angry. Don't let them get to you @Brouge x

spoonbillstretford · 05/11/2025 11:49

CatkinToadflax · 05/11/2025 11:34

There are some very strange people out there. I expected to be put on SM a couple of years ago when I completely accidentally drove a bit too close to a horse - I didn’t even know it was there because it was behind a bend in the road. The man on the horse and the woman leading him screamed and shouted and gesticulated at me and I had to turn round and go back past them because I’d missed my turning. I stopped on the other side of the road and asked them what the problem was, and while the woman continued to scream and shout at me, the man walked the horse over to my car and kicked the car. It was bizarre and upsetting, but I figured that if they put me on SM then the video they took would be of them going completely bananas while I spoke to them calmly. Don’t worry about it OP.

Edited

I thought I was going to end up on there - got yelled at by a horse rider for jogging really slowly at dusk with my hi vis and running light on (pointing at the ground) on the other side of the road to the horse. Not sure how the horse would cope with a car and headlights coming past if it was getting upset about someone going at walking speed with a light.

dailyconniptions · 05/11/2025 11:51

REP22 · 05/11/2025 11:48

What?!? My beloved dog travels in the boot as a matter of course. He has a bed in there and a dog guard fitted to the rear seats by Halfords to prevent him jumping over. He has a seatbelt attachment that would enable him to sit on the rear seat securely, but he doesn't like it and prefers the boot. In actual fact, I adopted his predecessor from The Dogs Trust - they will not allow you to take home your adopted dog in a car unless you have a seatbelt attachment OR a boot dog guard - similarly the Blue Cross, from which I adopted my present sidekick. So they advocate secure boot travel.

A lot of my colleagues (farm and country park rangers) have canine colleagues. It is workplace policy that these dogs travel securely in the boots of work vehicles.

Police dogs travel in secure crates in the boots of the squad cars.

This lady was, indeed, entirely unhinged. Any posts she makes on social media are likely to highlight her utter wingnuttery to whoever sees them and should reflect on you only as a caring and responsible dog owner.

Edited - I didn't appreciate it was a closed-boot situation. But I stand by my view on her nuttiness. If she'd filmed you actually shutting the boot on a whimpering and trembling dog - well, OK. But it will have been obvious what you were doing. Plenty of people towel off their dogs in the boot before putting them in the main part of the car. Or even their small children - I can remember my brother and I being sat on the back of the car coming back from the beach when we were little, while mum or dad towelled the sand off our legs and feet. Some people are determined to be angry. Don't let them get to you @Brouge x

Edited

You're not understanding the type of boot OP is talking about. It is a CLOSED BOX. You cannot put a guard on the seats becauseits not set up that way. But OP wasn't shutting him in there anyway.

bridgetreilly · 05/11/2025 11:54

Worst reading comprehension thread on the internet?

It DOES NOT MATTER what the boots on other makes of car are like. The OP has posted a photo of hers. I do not understand why this has become a thread about car design, rather than nutters in real life and online.

REP22 · 05/11/2025 11:56

dailyconniptions · 05/11/2025 11:51

You're not understanding the type of boot OP is talking about. It is a CLOSED BOX. You cannot put a guard on the seats becauseits not set up that way. But OP wasn't shutting him in there anyway.

Thanks, yes, got it - I have edited my post. Closed boots and saloon cars are not something I encounter very often, hehe

Mollydoggerson · 05/11/2025 12:01

A woman approached me on the green yesterday attempting to engage in some tiny, cute, doggy rivalry. It was v odd indeed.

Is it midlife madness? The Internet? Everything is a virtue signalling, self obsessed panto.

Nowt as queer as folk!

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 05/11/2025 12:05

There are so many bloody busy bodies around these days. So many cats being picked up as stray or lost when they aren't. Then so many people jumping in to offer said non-missing cat a home, like Barbara dear it probably has a home stray cats aren't usually well fed.

I get fed up with the patronising posts about walking dogs in the heat the moment it gets above 20c. Then the ones about dogs barking etc.

BerryTwister · 05/11/2025 12:07

I assume you're thinking the photos will go on a local facebook page. Do any of your friends have Facebook accounts that might see it? I'd ask them to look out for it, and if she posts, they can reply "I'm glad you've posted. My friend wanted your name to report you to the police for threatening behaviour, so now I can pass on your name".

Katiesaidthat · 05/11/2025 12:08

usedtobeaylis · 05/11/2025 11:00

Just as well she didn't see me sitting my daughter in the boot at the beach to get the sand off her feet or she would have combusted.

Edited

Hehe I do the same, since she was tiny. She´s now 7 and seats herself in the boot!

Frugalgal · 05/11/2025 12:11

Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:09

I don’t deny my dog was in the boot of my (saloon) car for 30 secs. BUT we get the dog to jump in the boot where we have towels to give him a wipe down before putting him on the back seat. The boot is totally self contained so OBVIOUSLY it would be very bloody cruel.

Did this yesterday and this nutter comes screaming over from the other side of the park’s car park asking if I was serious. I tried explaining to her what I was doing but she wouldn’t have any of it. It was really weird. I said go look at the backseat of my car where you will see a dog seatbelt and car seat cover. Clearly a set up for the dog. But she refused to look. Said I was only putting the dog in the back cause I got caught out. Took photos of my license plate and said she was going to post me online and report me. What the actual fuck. She was an inch from my face at one point.

It’s so bizarre!

Jesus, she's sounds like an absolute nutter..

gamerchick · 05/11/2025 12:11

Don't worry OP. The load of us who are on SM would probably be happy to step in if it pops up. You met a loon, there are a lot of them about. Don't give it any more thoughts

piscofrisco · 05/11/2025 12:12

My dogs travel in the boot without the parcel shelf so they see what’s going on. They have a big basket in there. Can’t see the issue.

opencecilgee · 05/11/2025 12:12

People are unhinged where dogs are concerned and need to mind their own business

RandomMess · 05/11/2025 12:13

Well if it gets back to you with who has posted on line etc you can report her to the police for her behaviour.

lurcherlove · 05/11/2025 12:23

There’s some absolute nutjobs about there. I had someone post about me and my dog, something that was completely made up but really awful. It upset me for a long time. I didn’t know about it until my SIL sent me a screenshot asking if it was about my dog. I asked the page owner to take it down. It is their responsibility to make sure there are no libellous posts on the page they run. Or was at the time.

That will sound OTT to some, but there were several pitchfork comments by the time I saw the post.

Soggyspaniel · 05/11/2025 12:34

Even if you were popping the dog in your boot which is a sealed box, they would have been absolutely fine for a short while. They would have just had a lay down whilst you drove home!

I adore and have always had dogs, but have noticed people are getting more and more bonkers about them. They’re dogs. Not people. They will survive.

Sez1990 · 05/11/2025 12:37

Even if she posts you online, people will not pass you in the street thinking “Omg that’s the lady who put her dog in the boot!!”. They will forget you in an instant because immediately next there will be a photo of a local weirdo knocking doors or a paedophile or someone who scammed someone else on Facebook.
If you are worried you could take photos of your back seat and get a friend to look out for posts where they could post the truth for you. If she really is unhinged then people will get that vibe from what she says. But I don’t think is something to worry about too much, especially as you haven’t done anything wrong

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