To find it uncomfortable when parents of MULTIPLE children complain about these things…

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Let’s face it I probably am being unreasonable here, but interested to hear other opinions.

Of course everyone’s feelings are valid and all of that jazz…

Maybe it’s because we had losses before having my DS and now potentially have another long road to having another child which is why it makes me uncomfortable.

I just feel a bit uncomfortable inside when I see people posting on TikTok Facebook or even on here about their gender disappointments with their fourth, fifth sixth or even seventh child.

Even when I was going through losses, one of my friends told me she understands how hard grieving is because it took her seven months to conceive her fourth child as her others were first month tries.

My heart goes out to anyone that experiences infertility or loss whether that’s your first child or eighth. But for some reason, gender disappointment or complaining about it taking a bit longer to get pregnant this time round. Just bugs me.

Before anyone says it, of course, it’s probably the same as me having one child and someone really wanting one and not being able to have one. I know I’m also so blessed.

People do this? Know they write on here-at least there is anonymity. Didn't know that about videos. They should keep it to themselves. Lack.of thought re potential discovery by 'disappointment later. 🙄

Personally wouldn't put being annoyed about others gender disappointment into the same bracket as people moaning about it taking longer to get pregnant.

It took us 7 years to get pregnant with my first so when it came to the second, I was fully prepared for another long uphill battle (ended up being 2nd month trying). If I had got pregnant first time trying twice, I would then worry/moan if, when I tried again, it just didn't seem to be happening and was giving me months and months of negative tests. It's normal to worry when things happen outside of your personals 'norms'.

Gender disappointment though, that's ridiculous so yanbu about that.

I've seen a few videos of gender reveals like that coming up on FB. I'm never sure whether or not they're genuine.

They tend to be Tik-Tok videos that have been re-posted on other platforms - sometimes there's a screaming mother; sometimes an irate father; sometimes you get a picture of a toddler bursting into tears because it wanted a brother, not a sister, or vice-versa.