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[Mummy621]

Am I being unreasonable here?? Iv been busy with the kids all day while partner been at work 6-2 so Iv had two kids home all day then picked the rest up from school been rushed off my feet since they got home then just made 8 kids dinners then made the baby a bottle and came sat down and said do you need me to get him his response “what now he’s asleep” so I said eh I’ll happily sit on my backside holding the baby whilst you do everything else I don’t mind he obviously didn’t respond but it’s annoyed me sooo much

I will never understand how women have multiple children with men who are incompetent and lazy.

Dont just rush around passive aggressively. Be direct and use your words.

“DH, whilst I’m making the kids dinner can you go and sort that washing out.”

”DH would you prefer to wash up and tidy the kitchen or do bath time.”

Remind him that you’re both the adults of the household and they are both your children.

Use your words.

He was already dealing with one of the children, the cranky baby.

OP, I completely understand what you're saying, most people commenting are just being dicks for the sake of it. My dp does nothing but sit in the living room while I do absolutely everything else, and seems to think he's a huge help just for being in the same room as the baby. It's frustrating.

Agree! I find it really hard to read threads like this.

Does your DP ever deal with the older children? If he only wants to cuddle the baby then I'd be annoyed too as let's face it that's a lot easier than dealing with older children.
If that is the case you need a cal. conversation where you decide how many evenings each of you deal with the baby/older children. So one night he cooks and gets the children to bed while you look after the baby, the next day you swap.
If he does also normally look after the older children too then YABU. It's annoying when you have to spell out to your partner what needs doing but if you don't you are just going to end up angry and burned out.

😂😂😂

You’re both tired. It’s easy to feel like a martyr and do the competitive tiredness thing but he wouldn’t have felt like he was doing nothing after getting up before dawn and working then settling a baby. Communication is key and sounds like you’re both just snapping at each other.
If you’ve chosen to have 4,5,6 whatever children you’ve both chosen this life and need to work together. He may or may not be useless depending on many factors but you don’t post clearly so I dunno.

you maybe could have had a conversation before you started a family about division of the childcare. No matter he has a job, he still should be more hands on with the childcare, unless you agreed at the onset to do it all yourself. Either way, perhaps ask for help from him.