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[Mummy621]

Am I being unreasonable here?? Iv been busy with the kids all day while partner been at work 6-2 so Iv had two kids home all day then picked the rest up from school been rushed off my feet since they got home then just made 8 kids dinners then made the baby a bottle and came sat down and said do you need me to get him his response “what now he’s asleep” so I said eh I’ll happily sit on my backside holding the baby whilst you do everything else I don’t mind he obviously didn’t respond but it’s annoyed me sooo much

I’m not getting aggressive I just don’t feel people are seeing my point and asking how many kids and stuff then making statements about the amount of kids I had here I just find it really rude tbh

Well you are wrong and snippy. Have a good day yourself.

I think it’s because you’re not clear in what you’re posting and what you’re unhappy about, and then you’re a bit snappy with other posters.

I’m just trying to explain it’s me always doing the cooking and stuff because he would rather just hold the baby then make me feel crap because he’s had hold of the baby iv not just been sat on my backside leaving him to deal with the baby, I didn’t mean to come across as rude to anyone

I don’t think you were particularly snappy- I think people heard 8 and you answered as you would!

Yeah that kind annoyed me as even if I did have 8 why would that matter to anyone and nobody should ever judge anyone for the amount of children ect

People have just gone off what you’ve said in your OP, your post implied you had 9 children and that is a lot and unusual. And you’ve said you were both busy all day, him working you with kids, then when all kids are home you’ve cooked while he’s held the fussy baby, which doesn’t sound unfair on either of you, sounds like splitting the jobs. Your OP missed the back story maybe

I’m new to this and don’t know how long post are allowed to be 🙈 I wasn’t trying to be rude to anyone so I do apologise to anybody I offended

So, you were basically cross with him because he was being a parent by taking care of the baby, and you didn’t deem that to be the right kind of being a parent?

It sounds to me like you were in a shit mood and would have found something to be pissed off about whatever he’d done.

I am lost. Is it just me but no idea what the issue is

No I was annoyed because when I got a minute to offer help with the baby he said what you wanna get him now he’s asleep as though I’d just been sat there doing nothing I literally didn’t have a minute to sit down for hours but like I said I would happily sit there and hold the baby while he’s making dinners ect but he doesn’t offer that yet feels like he can make me feel crap 🤷‍♀️

Burberry

Perhaps the utter lack of punctuation, spelling “I’ve” as “iv” and the incomprehensible stream of thought posting style - with no pause for breath - has thoroughly confused your audience. And if you’re like that verbally in real life, then perhaps you’ve alienated ALL MEN! your husband and father to your 9 kids.

I love threads like this on Mumsnet. Fair play to you OP with your 9 kids 👏🏻

Why did you offer to get the baby when he was already holding the baby right next to you and the baby was asleep?

Because he might have needed a minute as he hold him of him for a while and was cranky he had only just fallen asleep as I made the bottle

What exactly are you upset about?

So you have 9 kids?

No, she hasn't said how many she's got. Her kids had friends over, that's why there were 9. I think

Less kids, more full stops please.

As stated above for those who can read not all the kids were mine!!

So many lovely people on this site! Not all of the kids are mine!! Did you understand that sentence??

Well it would wouldn't it - one is hard work enough so if you got a shit partner to go along with it having more kids just makes your life more miserable but you've explained the kids had friends round but it doesn't make it an itrelevant point - what's the point in saying it's your body et cetera if you've landed yourself a shit partner and decided it's a good idea to have many kids with him of course it's a salient point to have made

Precisely. Somebody had to say it.👍

People on here are ridiculous sometimes. Yes OP I would also be annoyed if I did all of that and then my partner made a cranky comment about the fact I hadn't helped with the baby until then. Perhaps in future you can take the baby earlier and he can do half of all the rushing around x