To find my partners road rage disgusting?

[Brmbrm]

Just need a realty check as to whether I overreact on this subject really.
My partner does alot of driving for work so i can understand his frustrations, I also drive and encounter many idiots on my travels, people cut you up, are on the phone, speeding etc I just do what I'm doing and my motto is that hopefully karma gets those who drive and put themselves and other people in danger.

However my partner constantly is swearing and making gestures to people whenever we are driving, depending on what they've done it can range from calling them a twat/dickhead to more personal insults like fat bitch and even the c word. This isn't appropriate when a 6 year old is in the car is it?

I've told him to stop or if he must to use age appropriate language, he just doesn't care. People cut me up too but I dont swear at them when my 6 year old is with me (or even when shes not) because its not like they hear it or it will change anything. AIBU?

He will do it with the wrong person one day,all it takes is to do it with a coked up/steroid freak and he's bang in trouble.hopefully you aren't there when it happens.

That level of rage impairs concentration and safe driving. I would be more worried about that than the language, but that of course is also unacceptable.

I would not get in the car with himn, nor allow my child to.

My ex was like this. I knew him for almost a decade and not one time while driving did he not get road rage. It was every time, especially during his commute. It became very unattractive and after our relationship ended he tried to come back and we started talking as friends on the phone and he started ranting and raving while driving and it sealed the deal that I would never get back with him. It was one of the many things that made me lose all attraction for him. And when I think about it he was a very impatient and unkind person outside of driving as well, especially to people he deemed "lesser" or "annoying" - and I was included in that unkind treatment.

@Brmbrm - your choices are:

• stay and stand by as your child is exposed to his rage and abuse until she is able to leave home
• Leave him and bring her up in a safe environment.

He is unlikely to be an hands-on co-parenting dad.

• He’ll either not bother to see her at all
• or farm her off to his parents on his contact days
• or take her to McDonalds and the park for a few hours.

Do not let your fears stop you from doing what is best for you and your child.

I hear you. I did the same thing but eventually left mine. I was forced to coparent with him and it did not end well. I just wish I'd never met the bastard

My ex was exactly like this. He thought it was his "duty" to inform other drivers of their shortcomings

And unfortunately he was the DC's dad.

I find taxi drivers are almost zen in that nothing fases them. Your partner will probably die of apoplexy very soon

I find taxi drivers are almost zen in that nothing fases them. Your partner will probably die of apoplexy very soon

People like this have anger issues generally. I got a lift from someone once & he had to give way at a traffic calming thing & as the other car drove past he suddenly turned into a raging animal and screamed and gestured madly at the driver because he/she didn't say thank you. It would be easy to get angry at bad drivers but I remain as calm as possible as everybody makes mistakes

Can you just refuse to get in the car with him.
Also embarrass him in front of friends and family, say how aggressive he is mimic his angry face.

People who fly off the handle at the drop of a hat aka road ragers aren’t safe drivers, either. Aggressive, unpredictable and can’t regulate their emotions/testosterone.
Dad was like this. And also if there was ever a disagreement with my mum, you could feel the anger in the way he would drive. All round frightening to be around and bewildering for children. I find it pitiful and pathetic and don’t respect him, but I also feel the same way towards mum for being so passive about his anger issues and not giving us a safer childhood.

I wouldn’t go in the car with someone displaying road rage and i certainly wouldn’t let DC’s.

Similar to when a football team loses. I know a couple of men who are horrible to be around when their team loses