To insist on coat or blanket from car seat to house with 6 month baby?

[untitled1]

It’s 7°C outside and DS (6 months) needed to go from house to car, about 20 metres. He was wearing a cotton bodysuit/onesie with no vest underneath.

I thought he needed a coat/blanket and hat even for that short distance, especially as he’s just getting over a chest infection.

DH thought it was fine for such a short trip and that I was being over the top. He took DS out as he was- no hat, no coat, no blanket.

Am I being overprotective? Do babies really need full outdoor clothing for literally 30 seconds outside? Or is it important even for very short distances?

Is this something worth insisting on or am I overthinking it?

does he warm up the car first? i take the kids out in a blanket then wrap them in it as the car needs at least a few mins to warm up.

Lunacy . Honestly. We are creating children with absolutely zero physiological or emotional resilience.

It’d take longer to take the cost off when he got to the car than it would’ve taken him to walk to the car.

When we were in proper winter with icy mornings I would usually wrap a blanket around them to walk out and then cover them with the blanket when in the car but it’s not cold enough to be necessary yet in my opinion.

Why was he only wearing a babygro in 7degrees? Surely vest and cardi would have been standard clothing for that weather. When mine were babies the advice was babies should be wearing one layer more than you if you are comfortable. What were you wearing outside today?

Sounds like it became an argument because neither of you agreed that the other person was pushing for what was best for DS.

30 seconds of more warmth compared to uninterrupted sleep. Neither of these things were a big deal and whoever was carrying DS to the car should have been left to use their judgement.

agree. Just because you are his mum doesn't mean that you get to trump everything his father does.
Your DH is the child's father. As long as he's not pulling stupid stunts like giving him razor blades to play with, butt out and chill.

If you don'T, don't come back in 12 months whining about how you have to do everything all the time and your DH doesn't lift a finger.

But in the first line of the OP the baby is going from house to car. Also a fact.
Either way I would have a blanket on the baby in the car and going from the car to the house - because it only takes a few seconds to put one on. And because my house isn’t warm when I first come home (I don’t heat my house if I’m not in it!)

Congrats by the way on learning how to tag not one but seven people in one post. 😂

Not sure why posters are telling the OP off about what the baby was wearing. She was worried about him getting cold between the car and the house so it’s unlikely the baby has been out all afternoon in just a onesie. I’m sure they were nice and warm whatever they were doing.

The baby will be 100% fine without a coat, I wouldn’t have woken them up!

Babies lose heat easily , they generally need one more layer than adults. Op stated that her baby was also getting over a chest infection. I’d definitely have used a hat and blanket and just taken the hat off when in the car

@untitled1 I think you need to stop micromanaging your DH and let him make his own parenting decisions.

This is a 6 month old baby who has just been unwell recently? You are trying to normalise neglect

I can’t believe it’s normal to fret so much about 30 sec exposure to some cold air

Carrying a child from the car to inside without putting extra clothing on is not neglect! FFS.

Except the car could well be cold? And they don't heat up in the back instantly

So a hat and a blanket would be reasonable

Find the stats on babies who have frozen to death in a 20 metre transit from a car to a house which is assumably warm.
Absolutely ridiculous. Only people with a lot of time on their hands would make a fuss about this.

30 seconds of exposure to the cold will not harm anyone. How do you think they get on in countries with freezing winters? I assume babies aren't bundled into car seats in 1000 layers and snow suits there either, due to car safety. And I highly down mothers are putting the kind of giant thick coat needed for those temps on for a brisk stroll back into their warm house.

They will keep warm from your body heat at that distance. The only time I bothered with a blanket for walking from the car to the house was if there was a decent amount of rain/snow!

You or dh should have used the coat as a ‘blanket’ if the blanket was unavailable and just popped it over baby’s tummy/ legs to create a layer of warmth. When it’s winter we still mostly wear a coat or at least a jumper / long sleeved top of some kind in the car. Baby is better with a blanket in a cooler car rather than no blanket in a hot, heated car.

Would dh have been happy in a thin 1 layer cotton outfit and a bald head to go from house to car I wonder? 🤔

But you made it an argument.

Are you trying to normaise hyperbole?

How absolutely ridiculous to throw in neglect

20 metres?

Overreaction. Big time. Sorry.

well i would,
brr, poor baby having a sudden shock of cold

Yep that’s not what the actual OP says though - It’s 7°C outside and DS (6 months) needed to go from house to car, about 20 metres

either way my answer is the same

Obviously I'm not the husband in question or bald but I can't imagine a situation where I'd put my coat on inside the car to walk a few second to my door whatever the weather was or whatever I was wearing

Would you do that, surely it takes longer to out the coat on than do the walk

I mean this kindly OP, but try take a deep breath and relax. You saying ‘well I’ll do it then’ is you making a point of it in the first instance/being combative. Not waking the baby for the sake of a coat/hat/blanket to travel 30 seconds is completely logical and in my opinion (appreciate we will all view this differently) better for baby. I don’t want to diminish your feelings as they’re very real, I’m 11m PP and still have the odd intrusive thought, but your DH is potentially able to be more pragmatic & logical in this instance. Also, assuming your DH is babies dad, it’s quite dismissive to insinuate that you call the shots as babies mum.

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