Am I a laughing stock?

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I jokingly call my house “surname towers” so for example if my surname was Jackson, my house would be called Jackson Towers. I’ve called it this for years, it’s very very lighthearted as I’m sure everyone knows. We host a lot of social events and I use the name in invites for example “birthday party, Jackson towers”, “Strictly finale party, Jackson towers” etc
In Christmas/birthday cards “love from A, L and all at Jackson towers”

All my friends and family know I call the house this and some call it this name too either in replies or just in general.

Anyway, last night I’d popped to my mums and my sister was there, we were talking about taking the kids to a Halloween event tonight and I said “why don’t you bring them back to the towers afterward and we can have a little party?”

My sister then said “I’m sorry but can we stop with this towers bullshit, it’s so cringy”. I said “It’s a joke! And you’ve never complained before!” My mum then said “not to your face maybe”. They both started laughing and my sister then said “no I’m sorry, someone needs to say something, people have been ripping the piss out of you for years for it, just give it a rest now”.

so to cut a long story short, turns out almost my entire family have been slagging me off for it for years and my sister hinted that my friends have too.

When I got home I rang my friend and asked her if the towers name annoys her and she said “no course not” so I asked if she knew if it annoyed anyone else to which she hesitated and then said “not annoy as such”. She wouldn’t elaborate further.

Now I’m pretty thick skinned and can mostly laugh it off if I’ve been a dick but this time I’m a bit upset, I keep trying to tell myself I’m not bothered but I can’t stop thinking about it. Have I been a laughing stock for years? If so AIBU to think someone might have mentioned it before now?

Wow, you are taking this way too seriously! I actually think it's you who has the problem if other people's quirks annoy you to this extent.

Seriously?

If people really honestly think she calls her three storey townhouse Jackson Towers because she thinks it's an actual stately home, I think that's their failing.

It's evident that a lot of people on this thread think the single most important thing a person can do is make sure they have no personality at all, for fear that someone else might not find it to their taste.

If this was just her sister? Then i’d agree with you that the sister is reading too much into it. But it’s not. It’s the sister, and mum and then mum hinted that other family members say the same. The it’s the friend and the friend diplomatically hinted that other friends think it too.

When everyone else thinks you’re behaving really oddly and going over the top with something… it’s usually because you actually are. Since a large part of her social circle seems to think this about her, then I would believe that the OP’s behaviour is actually showing that she takes this seriously and is a bit navel gazey.

That’s what I used to call my (well at the time it was “our”) bedroom when the kids were very little but had gone into their own rooms 😂

Oh get a life! I’ve obviously annoyed you because you have taken my comment way too seriously 🤣 It’s so funny how those who have replied to that post are contradicting themselves.

Wouldn't be surprised if there was some jealousy involved. They are probably a bit miffed about you having the fun party house.

Don't fret too much but maybe tone it down. Or go the other way and name it officially

People can be so mean. Where’s the harm in it?

My ex-husband's mum always used to sign all their Christmas cards from "the surname gang". So if they were Jackson's it would be "Merry Christmas from the Jackson gang". She's about as gangster as a jelly. Always made me cringe

I wasn't the one who wrote a novel psychoanalysing people's humour. If your comment was intended to be light hearted, that most certainly didn't come across.

It's a bit cringe but isn't that the point? I can't stand people who can't just have a laugh and have to take everything so seriously. How boring for people to be taking the mick out of it

It is SO crass!

I will write what I like. You don’t own this thread. And op posted the thread, people have responded to give their opinions and insight. You however, are taking what I’ve said way too seriously and it’s up to me if I choose to avoid people who tell the same ‘joke’ over and over and over again for years down the line… some people DO find it boring and irritating after the first couple of times.

I like it and shows you have some sense of irony and fun

Unlike quite a lot of the posters who seem to live drab,dreary judgy lives.

Probably because they were born with a total sense of humour bypass.

Go for it. You only live once.

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Xxx

I can't quite put my finger on why this is so annoying, but it really is. I guess I think the people who would make such a repetitive, none joke would likely be dicks.

My thoughts too. It was an unnecessary put down. I was 40 years old before I realised.my brother was a dick. Sometimes our relatives are threatened by us, or threatened by what they perceive we have. You sound lovely OP.

Really don’t see it as a big deal. I mean if your sister found it that cringey she should have mentioned it years ago, why now.

They are dicks for laughing behind your back for years, I'm sorry but if they thought it was 'cringe' then they should've said something when you first said it and you then could've told them you don't care, you do you!

I think it's funny! Yes it's a bit cringe but that's my humour too, it's a joke 😃

I’d take it for the joke it is, I definitely wouldn’t laugh about it behind your back, that’s shitty behaviour.

Yes to this. Why can't people just be themselves? Why is someone else always trying to dim their light and personality?

I’d think it was a bit naff. It’s not funny or cute, so why keep doing it?

As a one off it would possibly be funny but if you always say it I would cringe

I can’t see what the fuss is about, I think they are a crummy lot for criticising a harmless thing like this rather than being grateful you are kind enough to have them all round and host various events. Your sister and mum were rather mean the way they behaved.

It’s not as big a deal as it feels right now. Just say “so what!?” and don’t give it anymore thought. I don’t think it’s cringey especially if you were referencing Fawlty Towers. Have a lovely wend.x