Rude woman

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I doubt that anyone will have anything to add to this. Anyway.

i took up golf recently. I parked and went to the course and hit a ball that went into the trees and ball was lost. I was kicking myself as all my spare balls were in the car. I went back to the car to get more. This woman got out of her car in front of mine and laughed openly at me. You didn’t stay there long. Apparently she was in her car waiting to go for the train so had saw me going to the course and coming back 10 mins later. I didn’t engage. I got some more ball put them in trolley and headed back down. She started shouting omg she’s heading back and laughing literally uproariously. I just ignored her and went on my way.

My Aibu is that i hear this in my head and dream of going back to her and whacking her around the legs with a golf club. At least i should have said something to her? Her loud laughter at me really rankles.

Am I the only person to find this persons behaviour really strange? Not just rude, but downright weird? Who would even notice, let alone actually get out of their car to engage a total stranger in an exchange that they actually know nothing about? OP could have returned bc she felt ill, injured herself, forgot an appointment, an emergency - the fact she clearly had a purpose - picking up the balls - would show why she had returned to her vehicle, and that would have explained what she was doing - if any explanation should have been at all necessary.

It was very, very odd behaviour for someone, let alone another woman, to have decided to shout at her like that. It’s the sort of behaviour a young guy would do to flirt, or an old man would do to make conversation by appearing funny.

How old was she, OP?

I agree - it’s good to stand up for yourself - you feel better - but ONLY in relations to situations that actually impact your life - work or friendship group situations possibly or with family members, potential scammers who might rip you off but NOT in this situation because thus woman is a non entity who doesn’t impact your life at all - do you did the right thing OP. 👍

you’d have gained nothing from standing up to her

No you’re absolutely not the only person - I feel exactly the same way

I would say she was early 40s. She had a real challenging look about her i.e. when she got out of her car she was staring at me with a bit of a smirk and I immediately felt there was a problem. She had been early I presume for her train and was sitting in her car as I arrived. Then when I came back she got out presumably as her train was soon due. She wouldn’t have seen me getting the balls from the car I don’t think. I arrived at car, she got out of hers, and said something like you didn’t stay there long. The way she said it was very sneery so I didn’t feel like telling her that I’d lost my ball. Anyway, I closed car and headed back down and that when she shouted ‘omg she’s going back’ like she thought I was going back because she had challenged me (maybe)? Then she just started jeering and laughing. I didn’t feel like engaging with her but maybe if I had explained why I’d come back it wouldn’t have happened. But maybe she would have behaved worse. Hard to know.

I think a PP might have been onto something that this woman was a bit jealous of me being able to head off and play golf on a lovely sunny day while she was having to head of and do whatever it was she was doing. It was early in morning so presumably she was heading to work.

When she said “she’s going back” was someone with her or was she telling the ether or her imaginary friend do you think? Bizarre.

She was on her own. She said ‘Omg She’s going back” she was saying it to herself. I was the only other person in this scenario. She shouted it in order to make me feel stupid. Why would she act so bizarrely? I don’t know.

it has left me feeling that I can be attacked in the street for no reason. I park there a lot anytime I go to play. It makes me uneasy. It also makes me angry. It has made me realise how close we can feel to inflicting violence on someone when it would only cause me trouble not her. I am afraid of my reaction if she does it again. Street altercations are very downmarket! I am glad that I did the right thing and ignored her. If she did it again I hope I am able to be similarly restrained.

Here’s what I think. She witnessed me going to play golf and noticed I returned very quickly (because I lost the ball). She decided to sneer at me for that in a nasty manner. I ignored her which annoyed her. Then, after I ignored her, I headed back to play golf after getting the balls from the car. She decided to shout after me and laugh hysterically while implying that I was going back because she had sneered at me for not being there very long first time. That’s what I think. But yes, she was just a rude, nasty weirdo.

I would obviously never be actually violent.

Eh? Struggling to cope with not taking your spare golf balls with you? Very strange.

Are you hard of understanding?

Do you believe as she apparently did that someone playing golf can’t be struggling to cope in their lives?

And subsequently deserve to be attacked in the street?

Eh? @Soontobe60 what exactly is it that you don’t understand? What is strange?

I’d be like this. However, I’ve also had occasions where I’ve got to respond and say exactly what I think and totally regretted it later. 😂

This is probably clouding your whole view of the situation, I imagine in your head you've heightened every little thing and made something out of nothing

it doesn’t matter what your opinion is on exactly what happened on that day as you were not there.
i have explained the situation as best I can. Apparently it is very difficult and strange. I don’t think it is. I have no more to say.

I, without saying anything to that person, was attacked in the street for no reason, by some fucking looper.

I have no more to say.

I won’t be back.

Well if you don't want opinion then don't post on a message board 🥴

That was my impression

Actually you are right.
i know I said I am gone but this is my last post on this situation.
I actually did get a lot from this thread from everyone.
if I had of said to her omg I lost my ball had to come back get some more then this situation would never have happened. But I was feeling bad anyway and also not coping well generally and I didn’t want to engage with her in any way and it all went badly wrong from there.
I have learned from this.
thank you all. I am now definitely leaving it there :-)

That's what struck me. YOU were off the okay golf (I think it spoils a nice walk personally, but you like what you like!🤣)

but SHE was trying to park the car(?) to get a train, hopefully to a horrible job she gates!!🤣

imagine a huge tee, big enough to balance her head on & a huge golf club & properly practicing your striking of 'the ball'

🤣🤣

thank you so much! I have a competition coming up that I might do well in now 😂

I think your a bit annoyed at your reaction and getting more upset on here (which you have openly asked for responses) you are repeatedly mentioning about skelping her about with a golf club, obviously you haven't or would. But.. you said absolutely nothing (that's fine, probably best option) and thoughts of violence are still racing. There is an option of facing someone, asking them to repeat themselves, engage with them, it might get a bit agro or it might calm situation, you should probably explore some confidence building techniques as you might feel more empowered in the moment as she may have jeered you but it didn't mean you couldn't react back at her? It's not always straight into actual fighting. Bullies pick on those who are meeker - not my rules!

Focus 🤣🤣