Not to let neighbour use drive

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Live in a road where parking is a pita. Not for me because l have a big driveway but l would not have bought a house in the road without one as it is near the town centre so a lot of people park here.

Neighbour has no parking and constantly asks if she can use my drive - aibu to say no? Don't really need all the space unless l have visitors which tends to just be at weekends but also don't want it to become a thing!

YANBU - and keep saying No because it will become a thing; it will become an expectation on her part and on those days when you do need all of your drive, she will resent you for withdrawing the facility. Seriously, she should have gone to the expense of buying a house with a drive (just like you did) if she values having her own guaranteed parking space.

If her parking there doesn’t obstruct your car you could come to an agreement with her that Monday - Friday (or Thursday) she can use your drive for a fee when you are unlikely to have guests. Putting a fee in place means it is a formalised arrangement (get it in writing) which can be ended at any time. Consider the fee as payment for wear and tear on your drive. Or just say no. Full stop.

You haven't said why you don't want it to become a thing though?

We all let our neighbours and their visitors use our drives in my road since the council forced CPZ on us.

It's just a nice thing to do but if you don't want to, that's your prerogative.

YANBU-your driveway, you get to decide who uses it. It is not your problem that your neighbour bought a house without a driveway or parking.

How many cars can you fit on your drive? Tbh, even if you can fit 2 or 3, I don't think this is something I'd want to get in the habit of. Next thing you know, she's parking there without asking. Just say you'd rather not as you never know when you'll need it for friends and family.

No, no, and no some more.

Sorry, fat fingers posted too soon. Proper contribution below 🤣

YANBU to say no but I think a lot of people wouldn’t mind.

If you are not comfortable with it then of course say no. I would only allow this for a friend.

Someone I know has allowed this and he doesn’t even know the neighbour well and it’s become a real pain for him when family visit or when he has tradesmen. It’s like he has to ask to use his own drive.

No way, it will become a regular thing and their visitors will park there and start blocking you in. Just say no.

Absolutely not. Almost guaranteed to turn into a massive ball ache. You give an inch and people take a mile. You'll have her guests on there as well, and it will drive you nuts.

Put the space on just park Monday to Friday and make a few quid from it. You can tell her it needs to be empty at all times when you aren't using it in case of bookings but she's welcome to book and pay for it if she wants 😆

YANBU. Just keep saying no.

This is actually SUCH a good idea 😂

Absolutely not. She will become entitled and demanding. What will happen when you have visitors for example - you will have to tell her to move her car and then she refuses. What will you do then?

When you say she "constantly asks", have you said a clear no or not?

Because if you have, it already is a thing in that she's not listening and changing to a yes will only bring you problems

A simple "No that won't work for me - must dash" covers it quite well, and whatever happens don't start offering excuses because people like this can talk around them all

Honestly I’d do the same. May as well placate a neighbour and make money at the same time. A formal contract will make it clear also that it’s not subject to transfer so she can’t ‘lend’ to a friend or tradesman. Also maybe write in a clause eg that if she uses unlawfully/hasn’t paid etc then she can be towed off and she has to pay the expenses of that. I feel if you allowed use of your drive without something like this you might get other neighbours asking like they’ve hurt their leg or something and need to be closer to their drive. At least you can just direct them to the relevant website to reserve and pay. And you can justify it that the additional car/s will hasten wear and tear on your drive.

But if I had paid more money to buy a house with a drive, why on earth would I let someone else use it? People make choices, and my choice is to have a drive available to me, my family, my friends and anyone I choose to have visit whenever I like. I absolutely would not want someone else using it.

I let my neighbour use my drive and for a while it was fine until a massive van was there for a few days and I didn’t know it was anything to do with them. I knocked and asked and they were really nice about it so I thought it didn’t matter. But then when I did want to park on it, their daughter would park across the driveway and then go out so it wasn’t used but I also couldn’t park on it. I threw a bit of a fit at that one and they stopped using it. New neighbour has guests that sometimes park across it so we use it at weekends. Other neighbour once parked so I was blocked in and I flipped my lid when she said she would move in a minute. I’ve become known as the unreasonable one somehow. What I’m trying to say is that mostly it will be fine but at some point, you’ll get pissed off and wish you hadn’t.

Agree... although I suggested offering the neighbour a deal first because at least she knows her and if there are any issues (like a car being abandoned!) she can deal with it quickly as she lives next door. Same principle though!

Give an inch and all that. It will become expected after a while and you'll end up asking them to move for your guests. Don't get into all that. YANBU.

Tell your NDN to fuck off. Problem solved.

If you want to make money, rent the space

but it would just be a big NO from me. I need my drive, I need access and above all I need the freedom to have anyone or anything on it without taking on the responsibility of next door being a CF.

I don't want to hear people's car on my drive. It doesn't matter if there's space for another car or 2.

what's next? Letting the neighbours from the block of flats using my garden for a bbq or their laundry? 😂

If you sell your house in the future it could cause issues if you’ve let them for a certain period of time

id just apologise and say your house insurance doesn’t allow it (even if it does, it should stop another asks)

My NDN let their NDN (other side) use their drive and he backed into the shared wall between our properties. He then denied it and refused to take responsibility, and even had the gall to turn aggressive when confronted with the evidence (Ring doorbell footage - twat). It created bad feeling between all 3 of us so no absolutely not.