Not to let neighbour use drive

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Live in a road where parking is a pita. Not for me because l have a big driveway but l would not have bought a house in the road without one as it is near the town centre so a lot of people park here.

Neighbour has no parking and constantly asks if she can use my drive - aibu to say no? Don't really need all the space unless l have visitors which tends to just be at weekends but also don't want it to become a thing!

No, could also be a legal and costly nightmare if her car was damaged or stolen from your property or any damage that could occur to your own property.

The one time you say yes, they’ll take the piss and it’ll become a daily thing and you’ll be stuck not knowing how to get out of it. You seem nice to question in the first place, so I feel like you would be that person to hate it whilst not saying no.

protect your peace - this is not a you problem. They chose their home knowing the parking situation and as shit as it is, they have to deal with it. That’s not on you

Why don’t you register your house with Just Park so if she wants to use it she will have to pay like anyone else.

Madness

This.

Say no, it can become a nightmare. I speak from bitter experience.

If she had an accident on your property she could sue you. So it would be a no from me.

MIL let her ndn park on her drive "for a few months until we have our drive widened", which turned into a couple of years. Although mil doesn't have a car it was a pita because ndn always had one of their cars there (they had 3 and room for only 1 on their own drive), they even told family and friends to park there when visiting! We had to tell her to stop in the end, mil is in her 80s and when we took her shopping or had tradesman or visitors, we had to ask them to move their car or we had to park down the street and carry shopping to mil's house. So it's a no from me, some people are so entitled!

Please don’t! We initially allowed our neighbours to park on our drive and it was a terrible mistake.
They even blocked our drive so we couldn’t park there. When they were asked to allow us access to our own drive, they were really sweaty about it.
Save your sanity & don’t allow them to.

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Agree with everyone else that this will unravel and become a burden very quickly. Just say no.

Anyone on MN knows that this request just opens the door for CFs and all their friends and relatives to take advantage. Asking for money makes the owner look greedy or just not nice. Might as well just save any arguments now and say no.

My neighbour agreed to relatives of the family the other side of her parking. On her drive ONCE for a party and now they just tell all their visitors to park there without even asking if it’s okay. She comes home sometimes and finds her drive with one car parked in the middle so she has to ask us if she can use our drive (she ALWAYS asks) because the CF neighbours don’t answer the door when she knocks to get them to move the visitors car. The same family have asked to use my drive and I’ve always refused as I know they will take advantage and I can’t park anywhere else as it’s double yellows outside my house (but not theirs).

This!

Never ever let anyone use your driveway. The favor will become an expectation and then a demand. She’ll never let it go and you’ll become enemies. Get a fence between the houses if you can so there’s no blurring the boundaries and too bad if she doesn’t like it. She should have bought a house with a driveway, not your problem.

We also have a big driveway (I reckon it could fit 3 maybe 4 cars at a squeeze) on a road where most dont and parking is also a pain.

I mean youre not unreasonable to say no. Its yours. Its your choice.

Me personally I wouldnt mind. We have 1 car but the drive is long and narrow so could be a pain to move the car at the back if all my neighbours used it! Noones asked to be fair.

The other option is you join that rent my space and tell her to go through that. At least you make some money!
Thats if you even want anyone parking there. Again its your choice

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Absolutely not, especially because she has form for being a CF. She is not going to suddenly NOT become a CF about parking. I have read too many posts here & on Reddit about allowing a neighbor a little leeway and it always ends with the CF taking advantage.

Nope. People like that will take a mile if you give them an inch.

Tell her "that won't work for us, sorry."

If she says "but you have several spots going empty all the time," say that you can't accept the liability or the invasion of your privacy.

I had a friend that let her niece park a huge camper van on part of their side property and when they tried to sell the home the niece declared eminent domain. I don’t know how it ended up but it destroyed that family’s relationship forever.

This! Excellent idea!

I’d have to block the visitor’s car in. then go on holiday.

No, as liability issues. We had an issue where our drive used as a turning and they hit the wall, but drove off, another hit the fence. Now fenced off, as quick to use and even quicker to leave an issue in their wake!

Slippery slope. Avoid at all costs.

While I would want to be helpful and if the person was a friend/trustworthy I would agree for set times.

But!!! the problem is you do a favour, it becomes an expected entitlement, then their friends and family start using it.

This all the way.

I agree that it’s best to say no. I had a situation with my immediate neighbour letting his neighbour’s visitors park their cars on my drive while I was at work and they hadn’t asked in the first place.

This happened two or three times and I eventually told both of them I didn’t want this to happen at all - and it led to the neighbour whose visitors they were never speaking to me again, and my immediate neighbour being frosty for a couple of years (not that he is particularly friendly now).

The neighbour two doors down also once let one of her visitors park on our drive after I had said the blanket no. It was like a final “fuck you” to me as it didn’t happen again - but she must have wanted to finish the argument with what she considered to be the upper hand.

It is truly weird looking out of your window and seeing a random car on your drive - or as happened as well, my kids would phone me at work and ask me whose car was on the drive.