AIBU to be hurt about song dp dedicated to me

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So me, DP and a few friends were discussing on a group chat which songs we'd dedicate to each other. DP chose this

AIBU to be hurt by this? He always says I talk too much (I'm very chatty. This has been the cause of many arguments) and he's complained about our sex life before (says we don't do it often enough). He's even put it as his ring tone for me on his phone now!

I'd laugh at this and have a comeback of a similar song. Don't overthink it.

Pink u + ur hand till he grows up and shows you some respect

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I bet he thinks he thinks he's funny putting down his wife to everyone. He's better at turning you off than on.

Add this one without comment OP?

At least you weren't stupid enough to marry him. I'd be letting someone else be the butt of his jokes.

Its not exactly hilarious if you have argued about this op, but is there a little extra context. If for instance, all the other posts before your DP’s, were jokey and it was a light hearted thread poking fun at each other, then I don’t think it’s too offensive really and maybe an overreaction from you. If the dedications were serious and heartfelt then, yes, it was rather silly.

It's a hurtful dig to share with others. I'd end things. And I'd point out that women stop wanting sex if the sex isn't all that.

YANBU OP for me that would be ex DP.

My DH once told me to shut up when we with his parents, once. Then the silly boy asked me a question. His sister then explained that I wasn’t answering “because you told her to shut up”. That embarrassed him.

Honestly, it depends on the type of relationship you have OP. I'm not even going to tell you what DP currently has as the ringtone for me 😂😂

I'd find what your DP did genuinely hilarious and would make it my absolute MISSION to find a better one to dedicate to him in return.

But DP and I have that kind of joking element in our relationship and I have no doubt at all that he loves me and thinks I'm lovely (because he also tells me that regularly). If it feels more like a passive-aggressive snark rather than just making a lighthearted joke then it would probably land differently.

my dh told me rabbit reminds him of me

fair enough but it wasnt in a group chat

I actually think it’s quite funny but it’s all in the context of what the relationship is like overall. Some relationships it could work (it is actually quite funny) but not if there’s a genuinely mean undertone

So did I!

My song I would dedicate to my husband is suspicious minds by elvis

He sounds pathetic!

Although I once sulked that a boyfriend requested ‘Brown Eyed Girl’ and I have hazel eyes 😱

If it were me, he'd be dumped by now.

How can they lighten up when they are genuinely hurt and humiliated?
It's one thing to have a personal discussion/argument/view on OP's chatty nature, but it's another thing entirely to openly humiliate in front of others.

Sensitive people find it difficult to see the funny side of a situation of this nature.

Sorry you've been made to feel this way OP

What an immature dick he is, doing that in front of friends and putting it as his ringtone is just ridiculous, especially if he ever hopes to have sex with you again.

What a complete own goal.

I don't think it's funny at all

It might be if your chattiness was a source of gentle ribbing in your relationship but you've had actual arguments about it? That's not normal. You should be with someone who accepts you for who you are.

If he can dish it out he can take it too

Or even this one

Make a playlist of all these songs & share it with the group.
Add in Flowers by Miley Cyrus.

Elvis had such a sexy voice. I wouldn’t have even noticed the dumb joke from the partner in this case because I would have started listening to an Elvis playlist.

Better than 'Rabbit' by Chas and Dave

Or It's Not Fair lol 😆

I think it entirely depends on your relationship - me and my husband make jokes like that a lot and would find it funny but you obviously don't and presumably he knows that which makes it a dick move on his part and you need to call him out on it.

Although it does remind me of a wedding I went to years ago, the couple dedicated songs to each other and the band sang them. The bride chose something like Hopelessly Devoted and the groom chose Horny by Mousse T