To think Dh is doing as little work as possible

[mrstumblesspottybag]

We both work full time but if ever there’s not a lot on and they let someone go early Dh is the first to volunteer to go home bearing in mind he’s hourly paid.
Once he’s maxed out his paid holiday he will take unpaid holiday just because he likes time off.
He takes the maximum amount of sick days and will ask for bank holidays to be unpaid so he doesn’t lose a day there.
We don’t have a huge income between us but if ever he is asked to work late or go in on Saturday he will laugh and say no chance.
It isn’t because he doesn’t like his job it is because he doesn’t like working in any job so does the bare minimum.
He’s always done as little as possible but as he’s got older he seems to do less and less.
We aren’t in financial trouble or anything but to think he isn’t bothered taking less pay because he’d rather finish early or have an extra few days off here and there.

Which is exactly why you need to work your socks off while you have your health and vitality
I did two paid jobs in my 20s, Was a mother with one job in my 30s and 40s and on my 50s? I’ve taken my foot off the gas and I only have one.
But to be half arsing it is doing yourself and your family a disservice in my opinion

I'm 100% with him, because I am him. Well except for the fact I work for myself, so no colleagues (but worked with people before) and I don't live with my boyfriend. I don't live to work, I work to live. I earn plenty enough to live and for my hobbies. I could earn significantly more, but I can't be arsed at all. I work absolutely the least amount possible and gladly wouldn't work at all, if I could. I don't teach my child to work hard, that's just stupid. Work SMART, not hard.

And if my other half, who I OUTEARN and divide chores equally (as per OP), started whinging at me, I'd tell them to go fuck themselves.

Want more money? How about go and earn it? Reach his income level first at least?

I’d rather actually spend time with my family then spend all my best years slaving away at work.

YABU. It's normal not to want to spend your whole life working! And to do as little as possible of the things you don't enjoy and that you already spent a lot of time doing it of obligation. This feels very judgement and protestant-work-ethic on your part - there is no intrinsic value to working for the sake of it. Is it what he does with his time instead that actually bothers you?

Who gives a fuck? Not all of us want to be cogs in a big corporate machine. He prioritizes his home and family life, so what’s wrong with that? You have women on here that have never had careers and admit they don’t care to work and no one calls them lazy or lacking work ethic.

Be honest, do you feel like because he’s a man, he should work more and that maybe if he did work more then YOU wouldn’t have to work as much or at all?

Which is lovely if you can Still provide for them at the same time
if you bring children into the world, you need to give them as many resources as possible, Time being one of them but there’s lots of ways we contribute to their well-being and it is no good pretending that Financial isn’t part of that.