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I'm so unhappy in my job. Made a huge mistake.

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latishia6 · 27/10/2025 12:03

I was in a job I really enjoyed but it didn't pay enough for me to live comfortably. I saw a job come up that on paper looked amazing. Working for a small charity (I was already working in the charity sector) in my area of expertise. I applied and got it. It paid a lot more (7k, which is a lot for me), and was a step up. I'm perfectly capable of doing the job, but half of what I'm doing is not in the job description. I'm basically looking after a system for data recording, which I knew I would have to use, but I had no idea based on the JD that it was going to be me actually managing it. I've been doing it for 7 months now and just hate it. It confuses me, I'm useless at it, I have ADHD and it has made it so much worse. I'm so anxious and dysregulated and I just need a different job. I feel tearful all the time and burnt out even though the workload isn't enormous, because the brain power my job needs is enormous for me. I am searching for jobs every day but there's just nothing that allows me to work remotely, which I need as a lone parent to a disabled child. I feel so stuck and sad. I feel like it would look terrible on my CV to leave a job so soon (if I can find anything). Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? How did you cope? Did it take you a long time to find a new job? I was close to quitting the other day out of a pure madness moment but thankfully didn't.

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Besttobe8001 · 29/10/2025 03:08

latishia6 · 28/10/2025 07:37

Thanks everyone. I do worry I job hop a bit. My jobs have been for 4, 1, 2 and 3 years (or thereabouts), but each move has been for progression, from 18, 22, 29, 36 and now 40k a year, so none have been totally lateral moves.

As long as you have a good narrative around why you moved roles or companies, it's not a problem. If I was interviewing you and you said, I was only there for 6 months because there was a systems element to the role that I wasn't aware of, and it didn't play to my strengths because of XYZ - that would be fine and shows self awareness.

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