Crohn’s urgent need using the cubicle with baby changing

[KittyCoo]

I’ve just come back from the hospital to visit my nan who’s had surgery. Unfortunately I have Crohn’s and got caught short. I had to dash and the nearest ladies happened to have the baby change cubicle inside (the cubicle nearest the door) Then some lady came in to change her baby (not a problem) and I overheard her having a go at me for using it as she wanted to change her baby in that cubicle and I think at the time the other two cubicles without facilities were available so I could see her frustration. . What’s got to me was she had her husband with her and there were facilities in the men’s too so he could’ve helped out!!!!!! I’m not saying her need was more important than mine but it’s just people are quick to judge. AIBU, should I have waited another millisecond to the next cubicle but there becomes a point where it would be been too late!!

So I’m never allowed out. Ever?
I won’t be able to work?
or like this lady, visit the hospital or Gp?
or to do a few simple things in life socially outside the house (since I can’t work)?
how am I supposed to go shopping for food? Everything thing has to be delivered?
I can never travel anywhere? Not even to see my dc who live 100 and 200 miles away respectively? Never mind nay of my other relatives?
or visit any friends?

really?

I hope to god you never developed one of the many gastrointestinal conditions or even gynaecology issues that lead to an absolute need to use a loo immediately.

as I already pointed out to another poster, you really really don’t want to be standing by me when I get a totally unpredicted attack because “I should only be out if I’m able to wait” and I have unfortunately had to leave my house.sometime in my life.

I am not going to be on a toilet leash inside my house for the rest of my life, for the, thankfully, rare occasions it does now happen, since being diagnosed after many many years, and being prescribed appropriate meds that usually work well. Not for ignorant people like you. Thankfully the world is full of people who have empathy and can identify distress when they see it and let you jump a queue. Or we have got medical cards, as recommended by bowel condition support groups, that we can show that state our needs and people have sense to respond appropriately.

Well if it’s a troll, I’ve given them lots of fuel for their predilection 😱🤣🤣🤣

trouble is this is something that has happened to me. It makes me angry the level of ignorance that peope, including posters on MN show. Completely ignorant

As someone with IBS I gave up caring and will use disabled, men or ladies if my stupid body decides to empty itself...if I'm in disabled and come out and find a queue I have said IBS and it was an sos situation..I honestly never had any negative from this. Your need for greater than a baby at that point.

Why should she have to do that?

@stichguru

what @Sirzy said.

I was diagnosed only 10mths ago with IBD and it took me to hemhorrage 4.5 litres of blood from my back passage and sepsis to finally take me seriously despite digestive issues since my teens!!! It was very traumatic and I’m still mentally recovering now nearly a year on.

@Kitkat901 I’m not a troll, you have no right to accuse me of trolling.

I may be misunderstanding but I agree she probably wasn’t having a go at you but general frustration

if I am reading it right then the other cubicles could have been occupied as you came in ( they weren’t but they could have been) and using the cubicle with changing table would have been the only choice.

i am sorry you face such difficulties every day OP

You are obviously not being unreasonable. You have a serious illness which likely impacts your life enough to be classed as a disability and is protected by law. No reasonable person would care which toilet you used.

People shouldn't comment on other's toilet use exactly for this reason. A lot of disabilities are hidden!

It seems that you think people disabled by bowel issues should never go out. You clearly have no concept of what bowel issues can do and how suddenly and urgently they can flare up.

I've had IBS for most of my adult life. The onset can be immediate, with little or no warning. Then I might be normal again for days or even a couple of weeks. Then extremely urgent and caught short again. Are you really saying that I should never go out?

Bollocks to that. It's at best very ignorant and at worst discrimination.