AIBU to think the charity shop lady’s comment about my 3 year old was a bit rude?

[pontipinemum]

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Yesterday DS (3) and I went into the local charity shop.

While I was looking at something another lady came in with her baby in a pram. It’s a tiny shop so she was standing right beside me. The shop owner was chatting to her.

The mum looked a bit tired and frazzled, maybe a bit down too.
I asked how old the baby was (she said 2 months) and said “what a beautiful little baby, DS do you want to say hi to the baby?” He got shy and didn’t say anything, no big deal.

Then the shop owner said “they’re too young, he’ll only be interested when he can get something from her.” She absolutely meant it in a 'men are only after women for one thing sort of a way'

I didn’t say anything. Just felt like such an strange/ rude thing to say about a 3 year old. Like she was implying boys only care about what they can get from girls.

I know it will have gone over his head right now.

AIBU to think that was a weird comment? She has said some off things to me before about 'weird' names people gave their children. Name that are not weird at all.

I understand what you mean, and yes, some people do think that way. When my first kid (girl) was born, my then brother in law (total tosser, no longer on the scene) said something about in 18 years time I'd be 'punching men off the doorstep'
I said 'she's three days old, ffs, and I'm not a punchy person'.
Bizarre.

She sounds a bit unhinged tbh.

The OP ?

I'd agree.

Whilst she might have meant it in the “babies aren’t interesting” it might be that your interpretation is correct (and you were the one who heard it!) If so, I can only surmise she’s had more than a gutful of some men being like that with her; only after one thing and not being very loyal or nice.

As the mum of boys, it’s always bothered me when people suggest that men and boys aren’t pleasant or are somehow “less than”. Ok, we all know some are awful, but many more are kind and decent their whole lives and don’t deserve such sweeping, unfair criticisms and judgment. Let’s face it, not all women are kind and decent either!

• I do acknowledge that some of the most abhorrent abuse and crime is committed by men more than women.

I’m actually bamboozled as to how you could take that meaning from what the lady said.

Did she do this

crikey you’ve read a lot into that comment

This is what she meant and how I would have taken it

It’s you who had the dirty thought op. I thought she meant exactly that babies are boring when little and more fun as they get older.

Sorry, but I think it is more likely you are inferring this. I would be looking in the mirror and wondering why your mind turns an innocent comment into something so dark.

Based on some of the bitterness I read on here, I don't doubt that she might've meant it the way you interpreted it, OP. And if she did, she's a weird one. It's a creepy thing to say about a young child, and I'd have her marked down as a strange person after that.

OP being totally gaslit here. Yes, it was weird.

Hum.... not sure if I'm unhinged but I could use some wd40

Yeah, this. ^ The lady clearly meant that the little boy will be more interested when the baby is older and he can get conversation, and reactions back. How bizarre to think that she meant something seedy.YABU @pontipinemum As has been said, what a bizarre reach. Do you make a habit of being offended at absolutely nothing?

Because she said he will be interested when he can get something from her ! About a baby

as usual, NAILS It

I think you’re a little weird to Think the lady in the shop meant that.

YABVU - I took that as he would only be interested when the baby can talk back/play with him. 😳

Some people can be a little peculiar. I don’t think that’s specific to charity shop workers.

I was there and can back up what OP said.

i think it was the exaggerated hip thrusts, the wanking hands and the blow job gestures that made the meaning clear.

YABU

Why an earth would you assume that context? That is so odd and very likely not the case.

Interesting. I normally don’t really see innuendo (I’m autistic) and this read as dodgy straight away to me!

Why why why did we lose the laughing emoji?

I know this isn’t the point of the post but I’m due my 4th baby in December. I hate when people say to their kids “come and look at /say hi to the baby” no, leave me and my baby alone.

I guess we can’t say she didn’t mean that, even if I feel she probably didn’t, because we didn’t hear the tone of voice or see the look on her face. Either way I wouldn’t dwell on it. Strange woman.

I think your reaction is weirder than the womans comment to be fair! Do you always read the room in a strange way?! I'd have gone with what everyone else said - babies aren't interesting to small children unless they're family. And a small child being asked/forced to interact with a strangers baby, of course they're going to be shy! I think you've misinterpreted the whole thing and overreacted.