Grandparent

[Mariocatgran]

AIBU to be cracking up that a lot of parents are getting there kids taken off them and us grandparents have to taken them on

@RogerR4bbit ah yes those poor grandmas, always in with a bad crowd. If only they made better choice like you, who no doubt chose to have a lot more money and advantages. Shame on you.

@Mariocatgran this is a huge issue where we live and social services stall kinship care orders as the cost is collapsing them. I am sorry, have you got support from the school?

i blame the parents

In this context it means losing patience and getting angry. But you already guessed that and just wanted to look like a smart arse. People like you crack me up.

Northern for ‘going mad’ not funny.

@bakebeansyes exactly thank you 😊 @BigAnne thank you ive said a word wrong and people jave taken it the wrong way I could have said it another way but thats the way it talk

@defrazzledyes hes been moved school 3 times since August but hes settling in this 1 thank God we're happy to just have him but really dont want him mum to be getting paid money as it goes on drugs and my GS is going around with clothes too small

@RogerR4bbitseriously your a nutcase why you would be so nasty and cruel when you do t even know me Shame on you !!!

@wellif you've read its my partners sons kid and he definitely never failed him as he was a weekend dad and struggled to get more time with his son so give your self peace and shut up please

@KatflapkitGod k ows we dont know if we're coming or going his dad is in prison and his mum has a new BF and takes drugs in front him leaves him alone in the house so we hope not

@TheTwitcher11@Anditstartedagainrreally i dont think you need to fail your kids for them to decide when they have there own that they dont give 2 fks and want drugs you obviously dont understand

There is no shame in asking Social Services for some respite - it sounds incredibly hard work at just the time when you should be able to put your feet up a bit as your own children grow up.

I didn’t say you did. I said in the situation I knew of the grandarents had failed to be even a basic parent to their child which was why the parent was unable to look after the child and that I didn’t understand why SS thought the grandparents would be suitable parents. I didn’t say you were a poor parent.

I have worked in two different schools in the past two years and there were two or three in each school.

I truly hope that you get the support you need OP.
Very difficult situation that no one is exempt from.
Sending you strength

Lucky you.
I have had a near miss similar situation and I am not aware of mixing in any specific circles

@Anditstartedagainim sorry om having a really hard time amd dont need to say whay I did im sorry again and thanks

Yes, it was generally used in a similar vein to "Am I going mad?". I think this is what OP means

That’s OK. I just wanted you to understand that I’m not judging you. I don’t think your experience is common but there other grandparents in the same situation.

Thank you for the votes saying I am being unreasonable u hop most of these votes are bcoz yous didn't understand the Cracking up bit

@Mariocatgran people don't read the thread in AIBU. They also like to blame, so they throw venom at you and blame you for your situation without seeing in reality, it could be any of us.
I would start a thread in chat and ask for support from fellow kinship carers - I think you will get a much better response.
You are doing heroes work caring for your grand children and giving them a good chance. Look after yourself.

@defrazzledthank you for your kind words ive been pretty hurt with some of the comments but hey ho on we go

@Mariocatgran they are just ignorant and a lot of MN is basically upper class southern women who think northerners and working class people are the devils spawn.
I really feel for you, I run a CIC that provides free support to kinship carers with school and other things, ask if there is anything near you. And there are a huge amount of women who care, but most of them are very busy doing just that. Those pedantic keyboard warriors who can't even do basic reading comprehension are not a reason to feel upset, they are just a bit sad.