Skirts to school

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G1ngerbread · 25/10/2025 20:43

I’ll start with saying I don’t think anybody should be wearing skirts to school, but it is what it is.
However, my Brother and Sil have a 5 year old boy who has expressed that he wants to wear a skirt to school. This has been discussed with me, but they have not specifically asked for my opinion so I should probably keep it to myself I suppose.
Sil has discussed with school and they have not objected. I don’t think they have particularly encouraged it, but have been careful to not encourage gender stereotypes. This has now resulted in a child who does not understand societal norms.
What would you do? Would you say something? I’m so worried about bullying, but also where this could lead.

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janiejonstone · 25/10/2025 23:25

Devonmaid1844 · 25/10/2025 20:55

Boys in our school have started in dresses and skirts and a couple who didn't during school have on non-uniform days, none bullied and definitely no 'social suicide'. My DS wasn't interested and I wouldn't encourage any kids to wear skirts as they get in the way when kids are playing, but I wouldn't have stopped him if he did.

Your brother and SIL may live in a nice area where parents bring their kids up not to judge others for something as silly as the clothes they wear.

This. A few of the boys in DD8's school wear dresses/skirts and nobody even mentions it. They're all encouraged to develop their own personalities, and being able to wear whatever you want is part of that.

PollyBell · 25/10/2025 23:45

Projecting your issues on to them is your problem to deal with, apart from controlling thing

Dressing up controlling as concern is not a good thing in society

NotMeNoNo · 26/10/2025 06:31

In my experience as mum of a bullied child, kids are not nearly as cruel as parents. Often the singling out of an odd child to pick on starts with gossip at home. 5 year olds wouldn't pick up on it but there will be an outcry among parents (obviously from this thread) who will be terrified it's catching.

ItWasTheBabycham · 26/10/2025 06:41

My DS wore superhero outfits to every dress up day with fairy wings. And sometimes a tutu. Grew out of it, he didn’t get confused that he was a girl. Leave it alone OP

Wingingit73 · 26/10/2025 15:30

Stay out of it if you cant be supportive

BlueEyedBogWitch · 26/10/2025 15:32

Icepop79 · 25/10/2025 20:50

I’m not sure if it’s actually that big a deal. There was a kid in my daughter’s year in primary school who would wear dresses to the school discos and on non-uniform days. It carried on for years until he grew out of it. As far as I know, he wasn’t ever bullied. It was just what he chose to wear.

I’m guessing this didn’t happen in Doncaster.

EmBear91 · 26/10/2025 16:50

They sound like great parents. The little boy asked to wear it, they discussed with the school, no one is bothered so they are letting him do what he wants. It’s a piece of clothing. It’s nothing to do with you so I would just mind your own business. I’d be concerned if my child was a bully, not if he wanted to wear something that didn’t fit the societal norm.

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