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To loose my shit at my GP?

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Peoplecoveredinfish · 25/10/2025 13:12

I was prescribed testosterone by gynaecologist on 16/9. I have chased this three times, and had no response. I’ve still had no response, but I see from my record that the practice has written to the gynae. They’ve been pretty good about menopause, but this is a shitty misogynist policy.

TLDR: We don’t prescribe testosterone for women because it would be off licence. We prescribe off licence medication all the time, but we won’t prescribe this one, because we aren’t familiar with it and we don’t think women really need it. We think women need counselling for their made up symptoms. Even though we are not specialists and the specialist has asked us to do this, we think we know better.

The actual letter…

We have recently been receiving an increasing number of letters from the menopause clinics requesting us to prescribe testosterone for patients who are menopausal but have an intact uterus and ovaries and feel their menopausal symptoms are not being fully controlled on Oestrogen replacement therapy.
As you are aware, this medication is not licensed for women in the UK, so a clinician can only prescribe it off licence.
While there are many drugs that GPs do prescribe off licence, these are medications that we are familiar with, and there is known evidence to prove their efficacy and safety.
The GMC guidance around Good medical practice clearly states that “14 You must recognise and work within the limits of your competence. 16 In providing clinical care you must: a) prescribe medicine or treatment, including repeat prescriptions, only when you have adequate knowledge of the patient’s health, and are satisfied that the medicine or treatment serve the patient’s needs, b) provide effective treatments based on the best available evidence.
Also “You are responsible for the prescriptions that you sign. You must only prescribe medicine when you have adequate knowledge of your patient’s health. And you must be satisfied that the medicine serves your patient’s need.”
The British Menopause Society states “Randomised clinical trials of testosterone to date have not demonstrated the beneficial effects of testosterone therapy for cognition, mood, energy, and musculoskeletal health. Further better designed studies are required with these health issues as primary outcome measures as some individuals report improvement of these symptoms. Until these data are available, the primary indication for testosterone should therefore be for HSDD following a biopsychosocial approach.”
We are thus unable to continue issuing testosterone prescriptions to our patients whom you have seen in clinic and advise they need testosterone. We expect you as the secondary care specialist in this area to manage these prescriptions and continue to issue and monitor their safety in those patients.
We would kindly request that you avoid telling our patients to contact the surgery for the GP to continue the prescriptions for testosterone. Furthermore, any letters we receive requesting this, will be returned with a TCS letter.

OP posts:
Silverbirchleaf · 25/10/2025 19:43

“No one would be able to sue a GP for prescribing in the community something as directed by the consultant.”

Thats not actually true. The gp is liable for any prescription they put their name to.

rainingsnoring · 25/10/2025 19:44

Peoplecoveredinfish · 25/10/2025 18:32

What is not factual?

Of course I am angry at being discriminated against and having to do my GP's job for them. Why shouldn't I be? I shouldn't be rude - and haven't been. Women are allowed to be angry if they at treated poorly, no?

I know Androfeme was only licenced in August. And so does my Gynae. But the GP, who feels they have the right to make withhold this medication for all women in the practice, doesn't. And while the testosterone has only recently been licenced, the NICE guidelines have said doctors should consider prescribing testosterone for HDSS for TEN YEARS. There IS evidence that it is safe. There IS evidence of it's efficacy for HDSS. Meds in general and HRT in particular ARE usually prescribed like this. But one doctor is keeping the entire practice from prescribing it for menopausal women at all, even within the guidelines, even with specialist advice, without knowing the patient's clinical history, because they feel their knowledge is superior, while using the fact that is isn't as a reason not to. When that is out of date now and was wrong before anyway? Which proves my point they are not competent to make the decision.

The fact they prescribe it for men IS relevant. They have said it was unfamiliar. It is not. If there are clinicians who are able to prescribe it for men, it is hardly a great feat of medical skill to review the evidence and guidelines on prescribing for women, is it? I've done it this afternoon. And even if it were never prescribed for men, that is no excuse not to have the skills in the practice to be unable to provide a fairly basic medication half of the population may need if they live long enough to reach menopause. Medical misogyny is not imagined. And women are absolutely entitled to be angry about it.

You need to calm down as I already suggested.
I'm sure you are aware that testosterone is a predominately male hormone which has been licensed for men for a very long time and the fact that the sexes are different and have different hormones in their bodies.. Androfeme (the only preparation, others being unlicensed) has only been licensed for women for 2 months.
You are just making a fool of yourself behaving like this. All you need to do is write to them politely or ask your specialist to do so and hopefully they will change their mind. You can't expect the GP to be up to date with every single change that has come out in the last week. That's unrealistic.

Peoplecoveredinfish · 25/10/2025 19:50

GaIadriel · 25/10/2025 18:43

I don't think it helps to make it a battle of the sexes though, OP.

Men have a tough time getting prescribed steroids too. Specifically because of the negative stereotypes associated with men abusing anabolics. If a man who looks like he lifts weights/has a rugby physique asks his GP to test for low testosterone/enquires about TRT, he'll often be given the third degree and treated with suspicion. Probably even more so by male doctors.

This was defo the case with my ex training partner who is a pretty muscular guy. The doctor actually commented that he'd be surprised if he had low testosterone going by how strong a beard he had and by his physique.

Didn't ask any questions about whether he'd ever had a head or groin injury etc, or if he'd ever taken anabolic steroids. When he saw the private doctor the first thing they did was test his pituitary gland and look for symptoms of a thyroid problem etc.

But will ALL men, having seen a specialist consultant who has requested testosterone be sent a letter saying that NO MEN will be prescribed testosterone, regardless of guidelines, diagnosis or clinical history and further referrals will be returned. By this and only three other practices countywide? And women will be prescribed on another clinical model. Because that is what this letter says. It's not saying it will be difficult. Or that it is inappropriate for me. It is saying it will not be prescribed. By any doctor in the practice. For any woman. For any reason.

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Silverbirchleaf · 25/10/2025 19:57

i don’t think this is a sexual issue either, but a licensed v unlicensed issue. Your surgery has a policy that they will not prescribe the unlicensed testosterone. It’s not an anti-woman policy.

Have you considered changing surgeries if you’re not happy with this one?

justasking111 · 25/10/2025 19:59

My practice won't prescribe to men either.

oldclock · 25/10/2025 20:00

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2025 19:38

I was cross with them, but unfortunately being cross doesn’t get you the vaccine. Paying for it privately was the only option.

Actually a formal complaint via PALS would have probably got it sorted. My point was that you seemed furious with your GP for not doing it, when the fault lay 100% with your consultant whose job it was.

Tistheseason17 · 25/10/2025 20:01

OnlyOnAFriday · 25/10/2025 19:26

Is that shared care between the local nhs hospital and gp? Or does it also stand for any private drs someone may have seen? I don’t think the OP has said but I wonder if the gynaecologist is private?

Usually NHS to NHS although some GPs may decide on case by case basis for private arrangement based on skills and competence. As you can imagine this meana not every GP does the same thing.
GPs are not obliged to enter into shared care agreements whether nhs or private and many are choosing not to.
This is happening less as the sheer volume of work transfer is beyond the capacity of day to day GP working.
If anyone thinks GPs are getting lots of funding I can confirm this is FAKE news. One funding pot was decreased (QOF) then Wes Streeting announced new GP funding (its not - its this same money just moved around).

The Govt has decided that GPs who see over 90% of all NHS appointments are NOT the NHS - so the NI increase has been applied. Same with your community nursing teams - NOT the NHS for NI purposes.

Hospitals who see less than 10% of NHS consults are classed as the NHS and have been made except from NI increases- rich get richer.

How can your GP NOT be the NHS? My local MP has not answered this.

It is important the general public recognise that by putting patients against GP practices- there will be no GPs - we'll all need private insurance. Don't believe the rhetoric - do more trading - don't help the Govt to privatise your GP.

Ilovemychocolate · 25/10/2025 20:09

GaIadriel · 25/10/2025 18:30

"Loose my shit at them" does kinda sound like OP is going to storm into the surgery and sling a bag of poo at her doctor. 🤣 Maybe they deserve it!

😂

MeridaBrave · 25/10/2025 20:33

GaIadriel · 25/10/2025 18:33

This is true, but it's also open to abuse. My mate's GP apparently told him that in an ideal world everybody would be treated but they had to consider costs. This was for about £20 of testosterone a month and a yearly blood panel. For a 35yo who hadn't been able to have sex in seven years and had hoped to one day have a family.

Actually for men, taking external testosterone reduces fertility, so it wouldn’t be as simple as giving him a prescription. Specialists are generally loathe to prescribe to men who want to have children.

BerryTwister · 25/10/2025 20:36

GaIadriel · 25/10/2025 18:27

This.

I'm not an expert but there are defo instances where the GP can refuse. However, there is often still a duty of care and this can fall with the specialist. However, IME it can often fall between the cracks if you don't chase them.

For example, I wanted to go back on my ADHD meds having not taken them since my teens and had to be reassessed as per the guidelines. Got referred to an NHS partner through the RTC pathway as NHS waiting time was five years and the partner was two months.

Got a positive assessment and was prescribed the same meds I used to take. However, after the partner had managed the initial three months period as usual, my GP refused shared care. However, they didn't state this outright. They just ignored the letters.

It was a shitshow because my provider had told me that they'd continue prescribing indefinitely at NHS rates if shared care was rejected so I didn't need to worry. However, when I suddenly realised I should've had my prescription dispatch notice a few days prior and was running out, it turned out that the provider hadn't prescribed because they didn't know whether my GP had taken it over and needed this confirmed in writing/email.

This resulted in me going almost a week without and crashing hard as you're not meant to just stop stimulants without tapering off. I was on a work course that week being trained on driving a new heavy plant vehicle and it was horrible. I had really bad brain fog, lethargy, and was driving a 25 ton loading shovel around a quarry having to do dangerous manoeuvres whilst feeling rubbish.

It took both the consultant and myself pestering my surgery for a couple of days before they wrote a proper letter saying they were refusing shared care due to not feeling they had the capacity to manage my treatment. Soon as I had that my consultant took over my care permanently and I must say they've been a thousand times better than the NHS. I can usually get through to the team in under five mins and they're really good and quick at sorting any issues.

not all Right To Choose providers have a shared care contract. It’s nothing to do with the GP.

alpenguin · 25/10/2025 22:21

Is the specialist a private consultant or is it from
nhs?

if the former the GP has no obligation to prescribe, if the latter they do.

Ireolu · 25/10/2025 22:26

Get gynae to prescribe it.

SeriouslyWhataMess · 25/10/2025 22:29

We have this argument with our gp. My DC has been prescribed an off licence medication by a paediatrician, which is absolutely needed and after the first prescription completely improved all of his symptoms and life quality. The GP however, due to it being off licence will not continue the prescription, despite the Paediatrician writing and telling them that they unequivocally need it, requesting a shared care plan etc. the Paediatrician is not happy at all and has let the practice know that, but the practice is unwilling to budge. The paed told me that other practices will prescribe it (but we are out of catchment) and that the decision not to will be because it is an expensive medicine. Unfortunately with most practices being run as businesses, finances come first 🙁

LunaTheCat · 25/10/2025 22:34

Disclaimer .. I am a GP.
I agree with your doctor .. please don’t loose your shit at home/her .. licensing of drugs are not the problem of an individual GP. I have enough shit thrown at me every day .
i am guessing the menopause clinic is a private one ? Their doctors can also prescribe but I am guessing expensive and cheaper for your GP.
In the end the menopause clinic is making money from you without baring the risk of prescribing an off license drug.
The people you should be angry with is not your GP.

Starbri8 · 25/10/2025 22:37

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 25/10/2025 15:09

You would be massively unreasonable to “lose your shit” at your GP. That’s never appropriate. There are lots of medications GPs don’t prescribe. You need to understand how much they are responsible for their own prescriptions and the consequences for them if it goes wrong. If you can’t get it through the GP, then you’ll need to keep getting it through whoever prescribed it to you first.

“ to lose your shit “ unfortunately is sometimes the only way to get things actioned .. this is usually the culmination of having been polite, well informed , defending your need etc and having some gobshite usually male GP explain to you that you don’t need testosterone, HRT etc and maybe you’d like some anti depressants instead . They bloody hand antidepressants out like smarties … and they have no bother with doing that . I’m so sick of what women have to put up with during menopause , childbirth etc …,,it’s our turn to speak !

JeminaTheGiantBear · 25/10/2025 22:45

Sorry, how do men get Tostran online?

GaIadriel · 26/10/2025 01:21

Peoplecoveredinfish · 25/10/2025 19:50

But will ALL men, having seen a specialist consultant who has requested testosterone be sent a letter saying that NO MEN will be prescribed testosterone, regardless of guidelines, diagnosis or clinical history and further referrals will be returned. By this and only three other practices countywide? And women will be prescribed on another clinical model. Because that is what this letter says. It's not saying it will be difficult. Or that it is inappropriate for me. It is saying it will not be prescribed. By any doctor in the practice. For any woman. For any reason.

Well, a man would be very unlikely to get prescribed it by the NHS solely for things like reduced sex drive, which is one of the common reasons women take HRT.

You mention that three practices across the country are obstructive but the rest are on board with this process. From what I've read on the matter (a lot!) men are very unlikely to get TRT full stop. Most practices are not on board. People on the forums usually just tell men to forget about the NHS and go private or self administer.

Normally, you'd need to have had something like testicular cancer or have lost a gonad in an accident to get it on the NHS. Even men with levels that make them near impotent still get refused - like my friend who hadn't had sex in seven years at age 35.

And of course a man is unlikely to ever father a child with a low libido because unlike a woman he needs to get an erection to have sex. Due to being fobbed off for years my friend will never have a family as he only started getting his life back together at 35 after drifting for years in a job he hated but was too apathetic/overwhelmed to do anything about (which he quickly realised had been down to his hypogonadism).

GaIadriel · 26/10/2025 01:47

There are loads of threads online very similar to this where men are saying exactly the same thing - ie. that the NHS won't help.

https://www.reddit.com/r/trt/s/8IfFIs27bg

https://www.reddit.com/r/Testosterone/s/Ibs1sYJcX1

GaIadriel · 26/10/2025 02:31

MeridaBrave · 25/10/2025 20:33

Actually for men, taking external testosterone reduces fertility, so it wouldn’t be as simple as giving him a prescription. Specialists are generally loathe to prescribe to men who want to have children.

You can just take HCG to stop the testes shrinking/preserve fertility. This is the common solution in other countries and in private healthcare. The NHS are just shockingly bad. They don't even test for elevated e2 which is a very common side effect and can tank libido, basically making the TRT pointless in cases where the primary purpose was to address low sex drive.

In any case, it's an odd situation when somebody is left impotent 'in case they want kids' in the future. It's like refusing to remove a gangrenous leg in case they want to take up running one day.

notthisagain2025 · 26/10/2025 05:30

Lose, not loose. Loosing your shit has an entirely different meaning.

And, of course, yabvu.

EvelynBeatrice · 26/10/2025 07:10

rainingsnoring · 25/10/2025 19:44

You need to calm down as I already suggested.
I'm sure you are aware that testosterone is a predominately male hormone which has been licensed for men for a very long time and the fact that the sexes are different and have different hormones in their bodies.. Androfeme (the only preparation, others being unlicensed) has only been licensed for women for 2 months.
You are just making a fool of yourself behaving like this. All you need to do is write to them politely or ask your specialist to do so and hopefully they will change their mind. You can't expect the GP to be up to date with every single change that has come out in the last week. That's unrealistic.

It’s not unreasonable to expect a GP to check the position if told by a patient that there has been a new approval granted or policy change.

WindmillOfWimbledon · 26/10/2025 07:34

Completely reasonable response from the GP.

Wait a few years and we'll be seeing an increase in heart disease, stroke and cancer from all this hormonal rubbish women have been fed by big pharma.

EvelynBeatrice · 26/10/2025 08:05

WindmillOfWimbledon · 26/10/2025 07:34

Completely reasonable response from the GP.

Wait a few years and we'll be seeing an increase in heart disease, stroke and cancer from all this hormonal rubbish women have been fed by big pharma.

I’m not sure. If you’re referring to HRT and not testosterone, we may see women with less heart issues ( and far more women die of heart problems than breast cancer) and less women with broken bones bedbound due to hip fractures and osteoparosis.

EllaPaella · 26/10/2025 09:44

If the GP has referred a patient to a specialist for a specialists opinion then ignoring that opinion seems odd. By all means the specialist should initiate the first prescription but after that providing there are no issues then really the GP should have to justify why they won’t continue it. If GP’s have no intention of helping to continue treatment initiated by a specialist that they have referred the patient to then it seems a waste of time to refer patients on in the first place.

Peoplecoveredinfish · 26/10/2025 12:17

LunaTheCat · 25/10/2025 22:34

Disclaimer .. I am a GP.
I agree with your doctor .. please don’t loose your shit at home/her .. licensing of drugs are not the problem of an individual GP. I have enough shit thrown at me every day .
i am guessing the menopause clinic is a private one ? Their doctors can also prescribe but I am guessing expensive and cheaper for your GP.
In the end the menopause clinic is making money from you without baring the risk of prescribing an off license drug.
The people you should be angry with is not your GP.

It’s not a private clinic. It’s my local hospital NHS gynaecology department. To which my GP referred me because my menopause is complex. I have had a shared care agreement with a private clinic before, which was no problem at all. There were brilliant.

Testagel is £18 a month on prescription from Superdrug. It requires an annual blood test. It is not the consultants job to prescribe. It is the GP’s. Which they are refusing to, for ALL menopausal women, regardless of clinical suitability, and are pushing back on the consultant requesting that she does not ‘tell’ their patients to ask for it. (She didn’t. She wrote and requested it. Along with topical eostrogen. Which they have not even acknowledged. And which my previous consultant did with oestrogen and they prescribed in this exact way)

I know GPs are pushed. They have always been excellent and I’ve had nothing but praise for them. I think they get all the shit from all directions. This is not a clinical decision for me personally. This is a personal bias from one specific senior partner resulting in a practice failure for all it’s menopausal women. If every practice (bar three) in the county can find the expertise to prescribe testosterone to menopausal women under expert advice, my practice should be. If every ICB’s formulary in the country (bar one) AND the NICE guidance AND the BNF AND THE BMS state that testosterone’s should be considered under expect guidance for women with HDSS, my practice should not respond to ALL requests with ‘No. and don’t ask again’.

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