To ask if my joke to new work colleague would have offended you?

[Abbeymum]

We are quite a small team and had a new staff member join this week. It’s a very friendly and jokey culture so we are always light heartedly ribbing each other.

Anyway - new colleague was eating a salad with two boiled eggs. We were chatting and she says that’s a usual weekday lunch for her. I replied that I bet she has stocked up on the air freshener for when she’s home.

Blank face…sense of humour failure on her part?

Let me guess.
You would describe yourself as "bubbly", laugh like a foghorn and say things like "I'm mad me!!!!"

Nothing to do with lack of sense of humour. It was just not funny and irrelevant.
I’m embarrassed for you OP.

What age are you had to double check you didn't say high school no you Def said work are you all on work experience or something back to school next week

There is a lot wrong with making a crass joke about someone's bodily functions, someone you don't know very, presumably in front of others, who the new colleague also wouldn't know very well, if at all, yet she has to work with them. I'd be very embarrassed if I was the butt of the 'joke' and would nake a mental note to steer clear of you, during lunch time at least

A disciplinary for a fart joke! Fml Mumsnet is another world at times

I mean, it wasn’t really a light hearted, jokey comment was it. It wasn’t funny and totally irrelevant. Maybe you are trying far too hard and are deluded into thinking you are funnier than you actually are.

A disciplinary for a fart joke! Fml Mumsnet is another world at times

It's not that though is it?

It's deliberately trying to humiliate or make someone uncomfortable.

I dont even get whats ment to be the joke? Not surprised at her blank face.

I think I would assume you're quite boring, make a polite but awkward smile and move on with my day.

It's also interesting that some who would find it funny think that others mustn't have a soh.

Can't people just find different things funny?

But the point of the thread is literally that it didn't crack the ice with the new employee because they either didn't get it, didn't find it funny, or didn't appreciate the OP making them the focus if their 'banter'. Given that most people agree with the colleague, maybe your definition of 'anal' is a bit out of step with what most people consider appropriate in a work environment.

A fart joke is a bit out there, especially aimed towards a new colleague who you are still getting to know, and who is still getting to know you.

If I'd been your colleague, I'd have probably forced out an "amused chuckle" for the sake of workplace harmony. But I'd have also been thinking you were a bit of an idiot.

I'm a bit surprised you sat there, and thought in your little head, "Ah! The perfect moment for a fart-adjacent joke!"

Those sorts of jokes are only passable between 10yo boys and friends you've known for 30 years. New work colleagues aren't the ones.

Hopefully your relative silence on the thread has meant you've seen the error of your ways.

The joke itself isn’t the point.

The point is the OP singling out the new person and pulling a stealth move to put her in her place by deliberately making her feel uncomfortable.

The joke would probably have been fine (puerile but harmless) if the OP knew the person well but she didn’t.

Or she does have a good sense of humour, so thought this “joke” was about as entertaining as watching athlete’s foot develop.

Embarrassed for you OP, that’s lame. Maybe you caught her off guard because I would have told you to fuck right off and asked if a couple
of eggs have that effect on you…

Are you a woman? Your colleague was probably cringing herself inside out.

Not offended, but I would be cringing in embarrassment for you on the inside.
Fart jokes are really not funny past about 12.
My BIL was an incessant fart joke maker. It wasn’t funny and no one ever laughed. He just embarrassed himself time and time again. He doesn’t do it anymore. I think his wife gave him a ticking off.

Not particularly funny although I do apologise for eating egg salad as it can be a bit smelly. I wouldn’t be offended as I don’t get offended by fart jokes (I fart a lot!).

So telling someone they and their lunch smell is a joke to you?

YABU and you know, rude.

Oh no not a salad eating bitch 😱

Ageist
Karenist
Choppy bobist
Completely unable to read the room and probably aged about 12

When I was working I once walked into the office and said "Good Morning"

One person had been involved in a minor collision in her car and for her it wasn't good.

HR got involved and I was sacked on the spot*

• none of this happened as when I worked we had a sense of humour and weren't outraged / offended at every comment, and laughing was permitted. Thank "flip" I don't have to deal with people like the majority on this thread anymore, humour sponges.

Seriously…..?
yes, it was a crass badly timed, joke….but,
”stealth move…..singling her out to deliberately make her uncomfortable”
thinking you may have problem with work based interactions…..

Thoughtless and shouldn’t have been said. Even if you said it to someone you know discussing someone lunch clothes hair etc is pretty nasty. I assume you are an adult