Partners Weight Comment

[LomotheGreat]

"We need to loose some weight"

Context: Partner has always had body issues. He has always been self-conscious about his weight and will berate himself all the time for eating 'snacks.'

Until I had my DD (8 years ago) I was slim. When pregnant, people would say things to me like "you'll spring back into shape as soon as you've had baby." I didn't. I'm in my 40's now, I have a few health issues related to hormones and possibly peri-menopausal. I'm constantly tired. I have little inclination to exercise, and I have changed careers from a job where I was on my feet all day to an office environment where I'm sitting for most of the day.

I notice his eyes looking at my stomach area, and more recently he playfully grabs me in the area where the band of my bra creates a bulges on my back (kind of the back of my armpits).

I have become bigger and I'm very aware of it, I just don't vocalise my self-consciousness.

AIBU to be so hurt by his comment?

I have expressed to him that I am not happy about the comment.

But she says he is focused on his weight so in this instance he will mean we.

Oh cmon. As much as sizes can vary there is a clear size recommendation for dress sizes, dress size isn’t meaningless. A standard size 18 is a 36 inch waist. Pretending that’s a healthy weight size is not going to have anyone beleive you. Most of us are women here, and we know.

@Wildgoat , who measures their waist? The people quoting their dress size, are saying the size of clothes they buy, not their vital statistics.