To order an Indian takeaway while babysitting?

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I’m babysitting for my SIL and brother next weekend. I love doing it and love seeing their kids, but it always leaves me in a bit of a pickle in terms of getting dinner. I try not to order out because I’m losing weight, but this weekend I just want to treat myself.

I love Indian food but live at home and my dad cannot stand the smell of it. My mum thinks if I order it I’m being very rude and it’ll annoy them, but they always offer to pay for one so I don’t know if it’s a bit unreasonable?! How would you feel if your babysitter ordered Indian?

It’s your brother… of course it’s ok!

I wouldn’t do it at a paid gig but this is totally OK

I can't even imagine this being an issue. Do they pay you for babyitting/ When friends/family babysay for us, or vice versa, it was pretty standard to either pay for a takeaway or leave a ready meal. Only ou can decide if its reasonable for them to pay or you to pay, but it is 100% reasonable to be able to order one.

I’d be well pleased, especially if they over ordered so I could heat up leftovers after they left! I’d even pay for it x

why on earth not? genuine question? I wouldn' tblink if my paid babysitter ordered herself a takeaway? I'm genuinely confused anyone would have an issue.

Your mum is being really fucking weird. Can’t imagine caring about this! Throw the wrappers in the outside bin when you’re done, problem solved, no smell. Or offer the get extra for them when they get home 😁

No they don’t pay but I’d not take money for it anyway!! I love seeing their kids and then I just do the same thing as I’d do at home, I sit and watch telly under a blanket 🤣

Even if I was paying a baby sitter it wouldn’t bother me at all knock yourself out but just know my DD loves and Indian so you’d be sharing lol xx

I’d be mortified if my babysitter ordered IndIan…because if they’re babysitting over a meal period I provide food for them

Wouldn’t phase me at all. The last time SIL babysat our DS her teen daughters joined and they all got Dominos as a treat because they deliver to our address but not theirs. I don’t know why it would be an issue?

My mum just thinks because it smells, it’s rude to do because I don’t know if they’re happy with their house smelling!

It will air out it’s not a permanent state, get your Indian and enjoy, you’re doing them a favour

Presumably your brother knows what your mum is like. Tbf my mum also didn't like the smell of curry but I strongly suspect some autistic traits so would explain that.

Just ask your brother if they mind you ordering. Problem solved. Don't tell your mum.

Your parents are weird about the cooking smells. Is it only Indian food they're hung up about? It's completely normal to eat food while you're babysitting.

If you are worried about the smell run it by your brother first of all but I’d have no objections to anyone ordering a takeaway if they were babysitting at my house.

They also hate anything that’s a strong garlic smell

Are you very young? Because this is not a thing adults worry about. At all. If they’re going round to their brothers to watch the kids, they’d just text their brother and say “alright if I order in a cheeky Indian?”

This is not something that would take up any time in anyone’s head.

I don’t think there’s a need to be quite so snarky and rude.

I’d not describe it as “cheeky” because it’s not 2015 anymore. I’m asking because I don’t have kids and thus have never actually used a babysitter before, so what might seem normal to me is actually a massive liberty!

If I'd hired a babysitter and came home to a house smelling of curry, I wouldn't be pleased. Any other takeaway, I wouldn't mind as long as they'd cleared up afterwards.

I’m not hired as such because I’m doing it for free but this is exactly why I asked! Usually I will literally just sit on their sofa and watch telly so I don’t know what’s wrong or right for me to do!

I think your parents issues with curry smell have made you understandably a bit over anxious about this.

it’s fine to do, enjoy! :)

If anyone was looking after DD for free they could order what they liked and help themselves to anything in the cupboards. If I didn't like the smell I'd open the windows the next day (after I'd eaten the leftovers)

Personally my happiness about the free trustworthy childcare from someone who loves my DS would far outweigh the bother of having to open a window to clear a takeaway smell!!

Do you have such a bad relationship with your brother that you can't just ask him if they'd mind?? Maybe they get Indian takeaways all the time!

To be honest I really don’t like having Indian takeaways at home as they do leave the house smelling. So order rarely.

however, if someone was babysitting my kids for free I would be happy for them to order it. I would think it was really polite if they let me know in advance (not asking permission) just in case I had guests the next day.

Just text your brother. Honestly not something you need a mumsnet thread about. I guess you’ve never lived away from home so you’re just used to asking permission to do anything.